How many 5 year olds can sit still? | ADHD Information

my adhd daughter is 9 and must get out of her seat 20x during dinner alone!  4 or 5x is not a lot for a 5 year old.  [QUOTE=newmom] Hello - many of you know me by me talking about my ds who may be ADHD (dx while in foster care - reevaluation next summer) Anyway, his bio. sister started k this year and she is having issues with staying in her seat. I know she is 5 but I also know it is around 5 when children start showing symptoms of this issue. Should I be concerned or take it day by day b/c this is normal?

She is quick to get her work done b/c she wants to be social. And her work is kinda of sloppy. She is very bright and already knows the basic skills like ABC's and numbers, colors, etc...However, I guess the main issue is staying in her seat. Her teacher told me she will start keeping tallies of how many times she gets out - one day was 4 the next was 5. Then I get a call from the Behavior specialist from school saying my dd got referral to see her in a group session.

Also, the therapist said she is not really good at following instructions which is the main complaint I get from my son's teacher.

I have to admit I am a little panicked.....
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Breathe new mom, breathe.

How long was the sis in school? Now everyone may disagree but in 4 hours any kid that gets out of the chair hourly at 5 years of age doesn't seem ADHD to me. At 5,  most kids can't sit still for more than 10-20 minute or so without moving around.  Any school who thinks kids that age can stay still that long is not taking into account age-appropriate skill sets and realities.

Quite frankly, the girl sounds bright and bored.

These kids have been in foster care . Don't expect everything to go swimmingly. They have histories and struggles and internal worlds that most adults can't even begin to fathom.

As an adoptee and former foster mother I find intensely frustrating the amount of "diagnosing" that goes on around foster kids and adoptees without any understanding of how such previous circumstances impact on a child's behaviour and emotional makeup. Even if it was as low-grade trauma and the best care possible adoptee/foster kids come with baggage. They are not "new slates" by any stretch of the imagination.
........that cracks me up! Yes, I must remember that kids are kids and just because I hear that my daughter won't sit still and disrupts the class sometimes it isn't the end of the world. She is a happy, healthy, funny, smart ,little girl who wants attention - simply attention.
I think she is on the path of becoming an actress and she wants everyone's approval including her teacher.....

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Very good!!

some more things kids do:

- spin around in circles until you fall down or throw up

- run around in yours socks on the rug and then try to 'shock' your siblings

-  chase butterflies until you can't run anymore 

-  stomp in every rain puddle until you are soaked

These are some of the things that make being a kid such a great experience - not sitting in your chair during circle time (or whatever)!

AND

Kiss the dog on the lips but refuse to drink out of your sister's glass because "she has cooties"Slide down all available banistersFind a carpet and slide down the hardwood stairs on your buttGet stuck on someone's roof at least ONCE and have to find an adult to get you downpush all the elevator buttons for 22 floors "just because..."know that the best part of art class is getting messy and playing with the pretty colourssticking a wet finger in mom's eye on Saturday morning before the Bugs Bunny cartoons and asking, "Are you awake yet"?

 

 

[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=newmom]........that cracks me up! Yes, I must remember that kids are kids and just because I hear that my daughter won't sit still and disrupts the class sometimes it isn't the end of the world. She is a happy, healthy, funny, smart ,little girl who wants attention - simply attention.
I think she is on the path of becoming an actress and she wants everyone's approval including her teacher.....

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There ya go.

If she has ADHD your sanest bet is to teach her not to wake you up when she needs to amuse herself. This will keep her alive throughout childhood.

By my recollection, aren't most teachers AWAKE durning class time?

My fav person with ADHD [there is hope for your daughter for sure]

LEE EVANS

http://www.moviesfoundonline.com/lee_evans_live_in_scotland. htm

MetisRebel39367.5573032407 [QUOTE=mishel24]I think it is CRIMINAL - ABSOLUTELY CRIMINAL - to teach kids - URGE kids - to walk and talk for five years and then expect them to immediately sit down and shut up.  Teachers are looney tunes these days.  Their expectations are ridiculous.  [/QUOTE]

Amen to THAT!!! Isn't the point of childhood to be running about merrily discovering the world?

Things normal kids do:
Flush bumblelions down the toiletGet lost in bus stations trying to figure out where the fountain water goesGet their tongues stuck on window frames licking off iceFall off beams on construction sites they were forbidden to enterSquish pennies on railway tracks and get busted by the railway copsSomersault up and down a hill until someone bonks their head on a rock and goes to the hospital
Use shopping carts as personal transportation
Eat green apples and throw upHave pine cone wars and build forts
Run with scissors

Very good!!

some more things kids do:

- spin around in circles until you fall down or throw up

- run around in yours socks on the rug and then try to 'shock' your siblings

-  chase butterflies until you can't run anymore 

-  stomp in every rain puddle until you are soaked

These are some of the things that make being a kid such a great experience - not sitting in your chair during circle time (or whatever)!

 

 

I think it is CRIMINAL - ABSOLUTELY CRIMINAL - to teach kids - URGE kids - to walk and talk for five years and then expect them to immediately sit down and shut up.  Teachers are looney tunes these days.  Their expectations are ridiculous.  Hello - many of you know me by me talking about my ds who may be ADHD (dx while in foster care - reevaluation next summer) Anyway, his bio. sister started k this year and she is having issues with staying in her seat. I know she is 5 but I also know it is around 5 when children start showing symptoms of this issue. Should I be concerned or take it day by day b/c this is normal?

She is quick to get her work done b/c she wants to be social. And her work is kinda of sloppy. She is very bright and already knows the basic skills like ABC's and numbers, colors, etc...However, I guess the main issue is staying in her seat. Her teacher told me she will start keeping tallies of how many times she gets out - one day was 4 the next was 5. Then I get a call from the Behavior specialist from school saying my dd got referral to see her in a group session.

Also, the therapist said she is not really good at following instructions which is the main complaint I get from my son's teacher.

I have to admit I am a little panicked.....
newmom39364.4822916667I wouldnt panic quite yet, but take this as an opportunity to start documening behavior and just keping your eyes open. Take all the help they're offereing. Part of Kindergarten is learning the rules of a classroom and how to participate within the group. I have a 5 year old in Kindergarten. Pasrt of the lcassroom rules, and the cafeteria and the bus are being seated when being seated is required. Lots and lots of kids struggle with this one, so you're right it's this time behaviors start to show themselves, kids without ADHD will learn to curb this impulsiveness as they mature, kids with ADHD can't. Tkae all the help they give her, you're lucky they're willing to work with her.