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Hi,

We have told our son that he has A.D.H.D. He knew he was different than most of the other children in his class and he couldn't understand why he was having such a hard time in school or getting along with other children. He would make comments like.."I'm stupid"...or "What is wrong with me?".

 My son is a big Nascar fan so i used that when i told him he had A.D.H.D. First of all i told my son Matt that he was a very smart child.....(always tell your child that)...then i told him that everybody in the world is different. I said that we all have different hair, different skin colour, different voices and different brains. I told him that some people's brains work to slow, that some people's brains work the right speed and that some people's brains work to fast....just like the motors on Nascar cars. I told him that his "motor" worked to fast. I said he was like a race car that was driving to fast around the track. I asked him what happens to race cars when they go to fast and he said "they lose control and crash"...and i said "well that is kind of what happens to your brain". I told him that his brain was always "speeding"...and it couldn't slow down...and that is why he was having a hard time in school because he was "racing" he couldn't slow down enough to learn properly. I told him that he was gonna go on meds. to slow his "motor" down a little. I told him when he slows down a little...he can win the race! He really seemed to understand that way of thinking.

Matt won't swallow his pills, so we sprinkle it on his toast in the morning. He's fine with doing it that way.

Matt'smom
Hi MattsMom...thanks for sharing your story.  One question....does his med have a taste?  My son takes additional iron because he is Anemic and HATES the taste of the pill.  THanks! [QUOTE=Mother2Austin]Hi MattsMom...thanks for sharing your story.  One question....does his med have a taste?  My son takes additional iron because he is Anemic and HATES the taste of the pill.  THanks![/QUOTE]


Hi Mother2Austin,

No i just asked him and he says he can't taste it...although i'm sure it probably has some taste...but, i give it to him on a piece of toast in the morning with Nutella well..noname Nutella from Dollarama. The chocolate hazelnut spread covers any taste it may have. I spread it on the toast..pour the meds over the toast, then spread it around a bit more so none falls off. I used to fold it so he couldn't see any of it but, now i don't, and he hasn't complained any. Maybe try this for his iron pill...what kid doesn't like chocolate right?... If you fold it...hopefully he won't even realize it's there.

Good luck,
Matt'smom

What are the areas in which your son would notice his own symptoms?  It's usually easist to start there so they have a concrete example of what the meds will help.

We had taken my son (then 8) for a neuropsych eval. and I told him the reason for that was so we could see how his brain worked, because everyone's brain works a little differently.  He had been seeing a therapist on and off for 4 years so we explained that knowing how his brain worked would help us (the grown ups) know how to help him manage his frustration/anger.

After we got the dx we simply explained that the doc had said his brain does work differently and when it works the way his does it is called ADHD.  We told him that we were going to try some meds that would help his brain slow down a little so that he could make better choices and that would help keep him from getting in trouble for making bad choices before he's had a chance to think about it.  We also said that it would help him pay attention better in school, but but had to reiterate several times over the next few weeks that the pills did not make him smarter, just helped him to pay attention so he could use the "smarts" he already had.

 

[QUOTE=spamula]Thanks for the book idea, we have been trying to tell our 9 year old for months now and he doesn't want to comprehend that he is different. I think I will give it a try.[/QUOTE]

For a 9 year old, I'd recommend Eddie Enough as well as Jumpin Johnny Get Back To Work.  Other good ones are Pay Attention, Slosh and Learning To Slow Down & Pay Attention: A Book for Kids About ADHD.  Those might be over the head of a 9 year old, or maybe they're the right level.  Having a 7 year old, I don't know how to judge.

Thanks for the book idea, we have been trying to tell our 9 year old for months now and he doesn't want to comprehend that he is different. I think I will give it a try.

My ds found it comforting to know there's a reason why he did so many problematic things (his main ADHD issues are social problems due to hyperactivity and impulsivity).  We explained to him that the medicine would help him slow down and make decisions, vs. the behavior just happening (impulsivity like pushing people, grabbing things, etc.).  We also told him that it would help him lower his energy level and thus be able to sit still longer, touch less things, etc.  There are some great books for a 6 year old, including Shelley The Hyperactive Turtle.  There's also one about taking medicine.  It's called Otto Takes His Medicine, or something like that.  It's about someone taking meds. for ADHD.  I'd check out what your library has on the subject.  I think books are great for helping kids understand things and helping them to realize they aren't alone in dealing with this.

ETA:  The medicines did precisely what we hoped they would.  He's now a model student and friend when the meds. are in his system.  All behavioral issues disappeared.  It's a big difference when they leave his system at night and before they kick in AM, so I know it's the meds. that have made the difference.

Mom2ADHDboy39351.8718634259I think most people tell their children. I have not. I just added them to his vitamins. How do I explain to my soon to be 6 yr old what ADHD is and why he has to take medication?  I have thought about not telling him as his Dr said to break the capsule and sprinkle it on applesause.  I thought maybe when he is a little older and more mature that he could understand.  Any suggestions?