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OK, heres my story. im 32 years old and have adhd. Im extremely hyper and have hard time to focus, cant sit still and forget alot, HOWEVER i have a 148 IQ, physically blessed with balance strength hand eye coordination and even looks.

I didnt graduate high school, but i got my GED. was very easy test, amazing..but i didnt do anything with it, just wanted to prove i could. i did some drugs for a few months as a kid and it took me to alaska (drug free). i met my ex wife there and as her father was rich and took a liking to me, so he let me borrow money to buy houses and sell them which i made some great money. problem was after ten years and a million in property, my wife decidec she wanted to smoke crack, so i fell out of love with her when she became dishonest, then she screwed my best friend, that was that. her dad pulled the plug on me and took everything i had because i didnt want to be with her anymore... at one point he said he would pay me to stay with her, not my style.

so here i am almost 33 years old, moved to destin fl. to start anew. i managed to get some money so i can live for a bit, but i dont want to piss away what i have, if i can use it to make a better life for myself. 40,000 bucks.

i havent had many "real" jobs, but the ones ive had i excelled at, just got bored as saw no real way to get to the top. Cal Worthington was one, i sold alot of cars, but the work hours killed me. working for people that i feel are inferior talent wise didnt help either. i know, work your way up! well the top spot isnt somewhere i invision myself so i quit.

i started an entertainment company in alaska and it went pretty well, so i moved down here and it seems that i might have made a mistake, BUT im here now so i will make due with what i have.

so i sit here, every day, trying to figure out what steps i can take to better my life and get wealthy once again, THIS time by my own doing, using the exp that i got from my "previous" life, problem is, my ex ruined my credit.

i think about school, but holy moly the schedule and work that ill not enjoy isnt very appealing. could get a job as a waiter or something, but then again same applies for Cal.

ive taken most of the medications avail., since i was a child, but it took away the best part about me. hyper focus.

Assume you had 40k and in my shoes, what would you do? what i want is to start a business for myself, but what can i do?

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I believe you're starting in the wrong place, Donald Trump aspirations aside.

You learned a great deal about how to make money and play money games. Those skills won't go anywhere. Trust your self-education.

The BIG questions are:

"What could I enjoy doing [most of the time] every day for the next few years?""How do I combine that with my money-making skills to get the most out of my life?"

i started an entertainment company in alaska and it went pretty well, so i moved down here and it seems that i might have made a mistake, BUT im here now so i will make due with what i have.

i think about school, but holy moly the schedule and work that ill not enjoy isnt very appealing. could get a job as a waiter or something, but then again same applies for Cal.

ive taken most of the medications avail., since i was a child, but it took away the best part about me. hyper focus.

Assume you had 40k and in my shoes, what would you do? what i want is to start a business for myself, but what can i do?

Well, you have convinced me that i can do whatever i want at my age, not including sports which is fine. I'm going to try to get into acting, thats my dream and im gonna see whats out there! not sure where to begin, but im gonna get on it and see where this wild boat ride takes me!

well, i love sports even almost got a full ride to texas a&m for football when i was a kid (screwed it up).

im fantastic at making people happy and enjoy it very much.

kinda far fetched here, but always wanted to be an actor lol.

there are some others, the problem is this. well a few things. fear of success (stems from the rejection aspect) my fear of rejection is so bad, that even though i can get like 90% of any girl i try for, im too afraid to talk to them because what if they say no? (im smart enough to know the odds, but being as emotional as i am, makes it hard. gets to the point where i get so nervous i sweat bullets). i think alot of the problem is that im 32 years old and starting something new now seems scary as hell. what if it was the wrong choice? what if i dont like it? there is someone else that will succeed first in which i wont get that chance. its like tryin to invent something. there is everything you need out there!

now, dont get me wrong i sound like a pesemist, however its not pesemism. its fear. fear that im too old to start.

32? You still have 33 more years to work, at least! It seems like you have some great qualities and you're obviously smart. Moving to a new place is definitely taking the hard route -- you need to make connections, fast. Write your resume. Pay a professional to clean it up for you (not usually a strong point with someone with ADHD). Get on LinkedIn (business networking site) and link to everyone you know and see who they're linked to in your area. They also have jobs, although most of them are for techies. Networking, networking, networking will help you find the right job or niche. Call people, knock on doors, find out what they need. Go to meetings of business groups in the area and just talk to people. I think you can be honest -- tell them you were a successful real estate investor in Alaska and moved to Florida due to a divorce and now you are looking for new business opportunities. Do 3 things a day that will help you find the right job or opportunity (i.e. go to meeting, meet with Mr. X, write resume). Write them down at the end of the day so you can track yourself and see what direction you are headed.

Comb through Monster and Careerbuilder. Maybe even call a headhunter (they get paid by the company who provides the job). If you don't want to wait tables, don't do it just because it's easy entry.
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well, i love sports even almost got a full ride to texas a&m for football when i was a kid (screwed it up).

Have you considered writing about sports or sporting goods etc. etc?

im fantastic at making people happy and enjoy it very much.

kinda far fetched here, but always wanted to be an actor lol.

Well those two statements go together in comedians. Google [videos] Lee Evans

And no, wanting to be an actor isn't far fetched--just remember there's working actors, starving actors and "stars"

Viggo Mortenson has been a working actor for a long time but with Eastern promises--he is finally, at 49 becoming a "star" [go Viggo you sexy thang! ]

Are you willing to spend the time and educate yourself for it?

Then jobs that entail a great deal of rejection, probably aren't for you?

i think alot of the problem is that im 32 years old and starting something new now seems scary as hell. what if it was the wrong choice? what if i dont like it? there is someone else that will succeed first in which i wont get that chance. its like tryin to invent something. there is everything you need out there!

You are 32. You have a lot more than half your life, left. I was 40 when I completely changed careers and I'm likely about to do it again at 50. Nobody is a carpenter from teen years to death anymore

now, dont get me wrong i sound like a pesemist, however its not pesemism. its fear. fear that im too old to start.

No, it's not pessimism. We live in a society that prizes youth thanks to Madison Avenue bullspoot. Stop buying into someone elses' idea of YOUR capabilities.

The joke is--youth don't have the life experience and THAT is sexy and THAT is what makes a good worker, too.

Frankly, I'd never boff anyone under 40 because I'd be bored to tears. Pretty bodies are nice but knowledge and experience are better

Also keep in mind demographics in North America are aging. That means you're just a kid now

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