Heya gang:
Can we consider, the motley group we are--reallio trullio COACHING one another?
If we could put together a bit of a plan, maybe a round robin sort of thing,***we could coach each other. For those who can't get access to pro coaches this might be helpful.
Some ideas:
***Round Robin Example: Fred coaches Sally in pm once a week. Sally coaches Mary. Mary coaches John. John coaches Fred. Sharing--everyone gives and gets. Maybe non-adhd parents could coach parents too
One of the struggles with posting here is a million great ideas from everyone but in the coaching sense--it's overload for an ADHD'er sometimes.
Any more ideas? I think this is very, very important because it will give us all a sense of control in our own worlds, on our own time.
If anybody is willing to give it a go--I could post a working outline on how mentoring is done in agencies and then we could all go over it and re-work it to suit our needs.
Anybody up for it?
Yes, i wan tto try. i am excited by the idea but saddened by my add hx: things i tell a group i think are good, they nearly never do...lol.
[QUOTE=henrymandel]Yes, i wan tto try. i am excited by the idea but saddened by my add hx: things i tell a group i think are good, they nearly never do...lol.[/QUOTE]You don't have to be sad about ADHD--in fact, most of us are pretty excitable
What ya gotta do is figure out how to WORK with it--not against it. You'd be amazed at what you can do
It's also about learning henry. If we set up a process and instructions for coaching--you'll do just fine
And you'll get coached back.LET'S GET SOME COMMITTED [pardon the pun] folks on here. We CAN do it! If we get 6 or more names, I'll see if I can come up with a sorta coaching booklet for us to try based on the techniques that are out there..and y'all add input/ideas/techniques and we can even be our own research project on the best techniques for adults [which we can then post!]
THE LIST--quote and add name pls if you wanna try...
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
[QUOTE=MetisRebel] [QUOTE=henrymandel]
Yes, i wan tto try. i am excited by the idea but saddened by my add hx: things i tell a group i think are good, they nearly never do...lol.[/QUOTE]You don't have to be sad about ADHD--in fact, most of us are pretty excitable
What ya gotta do is figure out how to WORK with it--not against it. You'd be amazed at what you can do
It's also about learning henry. If we set up a process and instructions for coaching--you'll do just fine
And you'll get coached back.LET'S GET SOME COMMITTED [pardon the pun] folks on here. We CAN do it! If we get 6 or more names, I'll see if I can come up with a sorta coaching booklet for us to try based on the techniques that are out there..and y'all add input/ideas/techniques and we can even be our own research project on the best techniques for adults [which we can then post!]
THE LIST--quote and add name pls if you wanna try...
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
I am up for it!
[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=katastrophee][QUOTE=MetisRebel] [QUOTE=henrymandel]
Yes, i wan tto try. i am excited by the idea but saddened by my add hx: things i tell a group i think are good, they nearly never do...lol.[/QUOTE]You don't have to be sad about ADHD--in fact, most of us are pretty excitable
What ya gotta do is figure out how to WORK with it--not against it. You'd be amazed at what you can do
It's also about learning henry. If we set up a process and instructions for coaching--you'll do just fine
And you'll get coached back.LET'S GET SOME COMMITTED [pardon the pun] folks on here. We CAN do it! If we get 6 or more names, I'll see if I can come up with a sorta coaching booklet for us to try based on the techniques that are out there..and y'all add input/ideas/techniques and we can even be our own research project on the best techniques for adults [which we can then post!]
THE LIST--quote and add name pls if you wanna try...
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
I am up for it!
[/QUOTE] [/QUOTE]
Well, we're up to 3. If we can get four, even better. I would suggest that everyone COACH 45 mins per week and BE COACHED 45 mins.
That's a 1- 1/2 hour commitment.
Is that too high?
gbfe
"sad" & "excitable," flailing/falling/failing, too much time spent too out of control & too much time fed up with myself. i'm getting better but...that never lasts for long.
THE LIST--quote and add name pls if you wanna try...
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
[QUOTE=ommas]
i want in
but i want there to be some control on those members who fill threads up with junk .
That's why we pair up and use private messaging ommas--focus on the person being coached when coaching--focus on fixing our own stuff with the coach we are using. So it doesn't get all scrambling, the coach and the coachee are different.
im all for this site having brainstorming and round robins.
im excited
THE LIST--quote and add name pls if you wanna try...
