my daughter wanted to kill herself | ADHD Information
hi,
my daughter sally who has adhd and some other promblems , reduced me to tears this afternoon
I was cooking tea, and i put a sharpe knife on the table after peeling the poatoe's, sally walked into thee kitchen as i turned round she pi picked the knife up and was standing with it close to her neck as to slit her thorat, my heart missed a bit , i told her clamly to put the knife down which she did, then she said she hate's herself and everybody and she would be better off dead, i nearly burst into tear's, anyhow after sitting with her for 15min, she thought she was'nt doing well at school which she is, and she has'nt any friend's to play with, i know that is a big issue with her latley, At school she say'speople stare at her , i know she had a friend but now the girl is playing with someone eles, sally finds it hard to mix, she is also visually impaaired, hard of hearing and ocd, it worrie's me now, her older brother spoke to her outside on the swing which nearly made me cry again.i told her we all love her and what would i do with out her she said it would be quite, hope to hear from you soon. i was shaking at the tought, she know's i love heer so does her sibling's,
margaret
p.s she is'nt on any med, part from sleeping tablets
madhouse39347.6622106481Margaret your daughter needs help and fast call a crisis services number if you have one available take her to an emergency room for mental health assessment and they can keep watch on her and help you out. I got chills reading about her holding the knife that is a definete warning sign she is screaming out for help. From the sounds of it Sally is only small. What ever the age, this is an awful experience for the parent and for the child. I have had this a number of times with my son and it really does break your heart. You need to find a child psychiatrist or psychologist to talk to her about these feelings. Getting her happy is your number one priority. This is a very serious situation and needs to be dealt with asap. We changed schools the first time and then last year my son was so depressed that I pulled him out of school and home schooled him. After 4 months, he was ready to go back. We regularly see a number of specialists to help with these feelings. Are the school aware of the situation? Take care and hope you can find some positive professional help for your daughter.I read your other post from the other topic. your daughter you mention is 9, min is 8, going on 9 soon and has the same tough troubles with social at this age. Girls are real mean. Mine is on the receiving end and plays alone often. It is so bad that other girls have come to her aide because they feel bad seeing her alone. We have asked the school for help with the bullies, but blah, blah, blah, it get's us no where.
I don't have the other things to deal with that you do, my son is the adhd'er that keeps me here on the boards.
But you mention that she wants to go back on meds. My son takes concerta, and we had sleep issues at first. As we increased his dosage so that he is the most successful with the least amount of side effects, the sleeping problems stopped.
I do lay down with him on school nights, to relax him, but most nights he is tired and falls asleep on his own. He does love his bed and comforter!
I wish we lived near each other because my daughter would LOVE to play with Sally!!
Maybe our daughters could email each other?! Then they would have long distance friends, which is what they want, friends. What do you think???
thank you both for the advice, i shall ring the school tomrow about sally, we have the Learning Disablity Team so i will phone them as well and see what we can do,Sally did say she was depressed
thanks bethann, sally would love a pen pal across the miles,
do you have msn.
hear from you soon
margaret
I will send you a PM (private message) Margaret!! 
Thank you!!
(hugs) My son gave us a scare last year. We took him to a psychologist immediately. Although my son didn't care for him, he did not make another attempts since.
Don't ignore this.
Margaret my 9yo has had issues like this too in the past although he's never actually picked up a weapon. When he was 7, he started banging himself on the head and saying he wanted to kill himself. We rang the ped immediately and started play therapy, and we haven't had a issue since. It was also the time that I felt the worst failure possible as a parent. The advice above is good - she needs some professional help.
I have two sons, the 9yo and a 6yo and I just know my 6yo would love to get a letter and / or drawing from your daughter, and my 9yo would write a nice letter back. Also he may be able to relate to her as he has had similar issues and it might be nice for us to encourage a friendship across the miles. He has a few friends now but I've often thought he could do with more. They may feel, knowing the other has the same issues, that their new friend understands them better than the rest of the world.
PM me if you would like a PO Box address for them.
Gutsy39348.940474537Yep, it's time to set up a series of meetings with a professional counselor. Let us know how things go.hi everyone
thank you everyone for your advice, i spoke to sally school today they were really shocked and worried, her viusally impared teacher suggesed play therepy which she will look into and getting the education therpist in, and assing sally again, the learning disablity team did'nt think they a reason to go any further, but i am not leaving it there, not a child would suddenly do what sally did, i know i never had those thought's, anyway i have appointment with the paediatric team in october, i was told to keep all knife's and sharpe object's out of the way, which i do , i have to phone the school tommrow afternoon and tell how thing's are going and what the learning disablity team said (to my mind was'nt helpfull). Ithought i would of got more out of them , i sat thre and felt like waving my hand's in the air and screaming, becuse this is the first indcent i should'nt panic and just keep a eye on her what i had'nt said in my previous post sally self harm's sne bite's between her thumb and finger which now has crusted and turned brown, she does have a chewy tub but perfers her hand, today i do think thre sitting there thinking iwill go away, but there hav'nt seen me mad.i shall keep you posted. i am not going to ignore it.
thank you for you support, it's nice to know you guy's are out there.
we have spoken to the peadtric team who are going to set up some counselor appointment, i am hopefully going to speak to sally's doctor soon and go from there, the school are behind me. and also find a play therpyist so thay can help sally in how she feel's/
madhouse39350.5491087963
madhouse - sounds like you are going in the right direction. Good luck.