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For sure take care of yourself. You're no good to either of you if you're at your wit's end.

Dont settle, if you think a better diagnosis is needed, request the full evaluation.

thanks I was hopeful and still am somewhat. All my daughters scores went down though. So I can only assume she's not getting what she needs from school. I do have a diagnosis and am going to push HARD from here. I plan to hire an advocate this year and with their help push them as hard as I can to get her up to reading at grade level and smaller environment.(resource room). They've reconfirmed her NLD and ADHD diagnosis (not that I questioned it) and mentioned meds for focus. Well since there's NO WAY I'll put her back on stimulants they'll have to accomdate her differently. Soooooooo here we go. I tried to get them to give her a final schedule and let her come to school today before the first day to ease her anxiety, they never even called me back.

Thanks everyone.

Diane - I'm so sorry about the bad report.  You were optimistic, too, over the summer. (hugs) Atleast you have a report with information.  I have a diagnosis of ADD innatentive from a therapist my son hates, and a diagonis of anxiety and maybe, maybe not ADD from a psychiatrist my son likes.

  I cancelled the additional tests for my son because they weren't even going to do a neuropsych. 

I guess we just have to take it a day at a time.  I'm hoping this psychiatrist can get to the bottom of things. If he wants additional tests I hope he orders them.

Yes, June is coming. 

I have to see how bad this week gets but I"m going to wait till next week, then after my son's apt. call the psychiatrist for an apt.  I need some coping skills to get me through this year - yoga is great and, I'd be more of a mess without it, but it's not enough right now.

oh rswf I'm so sorry. I know how long you've been worrying about this and how hopeful you were too. .

I hope you can get this worked out so you dont have another bad year. I am really routing for you.

 

We start tomorrow. Got a not so good neuropsych eval so I am panicking, already school is not calling me back so here we go.

It'll be June soon won't it?

  I was so hopefull.  He left today actually happy.  He ate breakfast, was joking, was really good.

I just called home. He said school "sucked". The kids are bad, the teachers are bad. Oh, this is kind of funny.  He said the bus was bad - he couldn't get a seat. He is the first kid on the bus.

He just sounded so depressed.  So I said, well, you can talk to the Dr. - he said, he doesn't do anything and I don't need therapy.

He has an apt. with the psychiatrist next week.

 

I'm so sorry to hear this.  My heart breaks for you and your son.  I hope he will open up to what is happening to make him hate it so much.Hi Im new to this but reading your posts its great to know youre not alone My son 8.5 had bben on Ritalin for 4 years and did great  however in the past 3 weeks his anxiety levels over everything has thrown him overboard had to stop the ritalin put him on resperadal hoping he doesnt fall asleep in class or worse act on one of huis anxieties all day I/m waiting for my phone to ring and here those awfull words "We have a prblem come down to the school"

Oh Diane - is your daughter in a public school?  Aren't they mandated by law to accomodate you?  Good luck with the advocate.

I so support your decision to not start stimulants.  You know your daughter best.

I truly believe our kids will be allright. Sometimes I think conventional education is not right for our kids, but not all of us can homeschool.

The reason I cancelled all those tests is because they were ordered by the pediatrician as a second opinion to the first therapist who recommonded meds.

The psychiatrist did not seem to think they were needed.  They weren't even going to be administed by a psychologist - they had social workers.  He was going to have another medical exam - which he doesn't need.  He is seeing a growth specialist - his only problem - and he has never ever ever had any other medical problems. They would have been a waste of time, only aggrevating my son.  If the psychiatrist wants more tests, he'll order them.

As I observed my son last night, I am convinced the new psychatrist is right - I think it's definately an anxiety dissorder.  My son opened up to me yest.  It's not that bad.  My son can't handle change at all.  They changed some rules, his locker is kind of far from his homeroom, the schedule is different.  My son was never good with rolling with the punches.

Although his main buddies are not in his classes, he does have some friends in his class.  Funny thing - he told me he has a bad math class - he says, "I'm the best student in the class so what does that tell you."

There is one kid in in his Spanish class that has ADD.  My son knows him from elementary school.  They are already sitting together, and from what my son tells me, fooling around. (can you see a seat change in the future?_

Anyway - why I think it is anxiety dissorder - my son as trying so hard yest.  He was exhausted.  We went to Office Depot to pick up supplies.  He was a mess - very uncomfortable - didn't want to make eye contact with any other kids, very nervous. Kind of snappy and irritible - couldn't wait to leave.

When we got home, he had me sign all the forms.  He actually had a system - put all the forms together on the table - made separate piles - really organized.

So, I think what happens is that he has no coping skills - first therapist said that - my son can't handle the anxiety and shuts down.  I think the executive function problems are a combo of immaturity, not caring. etc. etc.

 

oh yeah I can understand. My daughter gets overwhelmed she completely shuts down, and it is so hard to pull them back up. Every year I try to avoid that downslide of anxiety and feeling fo being overwhelmed for her.

Good for your son for having his whole system to make sure you did everything right..... I LOVE it . I give up on school trying help my daughter be organized, they are NOT going to do it. I have to do it with her. We have about 15 folders this year. One for each thing separate. I dont want homework with send home papers or notices. Nor do I want her assignments all mixed together, she gets all mixed up. Her and I will sort all of this out at home. I can only do form home what I can do, and I am contatcing advocates right now to help me strong arm them inot (at minimum) getting her reading up to grade level. This is holding her back in all her other subjects. I think I partly need the advocate for my own peac of mind. I can't get all caught up in every issue with school again all year, it spills over to our whole life.

I tried to get school to let her come up there either Friday or yesterday to see where her classes are, get her final schedule, possibly meet a couple of teachers, they never even called me back.

Sounds like your sons day asnt as bad as he said. Some of this is probably defensive for him and once he came home calmly and absorbed the day in his mind he could talk about it better.

I think that is a good idea to get an advocate to help you.  I was so wiped out last year.  When the Dr. told me to shift the responsibility to my son, it gave me permission to stop running around like crazy. I haven't even contacted the guidance councelor.  We left it that we would schedule a cluster meeting with all the teachers at the start of school.  I'm listening to the Dr. and just waiting. 

I don't understand why the school did not call you back.  Are there any remedial classes held at the school?  What about hiring a reading tutor?

If meeting the teacher ahead of time will help your daughter and the school knows she has a special need, I can't understand why they would not comply.  It sounds like you have documentation regarding a diagnosis.  What is wrong with the school?

 

 

 

 

It's middle school, remedial reading should have been dealt with before now, but it hasnt been, so they're going to have to do something. I think she needs more than an hour of "practice" with a tutor a week, she needs an intensive reading program run by a reading teacher. This will be my biggest stumbling block. I dont know why it's such an issue with communication, but it is. I am hoping now that school has started and I will find out who her SPED teacher for the grade is and my liason to the school, I will get an effective communication system going that wont involve the school coordinator who just always tells me how busy she is and how many students she has to deal with. Then I have to remind her my daughter is one of those repsonsibilites and blah, blah, blah. Like you said, our kids will be fine, but I have to give my all until we are done, so 6 more years of this! Yikes, and my youngest, just starting Kindergarten so....................yuck. I am hoping she has an easier time. Diane V39330.3556481482