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We all have people who don't 'get' you and for whatever reason don't like you without ever knowing or even trying to know you. They just don't like you for whatever reason.
What do you do with that person?
Do you rise above it and ignore them? Confront them and find out why they don't like you? Just figure that the person is an turd and the world has to have a certain number of turds? Or do you find a way to irritate the crap out of them strictly for your own amusement?
I'm curious.
Back info- I've got a person on another board that has never met me (I've met many people on that board face to face), and has made up her mind that I'm some sort of whiny spoiled moral reprobate.
My gut tells me to poke her with a sharp stick. But that could just be the little devil sitting on my shoulder.
I don't think that the internet enemy syndrome has to do with ADD. I think it has to do with being opinionated, LOL. And I've got lots of them and they're the only ones that count.
i'll jump in on this topic if you don't mind...this is quite interesting to me
as i deal with this on a constant basis.
i have a ton of trouble picking up on other people's intent or meaning
rather it be verbal or non-verbal. personally, i would say that this person
is just being a jerk...but who knows? a lot of help i am.
generally i try and ignore it...i hate confrontation. there's the part of me
that wants to lunge at them like a rabid wolverine, yet the other part of
me would rather not deal with it...ESPECIALLY when it comes to work
stuff...i feel like if i say anything i am just whining and i will lose my job.
of course, my wife laughed when she read the part about irritating the
crap out of them for my your own amusement....i do that A LOT...luckily i
have a face that shows no expression so i can say things to people and
they have no clue if i am joking or serious, so i get by with a lot of crap
that others don't....great topic btw.Right off the bat, that got my hackles up, and not because I'm related to you, either.
Unless the emoticon is yours, that pretty much sums up the attitude for me this person is dishing out. *sigh* I wish I could really swear on this board, like I do in real life. I'd fill in some lovely words about the passive-aggressive BS that this wretch is trying to dish out.
Are they a regular poster? Do they do this to other people? A couple other people? Just you? Just you on particular subjects? When the moon is full? If the moon is full, they're a werewolf and not responsible for their actions. (Sorry. I do that sometimes.)
ADD&Proud, after reading the person's response to your post, it's my sense that this person loves to hack and slice at people with words, and that this person also derives pleasure and/or energy out of confrontation. In other words, it's what turns them on.
If you get turned on by the same thing...then go ahead and attack back! Me, I don't care to waste time with such people. Another thing I've found with people like this....responding, no matter how clever and quick witted (and right!) you are, will only give them satisfaction and encouragement--neither of which I care to do.
[QUOTE=lanelise] Depends. If they leave me alone after making it known
they don't like me, I leave them alone. If they go on the offensive, I
usually shred them and let someone else mop up.Had one on one of my
other boards that went after me. Finally, I decided logic was not going to
be the answer, so I had to go the heavy sarcasm route. If I remember
correctly, I finally got rid of them by being so sickly sweet, they couldn't
stand it.Most of the other board members I was friends with didn't like
them either, but weren't really willing to get out the wood chipper for this
jerk. They'd just tell them things like, "We all try to get along here...."
Blah, blah, blah. I went for the wood chipper.Very, very sweet in an
extremely sarcastic way. Couldn't miss it. But it really hacked them off
because I stopped playing by their rules.Took about two days to get rid of
them. And I stalked them through every thread on that board making
these syrupy comments. *sigh* Good times. Goooooooood times.Am I
evil? Yes I am.
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I have quite a few internet enemies... is this an ADD symptom??
Mine almost all have to do with a specific "parenting choice" I find
atrocious though and people get super duper defensive of it. On that
topic, I use facts and scenarios. But everything else gets humorous
sarcasm til the end.
Hey cuz. lanelise really is my cuz. I told her 'bout this place. Okay, here is a copy and paste of the issue in question. The thread topic is how do you let go of anger and being pissed off.
This is me.
How do you let go of anger after you have been pissed off, fired up or enraged by someone or something?Do you confront
Deep breathe
Depends on what it is that caused the anger. If it's something that someone said, I first consider whether I'm pissed off because what they said might or might not be true. If it's true or might be true I do some soul searching. If it's not true then I just figure that they're entitled to their stupid ass opinion and that they obviously don't really know me and go on. To try and rebut or change their opinion would be pointless.
I usually don't confront unless the confrontation would solve or fix anything. Or if the person is close enough to me to matter then I will make my feelings known.
Don't really hang on to anger so it is not a problem
I try not to. Anger is like, you know, bad karma.
Seriously how do you say goodbye to hurtful or pissy things in your life?
I had a problem with a person that was really causing some resentment on my part. This person was not going to change and the drama that the relationship caused wasn't worth it. I had to take a soul searching look at myself and ask whether or not this person was adding anything positive to my life. They weren't. I decided that the friendship was not worth it and life was too short to surround myself with people that didn't return positive energy.
I would suggest that you figure out if the hurtful or pissy things are coming from slights or wrongs done to you by another person or are they your issues. Figure out the source. Why are you hurt and pissed off? Once you figure out the real reasons (and this requires some honesty on your part), the answer on how to let go of the resentments will probably be pretty clear. This is the mean person's reply. Her response doesn't sound all that bad on this one but it is snarky I think. And it seems that every time I post something she has something snarky that she posts right after me. This is typical of her responses every time I post. I usually get on a messageboard and type out a bazillion paragraph post, blathering on about bullsh*t nobody's going to read anyway.
So is it just me or am I reading it right? She is taking pot shots at me. Depends. If they leave me alone after making it known they don't like me, I leave them alone.
If they go on the offensive, I usually shred them and let someone else mop up.
Had one on one of my other boards that went after me. Finally, I decided logic was not going to be the answer, so I had to go the heavy sarcasm route. If I remember correctly, I finally got rid of them by being so sickly sweet, they couldn't stand it.
Most of the other board members I was friends with didn't like them either, but weren't really willing to get out the wood chipper for this jerk. They'd just tell them things like, "We all try to get along here...." Blah, blah, blah. I went for the wood chipper.
Very, very sweet in an extremely sarcastic way. Couldn't miss it. But it really hacked them off because I stopped playing by their rules.
Took about two days to get rid of them. And I stalked them through every thread on that board making these syrupy comments.
*sigh* Good times. Goooooooood times.
Am I evil? Yes I am.