I’m going to explode... | ADHD Information

I have a 9 yr. old foster girl and her 11 yr. old sister. I've had these 2 girls for 3 1/2 yrs. I also had their 1/2 bro. for 2 1/2yrs. till a few mo. ago.

Because of many error's in paper work from the psy. to the court, the children have been removed from this Dr.s care and have been both court ordered for further testing.

The 9 yr. old has ADHD and Bipolar. The 11 yr. old has ADD and Bipolar. The 9 yr. old is so hyperactive it is wearing me out. She is irritable, demanding of my time, clumsy, hyperactive, has attention difficulties, manipulative behavior, can't follow directions, a very bad memory, extremely loud, compulsively lies, and is extremely defiant. She can't stay on task and she talks endlessly.

They are going back to school this Monday, and they have been off their med's for 1 mo. We have had 2 meetings with this new Psy. and we have one more to meet in a couple of weeks.

I had wanted to adopt these 2 girls, but the stress they have given me over the years is endless. When they started the typical med. for ADHD, it actually made them more agressive and their behavior got worse.

After Concerta, Statera, Adderall, etc., they started Stratera. This had worked wonders for them. They were calmer, more relaxed, and in better overall moods.

I fought tooth and nail in the beginning to keep them off meds, but it got to be to much for any one person to handle.

They had been on for almost a year now, but since they were court ordered to wean off, I have been in Hell.

I have gained over 50 lbs. in the past 3 1/2 years, and I'm so afraid to give them up because I do love them. The 9 yr. old is will not stop jumping around and talking. She will not follow directions, it takes her over an hour to eat a simple meal, she can't do any of her chores, and she picks trouble with everyone.

I am pushing her away every moment. When we go to the store, she runs everywhere. I have to put her on a leash. She angers her sister and my other 8 yr. old foster girl and gets them both in a bad mood.

The Court will not seperate these 2 girls, even though the 1/2 bro. and her 1/2 sister cannot stand her. I can't take her anywhere because she just causes trouble and talks so loud she gives me a headache and tries to run around and touch everything.

If they weren't starting school, I would have asked for temporary respite care for her. I'm so stressed out, I feel sick. When I see her come near me, I push her away.

I've told the Theropist and the Child care agency what is happening. They said they have to wait for the testing to be finished and presented to the court.

I can't wait till she goes to school and the prof. staff gets a load of her. They will help, I'm sure.

Last year in her IEP meeting, both her teacher and her special aid teacher said that the 9 yr. old should be in a full day special ed. class. The CASA worker dissagreed and said we would talk about it this year. Once they see how she acts, I hope she will be able to go in a class that can help her better.

I'm so frustrated, I don't know what to do. I can't take it much longer. I hate to give her back, but I'm at my wits end. I've been having chest pains and I'm becoming afraid for my health.

Any suggestions????

The reason she became worse with the adhd med is because she is bipolar. You have to treat the bipolar first, then go back and treat the adhd.

May I ask why the bipolar isn't being treated with meds and then you can begin treating the adhd? She can have a successful day as long as the bipolar is treated first.

Bipolar and ADHD is common. The professionals know how to treat it. Both you and she are suffering. She is about to suffer even more when she goes to school. We all know she will be in trouble and punished all day. That is so wrong when it is treatable and she can have a very happy and successful day and all can enjoy her and get along.

Why isn't the doctor you are seeing treating the bipolar with meds and then adding the adhd once the bipolar is taken care of???

Please, tell the doctor! If this doctor doesn't know this, then you need to find a doctor that understand both BIPOLAR and ADHD.

The poor little girl to be pushed away. I know it get's frustrating and you have a lot on your plate, but she does need you!

Keep us posted!!