Oh my god, this is me to a fault. Don't you hate it?
You'll obsess over every little thing, that leads to procrastination and then you end up putting out inferior work because you either get fed up and just want it done or you've taken so long that you have no choice.
How ironic, huh? lol
Hey, at least you aren't alone. Welcome to my world.
Count me in the same leaky boat. I used to joke about the same think. I have always been a frustrated perfectionist. John D summed it up perfectly. I tend to get completely immobolized by anxiety when I get behind schedule to far or something is way past disorganized and feels out of control (not as perfect as it could/should be). It then takes a lot of emotional/brain energy for me to get moving again and work on solving the problems.esteem is huge with me .
its the difference between go and stop.
other people can effect my esteem but over the years , im 38
ive learned i must defend my esteem at all costs.
even here a battle with a few apathetic people but ive learned to realize that my zeal for expressing an opion somethimes hurts their esteem .
so here i am with your post thinking how do i explain to this very intelligent person . that good esteem spurs confidence . and that meds are available to those are seeking true diagnosis.
adhd is serious news and has a double stigma . one day you may find yourself thinking OMG IM ADHD and spiral into depression just because you think its a negative thing.
but heres some silver lining stuff.
were the innovators adhd folk im mean einstien, lincoln, the wright brothers . edison ,
look at each of those perfectionists , they just human like you and me.
they probably had many people criticizing them for what seems forever.
but thier confidence in thier work carried them on and thier esteem had to come from inside to truly get through all the the nay says.
i say chance favors those prepared.
and you have come a long way with the coping skills you already have.
success over compensation soimetimes masks adhd , and a stress out dilema can send a struggling adhd into a whirlwind of misdirection .
so there i say stress is a big factor with esteem.
dont over extend yourself while youre so near the final stages of educating yourself. knowing how much you can handel is also a test life throughs at you when you least expect it dont take that test so near to your final education goals.
most freshmen that stress out of college ,
hmm im guessing
most freshmen that stress out of college ,because they get out of class and go hang out , go eat , runn errands , study a little , meet friends at a hang out and then totally stress out about how little time they have left and go to a party knowing they need to reveiew lessons and are stress out even at the party.
for those whom are chillin at the parties and actually enjoy thier college careers
are the one who left thier classes and went striaght to the library and completed thier lessonsand reviews before moving on to the party. they arrive at the parties with less anxietiey and even study just a bit before bed and getting up.
this chance favoring those prepared falls into this .
so when adhd come into play got keep at it even more than the others. our feelings sometimes rise and fall wether we want them to or not. but we can counter that with a good rigid routine . the parties and hang outs are great but their like the dessert of campus life eat too much and it adds up to an opprotunity cost.
if you have adhd dont look at it as a brick wall but rather a hurdel and that running isolated and alone seems pointless . but through in some people in the stands and a coach or two and a trainer and its possible to be a champion
I was once teted and they told me that my IQ was 117-123. The thing is that I dont do badly in the end in terms of university. I am starting my PhD this week and people laugh at me when I tell them that I could have done better at something. Yes I do well, but I do think about how much more I oculd have achieved if I didnt do it last minute, or how much better it would have felt if it wasnt done with so much anxiety. John D really expressed how I feel on a daily basis. The problem is that i finished an exam or paper (im a career student its all I seem to do) and suddenly the feelings arent as strong, so I feel stupid until the next paper and it starts all over again.gugs
if your IQ is above 120 you need to go get this resolved.
the inattentive type sure do beat themselves up on over perfectionism .
meds might be a real boost to you abilities stick with things and then move on to further steps.
i think youre a diamond in the rough
welcome and good luck
ps if nothing else start your day with a cleared off desk
Count me in as a procrastinator (so labeled by my father when I was 8 or 9 years old). Toss in perfectionist and disorganized too... which all inevitabily leads to dissatisfaction over jobs done poorly because I'm in a rush (due to procrastinating until the very last minute) from which easily follows self-criticism and anxiety if I let it get to me.
Yes, but often I procrastinate because I dont think I know what to do. The anxiety stops me from even attempting.Perfectionist..... disorganized...... you are certainly a good candidate for ADD. Are you also a procarstinator?