Lola,
When you get to court, request that your gs get a comprehensive neurological evaluation. I doubt that the judge would refuse. Offer to get family counciling and anything else the court may request. Let them know that you are more than willing to do whatever has to be done. Let them know that you are very worried about your gs's condition.
thank you granny fran, i will do this at the next meeting, i have wrote the words down so i dont forget, my gransons mum has just phoned me and said she talked to him on monday and he said he was crying saying nanny never hit i was telling lies but they wont listen to me, i am going to see him at 5 and i will ask him if this is true in front of the socil worker so she hears it then i can call her as a witness, he is wanting to tell the truth now and no one will listen to him.
i want to thank every one again for there coments as it is helping me, and the advice i am going to use.
Can he be reevaluated by another pediatric psych? Do you believe he believes what he is saying? If so, I would think there is another mental health issue going on.
Get him reevaluated. I would want him home to take care of; he is too young to be there!
i want him home but they will not let him now until i prove he is telling lies, he will not tell the truth, so they will not let him home as yet, they are looking to place him with another member of the family that dont know him.
thank you for the replies some one must have gone thjrough what i am going through
My grandson came to live with me when he was 2 and a half years old for reasons I don’t want to go into. He still see’s his mum as often as he wants to, how ever his dad dumped him at the age of four. At this young age he was a handful, he was at a nursery school that the social services arranged, this was good for me as I had a rest, and good for him to be with other children, he went to speech therapy as he was late in talking, he was showing to be very bright but very behind on most things, he was also showing me that he had A.D.H.D. but no one believed me, heck I am only a mum of 3 and brought up a son with A.D.H.D. every thing is always blamed on the back ground the way the child is brought up. My son ended up away at school, I did not want this for my grandson, but I wanted some one to listen to me, he was stealing, making himself sick, and the lies were getting worse, he would stand in front of me and say black was white and would not change his story even when found out. He would stand there and cry if he had to, to convince you he was telling the truth, I asked for help again and again but did not get any, in the end I had to do some thing for my grandson so I put him into care, but I done it in a way that they could not say no. I took him to school and phoned social services up and said I was not picking my grandson up, they took him into care he was put on the at risk register, it was the only way that I could get help, not a very nice way, but it had to be done for my grandsons sake, and yes he got the help I wanted for him that was needed. Then I had to prove I was fit person to have him back home. He was put on Ritalin, and attended various sessions with out workers. But they stopped after a few weeks. This calmed him down, but his lies did not stop, and the temper tantrums started to get worse. A little bit about him, he is a strange little boy, he does not mix with children his own age, plays well with younger children because he can manipulate them, and adults will say he is very well mannered. He would win an Oscar for his acting. He will tell you what you want to hear. He listens to what is being said and will tell you what he thinks you want to hear, if you ask him a question he is very good and will answer with what he has already heard.
He is now 10 and back in care why? Can I first say that the School is aware that he tells lies; I have been to the school about his behavior, and also in the office with the head teacher about his lies? The school was aware of him accusing my son of hitting him and knew that this was untrue. After one of the meetings with the school is was agreed that I take him and pick him up from school for his own safety, this was because he has no stranger danger, and one point told myself and the police about a man out side the school coming up to him and talking to him, this was not as it was portrayed, the man was a father picking up his children.. also because of things he done and said there was other children from a bigger school waiting out side with sticks to hit him, we never got to the bottom of the reason why as my grandson would not tell us the truth, the other boys were punished by there school but I feel that this has not ended. on the 17th of July we had words before he went to school, I went into the school and explained that he was on one so they were aware of his mood, then later that morning I had a phone call to say he told the school I had hit him with a stick, there was a mark on his leg; the police took a statement from him and from me 2weeks later,. He has been in care for 7 weeks now I have seen him twice in that time for 1 hour under supervision in a garden center café, I gave him his mobile so I could phone him, on the first phone call he said he was sorry and did not know why he said what he said, but was scared to tell the truth, I told him I would phone back that night at 9 30 and that I loved him, and not to worry. I then phoned the police and social services, his phone was then taken off him and put into a drawer, he knew were it was and waited near by for me to phone him. when I did he said he was upset and did not like it were he was and wanted to come home, I said unless he tells the truth I cant do any thing, told him to turn the phone off and put it back into the drawer, on Wednesday the 29th of august I phoned the police and complained about the length of time they are taking to decide weather to prosecute, the police woman said she would look into it and phone me back. When she phoned me back later that day it was to inform me nothing had been done but she had made arrangements for the case to be seen by the c.p.s. and would phone me back with the result before 5 o’clock the following day being the 30th august, the result is I am going to be summons to court for some thing I did not do. No one will let me talk to him about the matter, although he has said that he is scared to tell the truth now. So it’s up to me to prove that he is a liar and that this is a condition of his A.D.H.D. and will not change.
Since all this has happened members of the family that do not know or understand my grandson have given there views to the social worker, the social worker to date has not contacted the members of family that do know my grandson, the social worker has also repeated things I said to her in confidence about a member of the family, that wanted my grandson to live with them, so I gave my reasons why he should not go there, which was in turn told to them. Now because of this the family has been pulled apart, I will also add that when I took on my grandson no one else wanted him or has in any way helped me to bring him up I have done this on my own, I have gone to my younger sister when I needed advice, she has had my grandson for a week while I went away, but did say on my return she would not have him for that long again. now how ever I am classed as a bad person yet again, but I still love him and want him home were he belongs, the ironic thing is the police woman told me if I had said I did hit him I would have got a caution and he would be home now, but why should I lie? I am now out of work because of this as my job involves being around vulnerable people. my grandson has also accused my son of hitting him this was proved to be lies, and before that he threatened a friend of mine he would say that he had hit him if he did not get his own way. I must just add that I do not give in to my grandson and quite often he will shout and scream and has been known to smash his bed room up, there is no punishment that works. I have tried them all.
There is a lot more to my grandson’s behavior but it would take up to much room i could write a book.