Who’s gone to therapist themselves? | ADHD Information

I don't feel comfortable taking medication. 

I think I need to trust the psychiatrist.  Shifting the responsibility of school back to my son is so hard because I have this fear that maybe he can't do it because of the ADD?

I'm "chilling" a bit.  I'm going to make an apt. with the psychiatrist for myself, only to confirm that my son will be okay.  I know that when my son brings home another progress report that is bad, the psychiatrist will talk to him about it.

I need to allow myself "me time". 

 

Thank goodness for med.s. It's easy to freak out over our children because they are always doing something to get into trouble. Sometimes they have to take their knocks regardless of what we do. My 16 yr. old has finally settled down again, and I think he's headed in a positive direction. I think I finally stopped freaking out about everything when he was in grade 7, once I knew he could do the work, once I made sure he took responsibility for his behavior, and when I finally supported the school 100 percent and trusted them to make the right decisions for my kid. I also had to accept that I am doing everything I can, and I can only do so much. The kid was getting older, and needed to learn it was tough world out there if you make the wrong choices.   Getting all the help we need to stay healthy is so important.  Good luck

I went back to work for therapy and medication! And it worked!! Plus the money and insurance aint so bad!!

As for me...I medicate myself.  No really, I became overly anxious and depressed, and I take Celexa.  Takes the edge off.I take Lexapro and see a therapist when needed to deal with depression and
anxiety.

Session yest. with DS's psychiatrist was good.  We all met at the end and they discussed that my son just is a little worried about what will happen when he gets more than one project at a time.

So, long story short, if you don't know my story, We are shifting responsibility for school back to my son.  I have to back off, offer help only when asked.

I told the Dr. and my son it was hard for me to not try to help him organize and manage when I see him going into anxiety and panick attacks.

Dr. basically told me, in a nice way, I have to back off, learn to let go and if I can't, to talk to him, or someone else to help  me.

So, I'm thinking this may be good for me. First of all, I need to find out if this Dr. thinks it's ADD or anxiety alone.  I overparented last year because the last psychologist diagnosed ADD inattentive with depression and ordere an emergency 504 for emotional problems.

Gee guys - I over advocated and everything because I assumed my son was not functioning because of ADD.

I have been so confused over the past 4 years with different Drs., etc. etc. - it's no wonder I'm an emotional wreck.

So, anyone else find therapy for themselves helpful?

I am adding a meditation class to my weekly yoga class, now that I don't have to stay home everynight and monitor my son.

I'd love to read about your experiences and how it helped you deal with your child.

 

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Newmom - thanks for your post.

Funny about yoga and patience.  At one of my yoga classes my teacher was reading from the Dharma. She likes to start the class with a little wisdom.

The reading was about patience and it really hit home with me.  It said patience was the impenatrable armour that would protect us. 

I try to practice yoga daily.  I have a wonderful DVD - Barbara Bengah  yoga for stress relief.  I highly recommend it.  You don't have to be a serious yoga student either.  I got this at Amazon.

Momval - what is mangosteen? 

This site has saved me too.  My husand just called and I asked him if he wanted me to make an apt. with the psychiatrist for both of us.  He felt that all he would do would tell us the same stuff.

I must be patient and wait.  I trust this psychiatrist.  I just don't want to lose my mind while I'm being patient.

At the last session he said that if I couldn't hang back and let my son take all the responsibility for his school work, I should talk to him.  That is why I keep going back and forth about therapy.  Was he giving me a hint that I needed some?

 

 

Mangosteen is an Asian fruit and seems to help with multiple illnesses. It also works on contact for skin problems. So you drink it for health, and use it like you would use Aloe for skin.

I don't want to say too much about it until I try it. But if I feel better from taking it, I'll let everyone know.

I use this site to calm me down and see if the issues I have with my son are normal or not. And I mull over the advice all great people have and use what I feel will work best for my situation.

I usually have a 12 hour or so slight panicked state and then wait for responses from you all and it is gone.

I am a big believer in alternative medications - i.e. natural supplements. I detest taking chemicals and avoid if necessary. Also, I like yoga.

From time to time I also talk with my husband who has such a good head on his shoulders and he hardly ever worries about things. I think as a society we worry too much and cause our own panic attacks so I purposefully try not to jump to conclusions about anything and most things work themselves out on their own.

Patience is key here.

The bottom line is what do YOU think your son has. Do you think your son has ADD? Follow your instincts.

If the answer is yes, don't let the focus be your control issues. You may need to give your son more space to find his way and reach a higher level of independence, but the help that you've given to date is normal considering. I would think that parenting classes specifically for ADHD children would be more helpful because they teach management skills targeted at ADHD symptoms. Plus, you get to talk to other parents in the same situation.

A good therapist is like a needle in a haystack.

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My son is now asking me if he has ADD.  Honestly, this is what I said,

"The other doctor said you did but your new Doctor isn't sure. He does say you have anxiety.  I told my son he does have symptoms of ADD but then, again, many people do."

I was thinking, I think I want reassurance that my son will be okay.  Good therapists are hard to find. I like this current Doctor.  I probably will make an apt. to see him. 

 

Have you ever heard of Mangosteen? It's got more antioxidants than any other source on the planet. I plan to try it soon.

I started seeing a counselor to help me sort out all of Justin's issues. She's really good and I have taken her advice more than once.

It helps me to relieve some of my stress to have her to talk to. I don't want to unload totally on my girlfriends since I don't see them too often, so I'd rather unload on the counselor. Good counselors are hard to find - I think I got lucky.

NOtellin - I don't know what I believe anymore.

My son definately has anxiety issues.

When we went to the previous psychologist, we took the BASC test.  The teachers filled out a BASC and his grandparents did.  The psychologist diagnosed ADHD innatentive with mild depression.  As I did research, it was clear that my son had every executive funcitioning dissorder there was.  On the other hand  - he took a core eval. at school, his writing skills were excellent and he had no visible learining dissbilities with a high average IQ.

Anyway - I like this psychiatrist and my son does.  We have an apt. 10/4 and I thnk after that apt. I will make an apt. for just me.  My husband thinks my son is just garden variety lazy.  The Dr. said my son does what he wants when he wants to and the trick is to motivate him.  He is doing this by letting him "fly on his own" and see the consequences of his actions.

The first progress report should be intresting. 

Sorry to babble on so much. My son may have ADD innatentive but mild.  He may just be a P.I.A. (pain in the A--) Seriously, psychiatrists don't really tell you things - you have to kind of arrive at your own conclusions.  I know this one feels I have carried my son for too long.  He is probably right.