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
[/QUOTE]
"sad" & "excitable," flailing/falling/failing, too much time spent too out of control & too much time fed up with myself. i'm getting better but...that never lasts for long.
THE LIST--quote and add name pls if you wanna try...
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
[/QUOTE]
Okay, we have 5. Good start. How many of you are parents?
[QUOTE=MetisRebel]
Okay, we have 5. Good start. How many of you are parents?
Nope - but does having an ADHD cat count?
Oh yeah, I also have an ADHD hubby which means I am kind of a parent....so is he, I guess.... 
I'll see if he wants to sign up as well.
[/QUOTE]
gbfe
Hello,
Im very new to site and I like it already. Id be interested in some coaching ideas. I am a teacher and work with kids who have LD-Im also a fairly recently diagnosed adhd woman.
Thanks
[QUOTE=ommas]I HAVE 4 1/2 DD
BUT SHE'S NOT ADHD.
i am adhd-i male 40
i work with adhd juvinile delinquints though i think that counts.
[/QUOTE]I've seen your advice ommas--you definitely count as having good parental advice
[QUOTE=digi digi]i'm not a parent. [/QUOTE]
You don't have to be a parent to coach/be coached. Since the start is simple round-robin it doesn't matter. Later, it might.
[QUOTE=MetisRebel] [QUOTE=digi digi]i want in, too.
"sad" & "excitable," flailing/falling/failing, too much time spent too out of control & too much time fed up with myself. i'm getting better but...that never lasts for long.
THE LIST--quote and add name pls if you wanna try...
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
- digidigi
[/QUOTE]
Here's what I've come up with.
- When we are in our role as "coach" it's about our coachee--not our tasks. When we are being coached then it's our role to let the coach support US. Try to keep the roles straight. That's why you will be coaching ONE person, but being coached by another. We ADHD'ers confuse easily--let's try and keep to one role at a time
- You are not doing social work. Remember this [as some of us are in the field]. You are more accurately, mentoring. Remember that ADHD'ers can get off on tangents and we want to prevent that. It's our job to keep them on the playing field even if they'd rather play Nintendo
- Keep your messaging in pm to the point. I know it's nice to talk about dog shampoos but our new round-robin we're checking out is as much about us learning to coach responsibly as ADHD'ers as it is about us learning to get the things done, we want to get done as the coachees. In the beginning I'll put up a instructions to try to follow.
- Right now we will keep it very simple. At the end of the week I will tell WHY we did that exercise based on sound psychological principles I've discovered motivating very difficult people. You only have to suspend disbelief for one week that I might be right. Every week we can discuss whether it worked or not, or what might have worked better, publicly
- The ultimate goal [if we don't get off track] is to create a methodology that WORKS. So we may have a few spills along the way. Unlike agencies that have to 'misinterpret' the data to get funding--we are FREE to experiment because the only thing we care about is whether it works for US or not--isn't that liberating?
- In the beginning we will round-robin [from our list] that way, if anything blows apart as happens in the lives of ADHD'ers we can still continue. Every week put your name BACK on the list if you are planning to continue so we can set up the next week's list.
Okay if one role is 'coaches' what do we call the other role? Any ideas?
Remember--ADHD'ers have GREAT minds--let's use ours for ourselves for a while!
[/QUOTE]
The coaching /coachee roles sound good to me. I may need to refer back to it
if
I forget the details. Ive never been coached before but Ive learned some
strategies that work for me. Im much better with acceptance of myself 
and
try
to develop my strenghts and only give time to my weakness areas enough to get
by. Ive spent way too much time focusing on those and only end up more and
more frustrated. 
Im a mother of 2 small children and look forward to talking with everyone.
The coaching /coachee roles sound good to me. I may need to refer back to it
if
I forget the details. Ive never been coached before but Ive learned some
strategies that work for me. Im much better with acceptance of myself and
try
to develop my strenghts and only give time to my weakness areas enough to get
by. Ive spent way too much time focusing on those and only end up more and
more frustrated. Im a mother of 2 small children and look forward to talking with everyone.
