AAACCCCKKK! DS10 suspended! | ADHD Information

DS got in a fight at school.  Some boys took the ball he and his friends were playing with and started playing keep away.  My son lunged for the ball as the kid threw it to someone else- so my son basically threw himself into that kid and they started scuffeling and hitting. It really sounds to me like it is more my son's fault (meaning he got physical first). They both got suspended. I am so sad and my son can't stop crying.  I am mad at him but I feel bad for him too- I am too emotional to talk about his consequenses because I want to fully digest this before I make any decision on punishment. 

I am so sad because he was doing really well- and everyday I would remind him to keep himself together in the classroom and save his energy for the playground- and he had been doing that.  He also was promoted back into his GT classes after a bumpdown last year.  So he has made progress and I don't want to take away from his hard work- but I am so frustrated.  Why can't he control his impulses?  He is on 36 mg Concerta.  Have tried a few dif meds- so far this is the best.

Thanks for listening- really just needed to vent.

God I'm sorry to hear that your son had such a tough time!! You know, in my eyes kids are just allowed to just be kids. I'm not saying that two boys should be throwing punches at each other and leaving each other bloody BUT.....they were both SUSPENDED for this scuffle??? So early in the school year??? I'm amazed at that for sure...and I'm sure you and your son DO feel horrible about it. My 13 yo DS is also on Concerta (56mg) and he has a hard time controlling his impulses as well.  I know that if he went and hauled off and hit everyone that ticked him off he'd never be in school!! But I think your son got a raw deal....it seems a bit excessive to suspend two 10 year olds for a scuffle on the playground.  I'm sure he feels bad enough about it, have you talked to the principle to see if maybe these two boys can be brought together to discuss what happened? It's sad if they won't try to deal with this in a different way, my heart goes out to you. Sounds like you are doing what you should be and that school needs to LIGHTEN up a bit! These kids ARE just getting off of summer break after all......it will take them a bit to get back into the groove of school. I'd be upset!!! Good luck!!

Robyn, Mom to Alex age 13 ADHD

I meant to say above that kids AREN'T meant to just "be kids"!!! That would make more sense! Sorry!!

I am not upset with the school at all.  Fighting is a no warning automatic suspension.  The kids will come back together at the reinstatement.  I have talked to the other boys mother to tell her that my son admitted that he shoved her son first. I wanted her to know that because if it was the other way around, I would want to know. Both boys are really upset about the whole thing- and I don't forsee an ongoing problem between the two of them.  Their stories match up so it isn't like one is blaming the other... they are both taking the appropiate amt. of responsibility in the matter.  My son has never had an incident even close to this before.  In fact he does have impulse control issues- but he does not have a bad temper at all.  We never hear a cross word from him.  He is happy and respectful and has lots of friends. (somewhat uncharacteristically for an ADHD kid).  That is why this is so surprising to us.

Anyway- thanks for letting me comiserate.  I am glad to have this place to vent.  Only other parents of these challenging kids can understand my plight

I wouldn't worry about it if it was a one time incident - I guess I'm from the "boys will be boys" school.  However, if he begins to exhibit this aggression continually, then suspect the meds.  I had to remove my son from meds because he became physically agressive alot of the time.

 

 

Hi KidsinSpace,

How is your son doing? I hope things are going well!