Why do I bother some mornings? | ADHD Information
FIRST - I am not upset at you or your desicion to medicate your son - that is your choice and I respect that - this rant is more about our society - honest!....Just because those other boys in the class have been dx with ADHD doesn't mean they really have it. The boys will now be labeled with something for the rest of their lives and if they don't really have it - medication is going to control them not them learning how to change their behavior on their own.
I tell my son everyday he can choose to follow the rules, remain calm, etc...and some days he can do it & other days he chooses not to. He tells me he is bored or he didn't want to do what the teacher wanted him to do. School can be boring for kids - why punish them for being kids?
I would love to see the percentage of boys dx and on meds for ADHD in 1st, 2nd & 3rd grade in our country. I bet it would scare the heck out of us.
I don't remember boys in my school being overtly hyper and not a single one on medication. NOT ONE! Why are we drugging our children automatically to control what probably is not a dx of ADHD and not looking at the root of the cause of overly hyper or lack of focus ability in children?
Can of worms WARNING - could this have to do with vaccines like the theory with autism? Or the lack of real food in our diets?
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I just wish tht society would allow boys to be boys. They play differently, harder, more aggressive. Most are bigger than girls, Now girls are on the team and you have to be careful. I think that it is horrible the way that boys are treated and to be changed to be more feminine. Now they say girls are becoming more aggressive, and they are physically fighting more, etc - the way boys used to!!
I have a strong opinion about this because our boys face it daily at school. It just isn't right!!
Ds is in first grade. I have to drive him to school and go inside to sign inhis sister. Every morning I remind him to just put his backpack in his
locker, get out his folders and calmly go into the classroom. Most of the
times it is OK. But some mornings he says he understands and then
proceeds to swing his backpack around, goof around in the hallway and
just be a real pain in the a**!
His teacher is great but did ask the other day if he was getting enough
sleep. When he doesn't get a good night sleep he is a bit active in the
classroom. He has allergies that keep him up and has trouble going to
sleep. He takes Daytrana, Zoloft and Allegra daily as well as a nasal spray
at night.
I am doing all I can and it is still not enough some days. I just feel like
banging my head against the wall.
He is doing great academically at school and is not disrupting the class.
Why then does the teacher have to give me the extra information then
about his "active" behavior. If he is doing his work, helping others and
not disrupting the class, then what is the problem? I think that I just
needed to get that out and now I feel better.
Thanks for listening. Any advice on how to handle this better is
appreciated. Do you think I need to increase the Daytrana. (he's on 15
mg already and is 7 years old.)
What time do you put the patch on your son? It takes 2 hours to work. We put it on my son at 6:30 and his school principal says he's still a little jumpy at assembly at 8:10 but by 8:30 when school starts his teachers say he's fine.
My son is 9 and some mornings are still rough though it's gotten better. It can be VERY frustrating!
He is a kid! If boys are quiet and calm we should just throw them back!!! Why oh why don't teachers see that? Get him to school early enough to run some! My son went to a school that started with chapel. That did not work out! He needed activity to do the transition.
I think 1st grade teaches should start the day with the old chicken fat tape! Remember, go you chicken fat go!! 1st grade should be all about glitter! A 7 year old is goofing off in the hallway? Imagine that???
Help him put his stuff away and then have him run across the playground 3 or four times. Or do some sort of obstacle routine on the equipment. He will burn some steam and go to school like the girl they want him to be!!
wow did that hit a nerve or what!!!
Maybe if the classroom was not so boring!!!
[QUOTE=BL Moretti] He will burn some steam and go to school like the girl they want him to be!!
wow did that hit a nerve or what!!!
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I agree! Society does want boys to be more like girls, and that is what makes it harder when we add in our ADHD'ers.
There have been documentaries on PBS about this. Boys are NOT allowed to be boys any more in society, what is up???
Exercise is specifically beneficial for adhd kids as it raises the dopamine level for a while. The suggestions about exercise are quite good. Might be worth trying.
Get any idea that might work and try it out. If it works steal without even a backward thought.
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I wake up at 5:00 am to put it on him. School starts at 8:00. Well there are lots of theories on why it is so rampant these days. If you go on the list of symptoms...
Let's make a list.
1 They are the wave of the future.
2. It is the diet.
3. They are so bombarded with fast cartoons, video games etc etc...
4. Moms are working and/or stressed so kids do not get what they need during their infant stage.
5. Parents are creating a race of dependent kids with list and constant reminders and permissive parenting.
6. Heavy metal toxicity from pollution and aluminum cans etc.
7. Amino acid imbalance.
8. Allergies to certain foods.
9. Sensitivities to certain foods.
10.Other allergies.
11.Vitamin and mineral depletion
12.Hormonal imbalance
14.Traumatic experiences
15 Head injury
16 Abnormal glucose tolerance
17 Sensory issues
Have I missed any?
Then there is the few who actually have a neurological problem.
My kids have 9 of those possibilities! That I know of. Head injury? Not since they have been with me. I think as parents we need to click these off one by one as we try to address this. Many can be corrected...with supplements or therapy.
And then...we need to let boys be boys!!!
Maybe boys only class rooms with men teachers???
That's what I would like to see. All boys school with male teachers or female
teachers that have boys themselves. They should be trained in boys
learning styles, etc. I actually send him out in the morning before we leave and I didn't do that
this week. I think I am making the connection! We usually let him ride his
bike or scooter for about 1/2 hour before school. I wish the kids could use
the playground before school instead of having to go into the classroom and
sit down in a circle first. (Who invented "circle time" anyway?) I feel better.
It's a private school and small. There are only 13 kids in his class (6 are
boys). Including ds, half the boys have ADHD. It's amazing how common it
is these days. Thanks for all your comments. They help. < =text/>_popupControl(); I agree, some behavior is just BOY behavior!! Who wants a boy that just follows you around doing exactly what you say when you say it?? His teacher, I'm sure, but a kid like that would struggle in the real world. As long as he's doing well in school, I wouldn't sweat it. Try to subtly suggest to the teacher and even principal that you want to hear about the PATTERNS of behavior that are troubling, but the day-to-day bounces of being a boy in a world that values good girl behavior don't need to come home. Yes, besides ds, there are 2 more boys who are diagnosed ADHD. One is on
medication and the other is about to go on medication. I am not labeling
these kids, it is their actual diagnosis. It's alarming to say the least. Did you say half the boys in his class are ADHD? BS!!!
Sorry but just because a boy is active, easily distracted or can't always focus on the task he is seems to be labeled ADHD. I forget the percentage of our population but it is really a small amount like less than 5% -correct me if I am wrong - that is truly ADHD.Boys at age 6, 7, 8, 9 are active - we as a society have added things like TV or video games and see our kids calm and when they aren't they are wound-up, rowdy boys who want to play, pretend fight, and have fun, etc....
Kids get bored and when they get bored they want to amuse themselves - boys are active girls are more reflective.
That hit a nerve as well.
I just found out something that is very interesting from a friend of mine who is starting to teach at my son's school. She tells me almost all the kids get "in trouble" or color changes ALL THE TIME at this school. HOWEVER, the teachers don't tell you that it isn't only your child who misbehaved or didn't follow the instructions the first time. They apparently have a strict, black & white code of conduct and if one little thing happens it is a color change. I would love to see the daily color listings of all the kids in my son's class.
Anyway - don't sweat it.
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