That's why I'm designing our "handbook" from our posts
I just cut and paste them into a doc then I'll edit as we learnI've spent a long time pondering this so we all succeed together
Plus, if anything doesn't work--we can all be honest and SAY it because its FOR us--not for some agency somewhere or whatever. Take out the profit margins and paycheques and voila! we are liberated to learn for ourselves the way WE learn! Obviously we all love our computers--good motivator to start with
This week I'll post our round Robin and next Sunday November 25. I'll post the first exercise. If newbies join after that--they start at exercise one. I'm keeping the exercises so if you're coaching I can resend them to you
On Monday November 26th, team rev your engines!!!!!
gbfe
i also thank you Metis Rebel.
i am lulu and digidigi. i don't know how i put myself on the list twice. so, deleting digidigi. howeer, i am NOT surprised.
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
at work yesterday, a customer told another employee that as i am stupid as a peanut in the circus. i got very/too/ unnecessarily upset
. imagine, calling someone this. i may be stating the following too early however, one of the issues i would like to work on is how i react or do not react to situations such as this.
lulu
[QUOTE=digi digi]i like coachee.
i also thank you Metis Rebel.
i am lulu and digidigi. i don't know how i put myself on the list twice. so, deleting digidigi. howeer, i am NOT surprised.
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
Is this the list?
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
- lulu
at work yesterday, a customer told another employee that as i am stupid as a peanut in the circus. i got very/too/ unnecessarily upset
. imagine, calling someone this. i may be stating the following too early however, one of the issues i would like to work on is how i react or do not react to situations such as this.
Nobody has the right to speak to you like this for any reason. The simplest solution is to draw yourself up, look 'em straight in the eye and say, "I beg your PARDON??!! Would you like to repeat that please?" if you heard the comment.
If you did not overhear it--then look at the other employee sweetly and say, "Is there some overwhelming reason you felt the need to tell me this?"
90% of rudeness can be stopped with those two statements
And I bet that one hurt. It was cruel and unnecessary and whatever the problem was--didn't solve it *sigh*
lulu
[/QUOTE]delete old table [it won't let me leave the field blank]
Is this the list?
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
- lulu
first--i am confoozed, too
. digidigi, lulu and annie are all one person--me. i will go by annie, my real name. well not really my name...but annie i will be. sorry for the confusion. this an updated list, unless of course someone has joined us.
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
[QUOTE=MetisRebel] [QUOTE=digi digi]i like coachee.
i also thank you Metis Rebel.
i am lulu and digidigi. i don't know how i put myself on the list twice. so, deleting digidigi. howeer, i am NOT surprised.
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
Is this the list?
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
- lulu
Nobody has the right to speak to you like this for any reason. The simplest solution is to draw yourself up, look 'em straight in the eye and say, "I beg your PARDON??!! Would you like to repeat that please?" if you heard the comment.
If you did not overhear it--then look at the other employee sweetly and say, "Is there some overwhelming reason you felt the need to tell me this?"
90% of rudeness can be stopped with those two statements
And I bet that one hurt. It was cruel and unnecessary and whatever the problem was--didn't solve it *sigh*
lulu
[/QUOTE][/QUOTE]
second, thank you metis rebel for your wise words. i am constantly practicing remaining rational long enough to respond in such a constructive--maybe even instructive manner.
again, i am sorry for all my names. and that the round robin roundness will have to be reshaped..
anybody know if it is possible to change my user name
i checked out "edit profile" but did not see a place to make this change.
i think i may have to register again.
i also thank you Metis Rebel.
i am lulu and digidigi. i don't know how i put myself on the list twice. so, deleting digidigi. howeer, i am NOT surprised.
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
Is this the list?
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
- lulu
Nobody has the right to speak to you like this for any reason. The simplest solution is to draw yourself up, look 'em straight in the eye and say, "I beg your PARDON??!! Would you like to repeat that please?" if you heard the comment.
If you did not overhear it--then look at the other employee sweetly and say, "Is there some overwhelming reason you felt the need to tell me this?"
90% of rudeness can be stopped with those two statements
And I bet that one hurt. It was cruel and unnecessary and whatever the problem was--didn't solve it *sigh*
lulu
[/QUOTE][/QUOTE]
second, thank you metis rebel for your wise words. i am constantly practicing remaining rational long enough to respond in such a constructive--maybe even instructive manner.
again, i am sorry for all my names. and that the round robin roundness will have to be reshaped..
[/QUOTE]
Okay how many names on this list are *yours*? Just digi digi? Or more than that?
[QUOTE=ommas]
MetisRebel
thank you for starting this and taking the lead
kodos
how about coach and player or robins.
How about "ADVENTURERS!" and Coaches?
and i like the idea of round robin and a small assignment to get things going. so that more can join in as we go .
is that what youre saying is that if new robins join in they can catch up . but any new round will be added once a week?
