Impulses on High anyone else? | ADHD Information

We moved 1900 miles away last year and she has not bothered to come once so he is not exposed to her anymore. I think it may be that I told my husband to tell her there are some great hotels in the area, but she is NOT staying with us, even though she knows my paretns come and stay for weeks with us :)
As for the theory that kids are better for other people, I wish that worked, but it does not on my son at all. That is why we can never leave him wtih people. He is a very hard child to deal with it and he is very fast so he can get away from you in a heartbeat and he is the exact same for everyone else as he is for me. I wish that saying where true in my case then I would have a lot more free time :)

How did the party go???

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SOMETIMES KIDS BEHAVE DIFFERENTLY WITH OTHERPEOPLE  . PERHAPS ASKING THIS OTHER EXPERT T O TEST MY THEORY, WHILE YOU GO TO THE RESTROOM WILL HELP .

 I DONT MEAN A LIKE TRICK  TO THE brother -in-law BUT A CHANCE TO SEE HIM DO WHAT HE CAN DO WITH THIS 

  TO PUT UP OR SHUT UP

I KNOW THAT WHEN I GO OUT THERE ARE TIMES THAT   I HAVE NO CONTROLAND HAVE TO JUST WAIT FOR THE IMPULSIVENESS TO PLAY OUT A LITTLE THEN USE LEVERAGE TO   , BUT NOTHING THAT MAKES THEM CRY.

BECAUSE I STILL WANT TO BE APPROACHABLE WHEN DD INSNT ACTING OUT.

THERE WAS MORE TO THIS POST  BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO THE BEGINNING

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My son is only 4 1/2, but we have this problem wherever we go. I have not heard a lecture YET, from family, but I have had confrontations with my husbands family on his behavior. YOu can tell right away my Mother in Law does not like my son. He is way too hyper for her so she defintly prefers our calm 2 year old daughter over him. We just started seeing a psychologist who deals with ADHD all the time and she told me to actually not bring our son in public and I told her it is him or me. I have ADD too so I cna not sit in all day especially with a child who is bouncing off the walls and driving me adn his sister nuts ! I know exactly what you are going through and it is hard and it makes you anxious to be out, but I agree wtih the last post have a glass of wine at the restaurant and inform yoru daughter every time she is "bad" that you are leaving and just walk out to the car till she can behave. This may happen a bunch of times, but it may save you from the "lecture" of your brother in law ! Good luck. Let us know how it turns out.

Meaghan

Thanks for the support and I love the wine idea however after one glass I am  overly mellow almost typsy.  I am obviously not a drinker.

Meaghan it is sad how your mother-in-law is with your son for he does see it and I am sure feels the rejection.  That women should be horse whipped.
My girl 's impulses are on high, she is back to not listening to me and running wild and I am having difficulty controling her.  She just runs  off and is strong willed and wants what she wants.  Going to a store or out to eat she is a wild child and people just stare at us so we stopped doing a lot.  Tommorow we have a graduation party to go to at a resteraunt and I am afraid to go in case she bolts on us and does not listen no matter how many times the rules are reviewed.  My brother -in-law is going to be there and will lecture us on discipline and how we let the child run the show and how ADHD is an excuse and does not exist.  then it will end up him and I getting into it again and me telling him off and leaving anyways so I am planning to stay home with the child.

 Also she has been very crabby and spiteful.   There has been a lot of change contributing first of all new school next year she is going up to 3rd grade, she is still getting used to my new job hours (being in childcare an hour and a half longer), and know she will have new after school childcare come fall (long story).  I am at my wits end and cannot wait until her next psychologist appointment in two weeks.

This time of year is when my son is always a mess as well.  He also gets extremely anxious about upcoming change in his schedule, so as soon as they start talking about moving on to the next grade in school his behavior becomes exactly what you've descibed.

Going from 2nd to 3rd grade was the worst (he was not on meds then either), because they made a huge deal about responsibility and my son knew that he'd never be able to keep up with it.  This year was not as bad, as far as anticipating next year- he had a horrid teacher this year and everyone keeps telling him how nice the 4th grade teachers are.  But just having his schedule change from the structure of the school year to the more relaxed summer schedule is enough to set him off. 

The only thing I've found to work at all is to get super consistent with the discipline (even though I really want to cut him some slack he gets worse if I do that) and alter the reward system to arouse his interest.  Then I avoid going places and let him run wild in the neighborhood- oh, and I take up drinking- my doc actually recommended this.  He said rather then putting me on xanax again, why not try a glass of wine with dinner and see if it wasn't enough to take the edge off.  Of course he pointed out that I should not drink to excess, but I could see his point (and it works!).