Routines. Same things at the same time, so he knows what the deal is, i.e. 8:00 in bed, 8:30 lights out. Same loss of goodies ("punishment") for same thing. He doesn't want to go to bed, loss of TV the next day.
"I hate you". Ask him if he really hates someone who makes his breakfast, takes him to soccer practices, stays up with him at night when he is sick.
One key aspect is not to get confrontational with him. He really doesn't want to behave like that. Give him the chance to think about his behaviour.
All this is typical behavior for kids with these disorders. jimmom is right 100%. Try to avoid confrontation at all costs. Set the consequences and do them 90% of this is about the battle.
When my kids tell me they dont like me I tell them they are perfectly free to find another mother who will let them just do whatever they feel like doing. They dont have to like me, but they cannot be fresh. If you are you need to go and be by yourself the rest of the family doesnt want to hear it.
The boredom.....ADHD symptom and they jsut lose interest in things quickly.
I bet you'll se a change in most of this stuff once you are back on medication.
If you have agood behaviorist they can do amazing things, dont be too discouraged if you had a bad experience. They can help. It is a lot of work on everyones part though.
I have an 8 yr old ds. He is ADHD and Bipolar. We are between dr.'s and currently no meds. This will change in a month when his new dr. will prescribe. He has been on concerta in the past with great success. But we have state paid medical, and it is not covered. And way too expensive for out of pocket.