That's what I was thinking ommas.
If anyone want to join in
just copy and paste this list and add your name to the bottom
- Metis Rebel
- henrymandel
- katastrophee
- ommas
- annie
- mbracethe space
- digidigi
I have confirmation from:
- Ommas [see, you got to be number one]
- MetisRebel
- Katastrophee
I am still in!
[/QUOTE][QUOTE=MetisRebel]
Okay how many names on this list are *yours*? Just digi digi? Or more than that?
I think she is saying that ANNIE, LULU and DIGI DIGI are all her. She deleted Lulu and DigiDigi from the list and just left Annie.
So Lulu needs to be taken off the list and Roundtable schedule....
[/QUOTE]
I have confirmation from:
- Ommas [see, you got to be number one]
- MetisRebel
- Katastrophee
4. annie (only annie)
i am still in, as well
[/QUOTE]
Okay how many names on this list are *yours*? Just digi digi? Or more than that?
[/QUOTE]
i am only annie -- i got to get rid of user name 'digi digi' but do not know how. lulu and digidigi are defunct.
[QUOTE=katastrophee]
[QUOTE=MetisRebel]
Okay how many names on this list are *yours*? Just digi digi? Or more than that?
I think she is saying that ANNIE, LULU and DIGI DIGI are all her. She deleted Lulu and DigiDigi from the list and just left Annie.
So Lulu needs to be taken off the list and Roundtable schedule....
[/QUOTE]
Yup, finally got it
See revised list belowtable update delete
Okay how many names on this list are *yours*? Just digi digi? Or more than that?
[/QUOTE]
i am only annie -- i got to get rid of user name 'digi digi' but do not know how. lulu and digidigi are defunct.
[/QUOTE]
Okay but how is your coach going to pm you? under annie or under digidigi?
delete repeated msg
EVERYONE PM THE PERSON YOU ARE COACHING PLEASE!!! then please send a 'hello' back to your coach.
This ensures that everyone knows how to reach each other and that all systems are "go"
Could everyone make sure either their pms or their buddy lists are OPEN to the list? That way it's easier to keep track...
Thanks!
THREE DAYS TO OUR FIRST ADHD ADVENTURE!!!!
ARE YA READY????
REV UP THAT HYPERACTIVITY AND HYPERFOCUS!!!
YOU CAN DO IT!!!
[/QUOTE]
Okay but how is your coach going to pm you? under annie or under digidigi?
[/QUOTE]
i checked out my pm.
my coach will pm me under my user name which is digi digi (important:: there is a space between digi and digi)
i put everyone on my buddy list including myself. i then successfully pm'd digi digi, so i know for a fact that digi digi is the ticket, my ticket.
i will remain annie on our list.
i hope this is clear. i get myself into situations such as this quite often in my life. then quite a few people, especially those at work, get fed up and not care to understand me.
thanks for your patience.
i pm'd MetisRebel and katastophee.
i am coaching these two, right?
i just want to be sure.
i am ready. [QUOTE=digi digi]
Okay but how is your coach going to pm you? under annie or under digidigi?
[/QUOTE]
i checked out my pm.
my coach will pm me under my user name which is digi digi (important:: there is a space between digi and digi)
i put everyone on my buddy list including myself. i then successfully pm'd digi digi, so i know for a fact that digi digi is the ticket, my ticket.
i will remain annie on our list.
Okay--just remember each week to get hold of your coach and coachee so they're pm'ing the right name, okay Annie?
i hope this is clear. i get myself into situations such as this quite often in my life. then quite a few people, especially those at work, get fed up and not care to understand me.
thanks for your patience.
We can all manage together as long as the lines of communication are open
[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=digi digi]i pm'd MetisRebel and katastophee.
i am coaching these two, right?
i just want to be sure.
i am ready. [/QUOTE]
Ommas is coaching you
You are coaching Katastrophee.
It's round robin so each week you coach one person and one person coaches you. Each week it changes.
You'll get the hang of it
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Name: |
Confirmed |
…is coaching |
…is
being coached by |
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MetisRebel |
yes |
Harrymandel |
Mbracethe space |
|
HenryMandel |
yes |
Katastrophee |
MetisRebel |
|
Katastrophee |
yes |
Ommas |
HenryMandel |
|
Ommas |
yes |
Annie |
Katastrophee |
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Annie |
yes |
Mbracethespace |
Ommas |
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Mbracethespace |
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MetisRebel |
Annie |
Clarification of the table: [hope it helps--if you're still stuck pm me]
MetisRebel is coaching Harry Mandel.
