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if you outlined what you'd like people could maybe respond to you by pm. Maybe list out some thoughts you'd like people to give voice to.Jillette,
I hope I am doing this right, this is the first message board that I have
ever been on, and the first reply.

You are certainly right, reading these posts does bring it all back. And I
will enjoy doing that.

One problem is that the book that I hope to write is going to be one of
broad guidelines and advice about how mothers got through the
problems raising ADD kids. This board has a lot of people in crisis
writing to it. Some of the replies give good suggestions but I am more
interested in broad additudes and frameworks that made enduring sense.
In my own life my kids were diagnosed before ADD was well known. I had
to feel my way along and often "buck the system" and my own family.
Some things I did worked out-- and they were intuitive choices, some
thing were wrong, and mostly hurt me, sometimes my sons.

I guess I am hoping to ask some mothers to think

What did you do that you are most proud of?
What mistakes did you make you wish you had not made?
How did you do yourself in?

Thanks for replying, and I will get busy reading posts.
Patty
Diane V

I am looking for mothers to brainstorm their own personal story. I would like
them to answer the questions
What did you do that you are most proud of?
What mistakes did you make you wish you had not made?
How did you do yourself in?
Meanwhile I am trying to do the same myself. Since I have 4 ADD sons the
things I did were different, but I suspect there will be certain underlying
themes. In my story and in others mother's stories too.

Thanks for replying
PattyWhat is it you are looking for Patty?  Actually be reading most of these posts will give you what you need . Hi, I am a 60 year old mother of 4 boys with ADD. I myself have also been
diagnosed, and for about 15 years treated for ADD. I strongly suspect my
husband is an undiagnosed case of ADD. When my kids were first
diagnosed this was early days for ADD. Especially here in NH no one had
heard of it, and my family acted as though the whole idea was something
a tarot card reader had told me about. I really had to kind of make things
up as I went along. Reading these posts today brings back a lot of painful
memories, and also makes me so glad that I made it, and that my boys
did too. In fact they have done well.

As I went through Drs, therapists, and so on many times I was told I
should write a book about mothering the ADD ( I am a part time writer). I
never dared. Just never was that confident about my mothering, or my
strategies, just played it from the gut I guess.

Now I am looking back and I am in the earliest stages of writing a book
aimed at mothers of ADD kids. I want to give some soft non scientific
advice to mothers about how to survive and help your child survive
whole.

I would love to interview some moms about their own stories. What is am
looking for is something like what the 12 step progams offer, broad
themes and ideas that give experience, strenth and hope.

What did you do that you are most proud of?
What mistakes did you make you wish you had not made?
How did you do yourself in?

Don't feel you have to write at length (but if you want to go for it)
just ideas off the top of your head are fine.

I will be glad to let you know how I am progressing, if you like, and let
you know how I might quote, use or incorporate what you said/thought.
Thanks
PattT

I have 3 adhd children and I am proud of who they are becomming, I hear so many stories of people who have children that have issues and do not believe in adhd and getting help for them. The meds have played a big role in their success. I know alot of people do not believe in giving these to children.

The mistakes I made is listening to teachers and family members who were negative about adhd.  I feel because I am still going through it sometime I feel burnt out and that bothers me. But every day I pick myself up and go on because I have to. I would do any thing for my children.

. How did you do yourself in? not sure what you mean?