Hi Everyone--
I'm almost embarassed to say how long I've been lurking...I've had the marble system in place for a couple months now, and I've used you all for your hard work and research on the Omega 3 supplements which I've just started my 7 year old DD on last night. I've taken your advice on dosages etc for Melatonin for her sleeping issues, and I'll probably start pouring over the Magnesium thread next...
So after all this time, I felt I should probably start contributing and may get even more out of it. The experiences on here have been invaluable to me.
For a brief background I have a 7 year old second grade daughter, diagnosed in 1st grade w/ ADHD (The hyper kind). Currently taking 10 mg of Focalin XR and sometimes 5 mg of the regular Focalin in the afternoons if we have after school activities. She is doing well on the medication but is a mess if she misses at.
Going through a hard time right now because she and another girl in her after school daycare are getting into trouble together. They were suspended for a day last week and now suspended indefinitely for bullying another little girl. I have never had a problem with her at daycare until this year. Unfortunately DD is a follower, which is disappointing. Now I feel like even if they let her come back I don't want her there because she's been "labeled" as a trouble maker and a bad kid, which I've never known her to be until these two incidents! I'm torn between punishing her and protecting her at the same time.
Anyways thanks for listening and I just wanted to say hey to all
Morgan
Morgan welcome. We are all torn always between consequences and protecting. We need to do both I guess. Overprotecting obviously doesnt help in the long run, but a 7 year old with ADHD (maturity of probably a 5 year old) still needs LOTS and LOTS of guidance from you. Unfortunately part of growing pains is learning by experience you cant do what others want you to do if it's wrong. No matter who's idea, there's consequence. She does have to learn bullying is never ok. Have you met the daycare to discuss how to move forward?
Thanks Diane,
Yes DD is definitely immature...I am supposed to be speaking with the boss above the director of the center today. I am just not sure that I want to put her back in that program at all. I do not want to come off as one of those mothers who thinks their child does no wrong (trust me DD was in the worst trouble of her life from the 1st suspension, not sure what to take away w/ this one) but I feel that the staff hasn't taken any proactive measure to keep DD and her co-hort away from eachother. Also after each incident that she's had there I am always hearing from the staff "well I didn't see it so I have to go by what the kids say" and I'm thinking where are you that you are not seeing any of this? DD was in the same program last year w/ completely different staff and had very little problems and that was before she was medicated as well. I just can't understand why she would be so mean to another little girl, and you're right, it doesn't matter who's idea it is, each of them should know right from wrong.
I'm at such a loss of what to do at this point!
Morgan
It's hard.
She needs a supportive environment and well supervised also do you have other options?
I'm looking into some other options, I have people that I can get short term care with until I find something permanent, but the program through the school is so inexpensive!
I think because it would be work for them they would rather not bother themselves, especially when you have a large(950 student here)school. Even though our principle is known for her intollerance for bullying it seems to be happening everyday. I hear it when I drop my son off in the morning and watch him follow along into school with the same kids. It kills me! Good Luck! spamula39364.4165393518My son is also a follower and I am very concerned over a friend he had made over the last couple years because he is a bully. The school staff do nothing to keep them apart knowing the situation. But my son doesn't do the bullying yet. But I also told him that it is wrong to stand by and watch and not say anything as well. He is not supposed to be anywhere near this kid but somehow manages to spend most his day with him. He is also on Focalin XR when he decides to take it. He is a little older 9, and doesn't think he needs it. another story. I know it is hard when finances are tight and school daycare is the best deal around. We did it for many years. I hope you come to some kind of resolution soon as it is a hard decision to make.Thanks Spamula....it always helps to hear someone else who's in your boat..I've never thought of DD as a bully before, she's had behavioral issues, but never that.
Thats what frusterates me as well, is that the daycare staff told me that in their opinion (even though they are not supposed to say anything) that the other little girl (who is in 4th grade) was a bad influence on my DD...but do they even attempt to keep them apart? Of course not, that would make too much sense.