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For those of you who know what has been going on in our household, The refusaul to take meds for ADHD or anxiety came to a head this am. My husband exploded and told my son he was going to take everything away from him (despite doctors orders) if he didn't take his meds. He yelled and screamed all am. My son, anxious an all hell, said he would try. So I got the pill ready and as my husband exploded, in the background, I talked him through it. He almost gagged but he kept drinking water and was ok. We discussed haw different today would be than yesterday which was horirible for him. I told him he would have a good day today. God I hope that is true and I hope he sees the difference. His teacher(who is great) is starting to loose patience. This means so much to the harmony of this household.Good luck.  These kids push us to the absolute outer edge of our emotions, don't they?  Sometimes you think you're going to lose your mind.  That's why I love this forum.  People understand! Well he had a great day at school, got his homework done immediatly in 1/2 hour. Played WII games with Dad and had a great day yesterday. I hope that makes this morning a little easier. The anxiety is killing me,can you imagine what it is doing to him? If did upset his stomech (maybe) he always says that before bed I know we've discussed it with you all, we will discuss it with the doc or 2, next. I pray he takes his meds today as I think he needs to see a pattern.We have not started family therapy yet as he needed the therapy 1st right away after the diagnosis and they are not on our insurance. In 3 weeks we see a new phsychiatrist whom I am hoping can find us someone on our insurance plan for family therapy. He also needs social skills classes. But the meds come 1st. they make the difference in him funtioning and not. And the whole family is sick over this. Hubby called the therapist but he says he's not saying anything or giving back the game system because he is "being played" which is not true. My son just doesn't "own" his condition therefore doesn't see the need for the meds. His anxiety plays a huge part in this and my husband just doesn't understand.I really think you need to back off on the med thing for a while. I would also stay out of the power struggle over the game. The more it becomes an issue the more of a power struggle it'll be. Your son feels so out of control. The meds and his body he can control. Give him some breathing room. Let him see his therapist and calm down a little. Let him know you understand and you are going to let him try it his way for a while. He probably doesnt feel he "owns" any part of this life right now. He's in a negative place and his head is spinning a hundred miles an hour on top of that. Work on some things he can achieve and get rewarded for off meds. It probably wont be school related, but some things at home. See if you can go the few weeks unitl he sees the new doctor. I'm sorry you are all going through this, life is stressful enough.I agree, unfortunatly my husband won't let up because he cannot accept him failing in life as a choice. And that is the choice he is making. The therapist wants us to keep offering the med but back off and ease up. He was not supposed to take the game away and he says he won't but it needs to come back and he can earn time on it for good behaivior. That was the plan. Hubby blew everything up!try to mae your husband understand he's not failing in life because he doesnt take any meds for one month at age 9.............it's a bump........lifetime is a LONG time. Plans get side railed, it happens, you have to keep moving forward.hoping this works for you. Let us know how it goesWell my husband has turned into a raging lunatic. He sacred Jake so bad there was no way he was aking that pill. The whole way to school he apologized and said he wished he could take it again. I feel so sorry for him.  Hubby ripped out his new game system he got for his birtrthday (against the advice and deal with the phsychologist.) He is so anxious he doesn't want to be anywhere near my husband and frenkly neither do I. Bullying him will not get him past this. He needs understanding not meaness. OMG what am I going to do now. He will never take the stuff after this morning! spamula39373.3962731482Well we saw the therapist and Dianne you are mostly correct. We are to offer in a positive way, give 1 positive remark like"Remeber what a good day you had?" and then leave it alone for the next week. Yesterday at play therapy he found some medicine bottles and wanted to make sure they would be there next week. He is starting to talk about the meds and not wanting them, and the therapist wants NO pressure from us at all. Only respond to behaivioral issues. He believes this is only a hump in the long road of things. I also contacted the new Phsych's office and she said the doctor would give us a list of names most of on our insurance and reccomend based on our issue, of prople who deal with everything not just the child. The family, Parents ect. I hate to take him from where he is now but it is uninsured and it will be 5 or 6 weeks before we get in anywhere anyway. If I can find anothe young male, he may be o.k. He seems to do better with them.Oh, sad.   Is he always afraid of dad?  Have you tried family therapy so that dad can work with your son better?  My dh gets mad, too, but not that mad.  It really bothers me because I know that it's just making everything worse. Thanks for your gals replys. Last night he mellowed out a little and Jake had a friend over and went to a cub scout meeting with him. He let him play on his old game box and they had a good time but every time Jake would say I love you Dad, he would ignore him. I felt bad for his little ego.Rage reactions are a common ADHD symptom. It's part of the impulsivity. They get angry quicker. They don't stop to think before acting. Do you think you husband may have ADHD? His behavior seems over the top. Would you consider bringing your husband to your son's next psychiatrist appt and then starting a conversation on this topic?We are pretty sure my hubby has ADHD and have brought it up at the doc's before. He has no desire to do anything about it though at this time. So we wait.I just need a place to vent and this seems to be it. Yesterday was not a great day. Jake had a friend over and they couldn't get along. I reminded him in the morning as told, that he would have to try a little harder since he chose not to take the meds, but that didn't happen. It was a long day. I think I am going to cut our playdates short(usually they are all day) until this is resoved. I can see there is no way he is going anywhere near the stuff but I will do as told by the therapist and leave it alone. Hopefully things will change. Hubby broke a promise to him yesterday which I had to point out at the last minute, because he was too busy with other things. I explained to him it is not ok to promise him something and then go back on it. He came in and did what he said with just enough time for the boys to play. Thank goodnes. I hope this bump is not a huge one.