My husband and I both in our 60s have raised our 2 grandsons for 11 yrs. (our son there father lived w/us also) Our son just remarried a little over a year his wife has never raised children and the child w/ADHD and she really clash--she does all the punishing and is very hard on this child who is 12--He has caused problems in with there marriage--so now he is back w/us and we don't have the problems w/him that they did--but the problem is now his parents don't seem to want to have anything to do w/him--and that breaks my heart--my husband and I don't know what to do at this point--we have talked to them a couple of times but they don't think we know what were talking about and there way is better--we feel it is the new wife!!we feel we will be raising him forever--I guess that is fine as I was the only mother in there lives for the 11 years--any suggestions? --any other grandparents in this situation?
bless you.
there are some grand perents here so stick around because we need people here in your situation too . wether your the firsy grand parent you wont be the last .
welcome
I agree and welcome you also. Thank god he has you both, He is a lucky child. I feel terrible he has to be away from his Dad and brother. I dont have really any advice, but do welcome you.My daughter with ADHD has a problem with her Grandmother, so I applaud you that you are open minded with an open heart.
With my experience, I sense a feeling of dissatisfaction from my mother in law because of my daughter's hard time with language, or expressing herself. She has labeled her a liar and thinks I use her ADHD as an excuse. My daughter is very nervous around her because she has been hard and judgmental. I personally have decided to limit and supervise any gathering that may involve my mother in law and my daugher as she is only 10.
Your precious grandson will always remember how kind and loving you and your husband have been to him through all the trials these kids have to go through at school and in general.
Your son is taking the easy route and missing out on a wonderful experience that has personally given me insight to tolerance and compassion for human beings. He is also missing out on watching his son grow and learn. I hope you can bring this family together, but don't risk all the good work you are doing by having narrow minded individuals leaving a negative feeling in his memory book.
God bless and best of luck
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