Strong rages are not that all uncommon but they very much need to be attended to. The causes can range from simple behavioral issues to adhd, bipolar, substance abuse and a number of causes some of which are quite serious.
I would suggest that anyone with a child experiencing a level of out of control behavior that does this kind of damage seek professional consultation. This could be from a therapist or psychologist who works in this arena to child psychiatrists. Start at the level where you feel comfortable. The main thing is to not let these behaviors go unattended. The methods of dealing with them can vary based on the causes. The advice from happyrock is good and there are a number of behavior management books on the market that can help make the child responsible for their behaviors. My concern is that it may be something serious that needs to be caught and treated. Once you have some idea of what you are dealing with then you can get an idea of how to go about handling it.
Raising a child is never easy. They seem to never come out with an owner's manual at least I never got one with mine.
Diz
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Our son hasn't put holes in walls but I have a number of friends who had ADHD children who have. When calm, they make the child help with the repair. Our physchatrist has told these families to call the police because they need to learn that this physical reaction is not acceptable. In both of these cases, the holes came first, then in subsequent episodes, they became physically aggressive towards the parents - knives, bats and fists. Get in early and find out how the police will support you if this happens. The teenager doesn't react like this elsewhere because they know that it is not acceptable. So by not stopping this behaviour we tell our kids that it is acceptable and it will only esculate.
In one episode with our 13 year old son where he was raging, I rang a social worker for help and she told me to calmly go in and tell him that the behaviour was not acceptable and that if he didn't stop in 10 minutes, I would ring the police and ambulance because he needed to have help at the hospital. I set the timer and walked outside. At 9 1/2 minutes he stopped. When he had calmed down and had cleaned up all the mess and destruction, we talked about it. Anything he broke he had to go to the shop and with his own money replace them.
I also watched the news with him that showed a boy going to prison for threatening his parents. We discussed how this could be him. Although he laughed it off he did take it in.
Also just a thought - could this be his meds? I know that with prozac and respidal our son would go into aggressive rages for 6 hours at a time.
Make sure you write down your observations. Is something happening at school that could be setting him off?