HELP!! friend of kid with ADHD | ADHD Information

Hello everyone..

I have a friend who son has ADHD and it's really driving me CRAZY

we are only friends but she wants me to take it alittle further with her. My problem is that instead of helping her son the WHOLE family babies him like a two yr old and it seems the problem isnt getting any better. The young man is 5 now and he's already in a special program at school because he having trouble

speaking, writing and reading.. She gives him everything he wants just so he doesn't start having fits. How do I advise her for additional help because at the rate she's going he will be so far behind of his peers.

Thanks

jay

 

 

mrjohnson39266.4556828704

its ok too speak calmly   saying his name      finding ways to take time outs is an art. not always the best way   to just  say  " go to time out".

 sometimes  being a calm person near the floor with a book  accomplishes the same thing    getting calm   that which is confussed.

using verbal commands dont always work with adhd kids once thier wound up  . so using visual cues  like pointing and nodding . and the absence loud confussing group yelling over eachother does nothing but stim them even further.

so getting everyone else quite and moving along with the evening stucture will always be crutch you can lean on. threats and immtimidation are only good as long as stays a threat.   adhd can latch on to behaviors too  like hitting and rageing , but those are only coping skill behaviors    and role play  goes a long way in redirecting them before they reach that point the next time.

 

but hey i dont have valid advice   im just sharing some thouhgts like most people here  im not  credible professional so take what i say as     take it or leave it.

ommas39266.7373842593

If the son has adhd has he been professionally diagnosed?

If so, has she considered medication?

My son at 5 was diagnosed but we did not start meds until he was almost 7. Biggest mistake of my parenting years. He would never have suffered if I only had the guts to start meds.

The one thing I can say is that I was consistant. He knew what to expect from me. He loves structure and routines. He feels very secure, still does when in a structured environment. There are no guessing, no pushing buttons, etc. He knows exactly where he stands.

I would recommend a structured environment, a consistent routine - same time for dinner, going to bed, bath, waking up, etc.

I hope this is of help!!

How do you know he has ADHD? Is he on meds? Is he in behavior therapy( recommended)? I would be supportive of her child and his issues, since at 5 a diagnosis is not certain.

Well the same advice we give people who dont get family support. Gather what information you can and direct her toward it. You cant MAKE her accept it or read it.