My 8 year old daughter, like most others with adhd and odd, has very poor social boundries and inappropriate behavior.
Now that she is becoming a "young lady" she has been much more focused on sex and is very inappropriate about it. She will tell anyone and everyone "I know what sex is!" and makes other similar comments. She has also been touching "down there", which is very normal, but she has a very hard time remembering to ONLY do that in private. We have talked with her and explained that there are things she needs to keep to herself and private, but that doesn't help much.
I'm sure most of her behavior is due to the adhd and odd. We have talked to her psycologist and she thinks she is "fine", but we still aren't sure how to handle the behavior when it occours.
I was sure there would be a book somewhere about "sex ed for children with behavior problems", but have had no such luck in finding one.
Has anyone been through this? Any advice? HELP!
Even if someone could point me in the right direction of a website or book to help us better understand and handle the situation I would really appriciate it.
Keep in mind that with ADHD, comes an immaturity issue. These kids tend to be about 1/3 behind thier peers in emotional maturity. So your 8 year old acting like she is 5 or 6 years old and needing to be coached more than other children is not unusual. Find reasons to praise her for the correct behavior.
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My pediatrician recommened "The Care and Keeping of You" for next year when my daughter turns 8. I haven't read it yet, but thought I'd mention it.The only thing I've found is to remind them over and over that certain behavior/comments are not appropriate to make in public. I wish I knew of something that worked more quickly.
Some of it is that they really don't understand that everyone else knows what sex is too. They think they've just found out about something new and crazy. My 9 yr. old son honestly thinks I won't have heard all the slang terms for certain body parts. Then of course he'll say them somewhere totally inappropriate and be truely suprised when I yell at him.
What I've always done when my daughter, or one of my daycare kids forgets about the "only in private" rule is to ask them if they're tired, would they like to go lay down for a little while? It's enough to remind them that it is not something we do in public, but it doesn't embarrass them or call too much attention to it. Also keep in mind that it is a mindless thing for some kids- they don't always even realize what they're doing.
My girl is almost 8 and boys and that are farthest from her mind and she has ODD too. I would bring it up with the psychologist, did she say if where she got this from? Good Luck.