I am so angry b/s DH didn’t give meds to | ADHD Information

It sounds as though you may just have to spell it out for him literally. Write down the name of the med. and the time it is due with the med sitting out on the note. If that doesn't work, a ball bat should.

I can sympatize with you. Though my husband does a fairly good job with our childs med schedule, sometimes he can't seem to follow the smallest instructions. It is frustrating as the day is long, and your right. Your little one shouldn't be punished because of your husband's failure to give him his meds.

Will be praying...

Thanks all.  We had a fantastic day today, and DH did talk to DS this morning so that helps.  I was just sooo angry and frustrated I had to talk to someone, and so I can here.  I'm normally a reasonable person, but when it comes to my kids.....yikes....those primitive protective insticts come quick!  Bottom line is DH knew I was furious, we talked about it and although I can't say I'm happy at least DH heard me.  This is one of the tricks of having kids like this, the parents have to be a team.....on the same one at that! My son's dad missed his meds one time, and apparently he learned his
lesson. He still shudders when he thinks about that day. He forgets pretty
much everything else, though. He is living with a wonderful woman who
my son says is the "rememberer". When I drop him off I tend to give
information directly to her. I try not to because this is insulting to his dad,
but guess what- he usually isn't paying attention anyway! We just let the
boys play. I worry that in all close family relationships that he sees, the
woman has all of the responsibilities. I hope he gets a few strong male
teachers or something...Hang in there. I sympathize with you. Moms do not get enough credit for
all that we do! Let it go and move on. I would react the same way as you
did. Hubby needs to get on board with you.   Hope tomorrow is a better day
for you.

So my DH gave my DS his flouride pill (doesn't look anything like Concerta, and it a totally different looking bottle) thinking it was his Concerta.  I asked DH more that once during the day if he gave DS his medication b/c he was totally out of control.   It was an awful day, DS was yelled at constantly and at the end of the day DS actually wet his pants infront of other kids at a friends house.  He hasn't had an accident in 2 years now......it was a horrible day for us all.  After the kids went to bed I asked one more about the medication and I said, you gave him the pill that looks like____ right?  DH gets a blank look on his face, so I get the medication and say, it was this one, right?  UM....no.  I was furious.  I always feel like I'm dealing with the alone....I deal with the schools, the psychologists, the pediatricians, karate lessons, reading reading reading......DH had never done a damn thing and can't even give him the right meds!  Npow, I know you can say its not a big deal, but DS had a severe case of ADHD and his sensory issues explode w/out meds (this is what caused him to have an accident I think) and its not fair that he had a day like that for no good reason.  I'm just venting, but still angry about it.  I told my DH that he needs to talk to DS today and apologize b/c he was especially hard on DS.  I"m tired of feeling like I have to supervise EVERYTHING. 

Thanks for listening. 

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I can TOTALLY relate. I can't count the hours I've spent researching, reading, talking, etc. and H (he's not DH in my book!) seems to be clueless. My H wouldn't even think to give him his pill. He is so out of it. I used to spend all this time letting him know what's going and what the school said, Doctors, etc. but now I've just taken over. When I packed one pill for a scouts trip and told him it was in the camera bag, he never gave it to him and said he couldn't find it. BS.

But, while I'm furious each and every time this happens, I tend to feel better about it the next day and I adapt to make sure it's taken care of. My ADHD husband probably will not change, and rather than having my son get the short end of the stick, I compensate. Quite the martyr, right? Makes it easier to pamper myself, buy things for the house and rationalize. Unfortunately in my house I take care of me and the kids. Not a good setup, I know.  Sometimes I think we have to bang it into their heads that these kids have special needs and if he was partially deaf, you would make sure he had his hearing aid, right? It needs to be that important. I don't think a lot of dads get it.

My best advice is do what it takes to make sure your son gets the pill - put it out on a napkin the night before if you have to. It's not easy, I know!

After reading this post, now I'm mad at my husband!!

My husband would do the same thing!    I don't feel I can count on him at all when it comes to our son's medicine, routine, homework etc.  I always have to undo whatever he does! 

Just wait 'till he gets home!!!

Seriously though, he does "drop the ball" alot when it comes to our son.  Makes me nuts!