Is My Son ADHD?????? | ADHD Information

We stay away from all processed foods, red dyes and I try to feed him all organic.

We do have an appointment in the AM with a psychologist... I do for him to discuss what to do...

But like I said he is above avarage on the energy and bad behavior area...This mom is loosing her mind... I would call him Spirited...x5...smile....

 

thanks for all of your posts... please more...

welcome. He sounds a lot like my younger daughter (no ADHD). Some hope, she is now 5 1/2 and WAY better!

I also agree that a trip to the doctors is a good first step. It's always good to get the ball rolling in case something is going on and he doesnt begin to "outgrow" some of these behaviors. Although I think they will lessen somewhat. 3 and 4 are such difficult ages. Aarons mom has GREAT advice. I also did everything she does. Time outs were a joke for us too, she'd laugh at me, or just say "I'm getting up", she pushed me to my full limit every second of every minute of every day. She jumped off furniture, she climbed EVERYTHING. The NUMBER 1 thing is do not engage him. When he is acting out, he gets his consequence.......end of story. No discussion until he calm and polite. NONE. I had days I spent literally hours putting her back in her room, she'd run out, I'd (sometimes drag her) back. No talking until she was calm. Once she "got it", that I wasnt talking to her and she was NOT coming out of that room until I saw appropriate behavior we slowly started to get better. He wants to make you mad. I really believe she needed me to show her what was good behavior. Thats where the praise worked. Once she knew no reaction from the "bad behavior", meaning you are ALONE until this stops, I could say WOW you were so great during dinner, by sitting the whole meal and not being fresh, I am so proud of you, how about a treat for dessert. Rather than take it away when she was fresh (she was always fresh).

I also concur with the thought on sensory issues. It's amazing how calming some of the techniques for sensory processing can be.

Mine STILL hates dirty hands, but has gotten past the hair brushing, we cut her hair short and taught her how to brush it herself, this all helped a LOT. She still will not keep her clothes on if they are wet. Althouhg she doesnt "freak out" over these things quite so much.  It would be worth researching. Great book on this is http://www.out-of-sync-child.com/. This is the link to her site. Very, very informative. I got it from the library if you dont want to buy it.

Diane V39304.1083680556I noticed the sensory thing too becuase of not liking to get his hands dirty or his shirt wet. My son also hates the feel of some things, feels the cold intensely, etc. I would have a doc look at him, but also the marble system does work well.

4 is very young to get an ADHD diagnosis, and it can only be done by a Dr. Preferably a Board Certified Child Psychiatrist. It is extremely possible his issues are caused by immaturity, and he will calm down with age. Diet can also play a huge role in behavior....does he drink red kool aid? Eat McDonalds? You never know what foods can cause issues, for us it is corn, anything with corn or corn syrup.

It is also possible that he has a sensory disorder, and the things you mentioned do seem to corelate with that.....I would ask for a referral to a Psychiatrist from his ped.

Hi I am new to the board....

I am at my wits end... I have a 4 year old boy who we are having extreem parenting problems with. He will not listen to us, when he gets mad he hits me, throws things, kicks things. To disipline him I count 1, 2, 3 sometimes it works... most the time he doesnt care if I take his favorite things away because he locks into what he is angry about and wont stop. Time out is joke.. he laugs at me....

He has so much energy....he will stop for things he likes....but from 7am to 9pm he is going.

One minute he is an angle and the next he is the devil...He dosnt like to get his hands dirty, or his shirt wet from the comb when I comb his hair. He has devient behaivor like smashing his cousins airplaine because he didnt want her to play with it. I tell him to finish is dinner and he says no so he takes his food and throws it at me...or at the dogs. and Laughs when I yell at him.. or dont yell at him...

I can scream, shout, cry, laugh, hit, any reaction you can think of and he just laughs at me.... it is as though he is saying F you mom.....

It has gotten worse over the last few months. I know that structure is so much better for him. When it is a free for all he is not good.

I am worried about my son...I look at him and see his little mind going a milliion miles minute.... how can I help him.....

His first in home child care provider told me she thought he was ADHD this is when he was around 2........

Thanks

 

 

 

Roccosmom,

I am sorry you are having such a rough time.  It is difficult to know whether or not his issues are purely due to ADHD - especially at that age.  It could be a combination of problems that include or don't include ADHD.  Such aggressive behavior suggests (to me) something like ODD (oppositional defiant disorder) is involved....  Of course, I can't tell you any of this for sure, but it definitely sounds like the little guy (and you) could use some help.

There are a lot of moms (and dads) on this board who can make good recommendations about what type of doctor to see and how to evaluate him.  I am sure they will post some good advice soon.

Best wishes to you and your family through this!

No one can really diagnose adhd but a doctor.  It might be worth taking him to see one.  Three and four years old were the worst for me and my son.   One thing you can do is look at the marble system thread and maybe try something like that.  Positve reinforcement goes a long ways.  Point out to him when he does something right.  Don't overdo it, but praise does help.  Also, this is the hardest and I still struggle to do it continually.  Don't get upset. don't yell, try to stay as calm as you can when he is misbehaving.  If it seems he is just trying to get a reaction from you don't react.  If my son threw food at me I would just take his food not give him anything else to eat and send him to his room.  Time outs don't work very well with mine either.  I tried alot when he was your son's age but it was a pain, so he goes to his room.  This gives us both a chance to calm down and deal with what he did later when we are both calmed down.  Mine is a thrower.  Throws his toys etc... when he is upset.  If he throws his toys and they land in the hallway they are mine for however long I deem fit.  Sometimes he gets them back a day later, sometimes a week.  I kept one for several months.  He didn't necessarily miss them until I gave them back and he is learning to not throw them in the hallway.  Just have to work on the whole throwing thing altogether.  I hope this helped.  I am sure others here will tell you more helpfull things. 

Diane V oh how I shook my head while reading your story....he just baddgers me and pickes on me... I know poor mom... Its very hard not too engage... I really feel sorry for my son... I know this is not normal behavior... right....???? We will be having some tests done on Monday to see where he compares to other children his age.

Hopefully some answers to our questions..

 

Thanks for all of your replys...

Andrea

my daughter didnt pick on me per se, but she was for sure trying to be in control. Without engaging, she lost control. It is extremely difficult, especially after a long trying day, but worth it.  No matter how you make out on Monday this way of discipline WILL help. All kids tryo for control when little, some just try harder than others! I was going to say the same thing, sounds like my son he has ADHD and ODD as well as a sesory thing. He hated the tags on clothes, the seam on socks had to be just right. he has gotten a lot better as he gets a little older. Cody was RX about 5 when he kept getting in trouble at school. sounds like you might want to get him checked out. Welcome to the forum it is a great place to vent, get support and to know you are not alone.Yes.. more than anything it is that he wants the control...and I am so tired...He seems to LOCK IN to things and wont stop... until I reach my boiling point.. I have been trying 123Magic... I am very consistant with it..even though he laughs when I take things away....ah.. parenting.. know one said it would be easy...

My son seems to get fixated on things, like for instance if he snuck a piece of gum to school he will constantly ask about it or complain about it until someone gives in. I have found that the counting seems to calm me down before I react or over react cause I am fedup.