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thank you for taking the time to write something today i saw him and he wants to tell the truth but no one will listeni would like to thank every one but my granson is staying in care the powers that be are keeping him they know he is telling lies but untill he tells the truth to them and not just to us nothing can be done so my life is coming to an end i am hurt and upset so much i just dont know what to dolove him unconditionally.

 

hugs to you, I am so sorry for your grief. I would be upset as well and missing him horrifically (sp??). I can't imagine that he is not missing you! I wonder what he gets from lying so he continues to do so. I guess a professional should be able to get to the bottom of that, you would only hope.

I would think he would get home sice eventually and want to come home

Please stick around and post, I find it helps when we get upset!

I hope you are feeling better, Can you visit him tomorrow?

But wouldn't the tape stand up in court as evidence?

yes we all thought so but the c.p.s have decided that they want to go to court, i am feeling hurt becouse he is still keeping the lie up with the police, and now he has told the socoil worker but telling me and his mum different and a friend heard him say it. also the other foster child at the home, i am losti have asked him if he wants to come home perhaps that is why he is still telling lies but he wants to come home and the socoil worker has said he tells every one he wants to come home, so i cant understand why he is still telling them i done it.hang in there lola! you obviously love this boy. Here you are shraring your story on the boards, looking for comfort, advice. Let them get him the help he needs. it sounds like he has lied for so long, that he doesn't know what is true and what is not true.

well the police say they are taking me to court and even though they have heard the tape and have statements from two poeple who he has told that i did not hit him, i am going to court and no i am not seeing him any more, i cant its killing me, so he will be placed with a member of family on his fathers side that have not seen him since he was 4, nor has his father.

yes i am hurt and crying while writing this but i am going to put my all into work as when this does go to court i will lose my job as well, at the moment i dont have to tell them.

laraine

all he does is lie, even when the thruth is in front of him, he will swear that he is telling the thruth. can any one help. please.

lola195239330.008587963

I don't have to deal with lying, but since he really believes that he is telling the truth, then something else is obviously going on. Could any medications be making him hallucinate?

This poor little guy, he really needs someone to stand bye him and help.

lola,

  Sorry I don't have an anwser because I'm in the same boat. My son can do something right in front of my face and lie that he did it. Some times he make me feel like I'm crazy

Tamaraw196939330.1372106482well i dont know if it is part of the lies but i do know he is trying to tell the truth and no one is listing to him now, i have told the police but they just want me in court but i now have it on tape and we had to do this with out any one knowing that it was being done, and now they want the tape.I wonder why nobody believes him now? it's the same with my ds; we never know if he's telling the truth or not anymore. i wish you luck.Is this part of adhd?

when i see him there are two people there, when i phone him it is on a speaker so every one can hear, i have no privite moments with him and he says he is telling people that i never hit him, the foster parent has been changed, and he does not like the one he is with, in fact it is all a mess, i am still waiting for the police to act, becouse i have been told untill they sort out what they are doing i cant have privite moments with him and there is no way they will let him home, so i have to just sit and wait for the police to do something. i am missing him like mad, and he will be in care for christmas, and his birthday. i have tried to rush the police but the more i phone the more they are digging in there heels, so i have to just sit and wait, i see him twice a week for an hour and one phone call a week, he has asked for more and they will not aollow it.

 

New here Can't help but to ask what happened are you back with your boy???? my heart goes out to you...

LOLA1952,

Hang in there. It sounds like they are just making sure he is ok, which isn't such a bad thing. I am sure you are so missing him. I am glad that you are in contact as often as it sounds. The supervised conversations, visits, etc. will only prove that nothing is going on. I am also glad that he is also asking for more.

Things will get better.

    Well its good who are open about this... Usually if someone goes to court for abuse they say nothing... I read a book David Pelzer wrote about he was abused as a kid... His mom was like a zombie at court...... lol... I hope you can beat this... It would suck if you couldn't see him... If you feel sad eat some fish... not fish sticks... Go to a fish fry and eat some salmon or some smelt... It always makes me happy...  riverbassfishin39400.7447337963