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can you get a bulletin board and write down her routine so this way she can go and look at the board maybe have a completed box and let her check it off so she knows that she did it and what she needs to do next....mornings are always the hardest i think i always have to tell my son what he needs to do....but he is doign well in school so i will accept the constant nagging i have to do as long as he is maintaining behavior in school.Thanks everyone who answered.  BTW, my daughter is going on 12 Tuesday.  She takes 30 mg all day release.  We also started today giving her 5 mg extra at 4 pm.  It seems to be working for now.  I will update later.My 16 year old daughter is a a model student - A+ and because of where we live, she attends a boarding school during the week.  We have always noticed what an air head she can be.  When she was 11, we noticed that she was having social difficulties and getting emotional.  Thinking it was puberty and I was also teaching at the room next door, we decided to have a psychologist do some testing while her brother was having his 3 monthly ADHD check with the specialist.  AHHHHHHH she had adhd SURPRISE! A great happy kid, who was a A in english had a problem.  During testing it was found that when she was given an instruction her brain only had one spike rather than two to process info.  Therefore she didn't follow through on most things.  English is creative and she was fine, but maths she was on the 55 percentile.  So we medicated with ritalin and within 6 months she was on the 95 percentile for maths and 97+ for most english tasks.  Before meds have kicked in in the mornings she is a total waste of space - unco-ordinated and totally unable to follow through with instructions.  It takes about 25 minutes and she right!!!!  She also takes concerta but needs the kick start of ritalin in the morning with this so that she can get going.  She also gets a 15mg dose of ritalin at 4pm to focus on her studies.  Still an A+ student and doing brilliantly. 

Hi, thanks for your replies, the children are on meds, my 11year old is on clonidine for adhd/ts and concerta XL, my son is on strattera 25mg in the evening.

He was on 30mg Ritalin until recently when I took him off for losing so much weight, he is the worst for behaviour, although the strattera can take up to 6 weeks to get into his system, (he's been on it 3weeks).

I find it especially hard to prompt constantly in the mornings, we have a 22month old aswell and I feel that I am rushing from one to the other all the time for us to be out the door on time, we are not local to my sons school.

On a good note though my 11 started secondary school (high school)  this week and has made loads of friends who accept her for who she is, she was bullied in primary school for having ADHD/TS (junior high?) She was really unhappy all through the summer holidays incase this happened again in her new school. The change in her is brilliant ,she cannot wait to go to school the next day I am so proud of her

 

 

perryhick, sometimes they have a hard time maintaining both at home and at school. Personally, I think that you are lucky she behaves at school. If she's on meds, then I guess they are wearing off at night. You should set up a reward system, especially for the morning routine. Check the marbles thread. Maybe she earns 2 marbles for brushing her teeth the first time she's told, etc. Then she can earn a toy that's valued at 20 marbles. Something like that. She's not doing it on purpose. I bet that she really WANTS to behave and meet your expectations.Be grateful they are good in school and remember if on meds at home they have worn off.

Hi, I know exactly what you mean with this situation, my daughter is 11 and has ADHD/TOURETTES, she too is really bright in school.

She will say things like 'can aeroplanes park in the sky'?, she will try and get toast out of the toaster with a knife. She has to be prompted at every stage and getting ready for school in the mornings is a nightmare, she will be making pictures out of the clouds in the sky and then can't understand when I am getting really frustrated with her!

My son is 8 and has ADHD/TOURETTES, he has learning difficulties but lots of common sense and when his sister is coming out with silly comments he will say to her 'what are you on about?' (this will then end up in a fight!)

I am not sure if it is for attention why they are like this or part of the ADHD?

Let's hope someone out there has an answer for us

my daughter is sort of like this. Or I should say she was more like this until fairly recently. With our most recent med regimen I have found her much more likely to attend and stay on task. Able to follow through and not appear to be "in such a fog". She has ADHD and non verbal learning disorder.

Are your children on meds? As far as gettign through the tasks of the day, I've found to take one thing at a time, like gettign ready for school and help her tackle that. Pick an order to do it, this is ours

wake up, dress, make bed, put pajamas in hamper, come and eat breakfast, wash up and brush teeth, put backpack together and go. We did this exact thing in this exact order EVERY morning. Break it down and stick to it.  She'd try, let me eat first, let me get my snack....NO.....after you do this. I'm not sure why they try to creat chaos, and change the order, it's what they do, don't let them. Keep it simple and direct. Now we dont have this issue in the mornings.

We have 2 children with ADHD and Our son is the best behaved, but our daughter on the other hand.  She is so smart, in school, but really acts dumb as soon as she comes through the door after school.  She acts like a robot waiting for a command.  She has to be told every morning to do her routine, step by step, before school.  She absolutly acts like she has no common sense.  Like last night, for instance, her mother told her 3 times to get a can of vegetables an d heat them up in the microwave.  She gets a can of tomato sauce and cooks it in a metal bowl, IN THE MICROWAVE!!  She could have killed us or at least severly hurt us.  We tried talking to her doctor and a psycologist (I guess that's how you spell it), neither one knew what could be done.  Is there any help out there for us as a family???How old is your daughter?