[QUOTE=floofthegoof]I tell almost everyone I have ADD. I've never had a negative reaction from that, and I find that people who know are much more patient with my 'quirks'. Even my employer knows. [/QUOTE]
Floothegoof, Your one brave and confident ADD'er!
I wish I had you're guts! I've NEVER told an employer. Simply out of fear that if anything gets f**ked up, all eyes will be on me. And also they will be expecting me to mess up or think "what the hell, I'll just say Ranza did it"
even though I had nothing to do with it. And right now, where I work, enough mistakes are made!
Hi y'all, I need some advice. I hope I don't ramble to much, but please forgive me if I do
. I had mentioned sometime ago that friends of ours fell in love with our house that we had built. That was about 3 yrs ago, and me and creative mind figured out a way for them to purchase the land (I was up all night). It was a long shot b/c cheri wasn't ready to retire for another 4 yrs. but my plan worked. She is 10 yrs. older than me, but we just hit it off, and have been friends ever since. As a couple, we have been close friends for 15 yrs. Her hubby is 2 yrs older then I am. We became friends in Phila., long before I knew about my ADD. We seem to understand each other and Cheri once made the comment "we get along so well b/c we're both bizzar"
The 4 of us enjoy doing things as a couple.
Just last night, I found out that Cheri will be coming here in Jan. Her hubby, Bill, just got here last wk. with a job transfer. He is staying with his parents now.
Now here is where I really need some advice. Even though they have both seen me when I was "self medicating" and I know they must have known I was taking something, before being DX'ed, it never fazed them and we're still best friends. They will be living around the corner from us, so we will be seeing alot more of each other. Heres my question. should I tell them that I have ADD? Bill's daughter from a previous marrige has adhd that went untreated for yrs. and has pretty much wasted her life and has done some pretty bad stuff to them. I'm sure she has other problems also. WHAT SHOULD I DO Y'ALL? I'm so afraid of making stupid mistakes, not being able to tell them if somethings N.S.E.or W. in my own hometown, losing jobs so frequently and just not getting the social cues. At this point, I feel damned if I do and damned if I don't
. I think they should know, since there are somethings I can't hide and they know I'm far from stupid. Could I please have some feedback on what I should do?
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Thanks Rae, I think I agree. Why go out of my way to tell them, feeling nervious and really not know to even begin. And they seem to be very good friends. Who knows, mybe all three add.( except my Hubby)
Bit I"m sure SOMEWHERE along the line, I'll do or say something and Thant shouts out"ADD" ariving,let y'all how I handle it
And you are right, it coukd him understand his daugter better
Once again rae, you have you put things into perspective for me
I tell almost everyone I have ADD. I've never had a negative reaction from that, and I find that people who know are much more patient with my 'quirks'. Even my employer knows.Well - if you feel the moment is right to talk about it do so - I wouldnt go out of my way to tell them
They are your friends, if they dont accept you for who you are then that is their loss.
Besides, it may help him understand his daughter through you - life works in mysterious ways. You may be a vehicle for him to forgive his daughter.
Think positively, learn to love yourself, have faith in the universe and HAVE as many happy days as possible.