She is being coached BY mbracethespace
HenryMandel is coaching Mbracethe space
He is being coached by MetisRebel
Katastrophee is coaching Ommas
She is being coached by MetisRebel
Ommas is coaching Annie [digi digi]
He is being coached by HenryMandel
Annie [digi digi] is coaching mbracethespace
She is being coached by Ommas
Mbracethe space is coaching MetisRebel
She is being coached by Annie [digi digi]
"If I do not hear from mbracethespace by Friday late night then I will switch it a bit to ensure no one gets left behind…"
however, i cannot find this in the actual post on our adhd message board--only on the post that was emailed to me. i am having difficultly finding the posts, which have emailed to me, on our message board.
ALSO, mts pm'd me today.
[QUOTE=digi digi]the following sentence was in the auto email sent to me of this new post.
"If I do not hear from mbracethespace by Friday late night then I will switch it a bit to ensure no one gets left behind…"
however, i cannot find this in the actual post on our adhd message board--only on the post that was emailed to me. i am having difficultly finding the posts, which have emailed to me, on our message board.
ALSO, mts pm'd me today.
[/QUOTE]
Yes embrace is confirmed.
I deleted posts with old tables so there'd be less confusion. So no, you didn't lose them
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Coach
instructions are in RED Coachee
adventures are in BLUE Just
to let you know the first series of exercises is in a six-week increment to
completion. There is method to my madness and you’re welcome to ask any
questions about the reason why we’re doing the exercises we’re doing in the
order we’re doing them in. Comments
and observations are ALWAYS welcome. ************************************ ADHD Adventure #1 [Monday
November 26 –Sunday December 1st… 7 day exercise] Choosing your first adventure…. Do not choose a negative such as ‘I want to stop
fidgeting’. Pick a positive—what do you want to accomplish? What simple task could improve the quality of your
life if you did it every day? For now, we are not dealing with parenting
struggles—we will specify coaches with expertise and experience for those
struggles, later. Do not do something that someone else
expects such as cleaning the bathroom because it bugs your spouse. Choose
something for yourself. Cut and paste the following list
into a pm to your coach. Just
replace what’s there and write your own list. Follow the instructions. Your
coach will let you know if you’ve done the exercise correctly. If any coaches
are in doubt then either post or pm me K? 1. Choose a task that at some point
in your life you used to do every
day but lately have not. This can be as simple as combing your hair
every day or mopping the kitchen floor. Eg:
Buy milk 2. Break your daily task down into mini
tasks: EG:
1st.
Get dressed [you aren’t going out in our pajamas, are you?]
2nd.
Brush teeth
3rd.
Have shower
4th.
Put on shoes
5th.
Find the money
6th.
Walk to milk store
7th.
Buy the milk
8th.
Walk home [some days, remembering where you live is an accomplishment in itself]
9th.
Pm your coach at the end of the day whether you did your full task or
not. Check off how far you DID get on your mini task list. Every day. Point of exercise: ·
Even simple tasks are the result many actions. ·
Learning to break this down will help with other, more complex tasks
and deadlines later. ·
We’re working towards
a brighter future. [or at least encouraging the mice to find new homes] including how to plan concrete tasks
towards a goal. ************************************* COACHES: 1)
Keep track if the task is accomplished. 2)
If the person does MORE that’s great but if they haven’t pm’ed by the
following day—ASK if they did it. [thus the rewards column!] 3)
It is at your discretion if you consider the task completed based on
THEIR list of the breakdown. Was the most important
part completed? You might even want to ask them if your coachee considers the task
pretty much completed. 4) Remember that
the goal is not perfection even if
your coachee doesn’t see imperfection as success. The goal is task
maintenance and motivation. If your
coachee accomplished their task, here is what you send: Day 1:
one Smiley Day 2:
two Smilies Day 3:
three smilies Day 4:
three smilies and a clapper Day 5:
three smilies and two clappers Day 6:
three smilies and three clappers Day 7: a
star Here’s a
table you can cut and paste back and forth [ctrl C then CTRL V] in your
emails and what it would like if they did the task every day.
Do not
get lost in WHY the person did not complete. It’s irrelevant. They have lots
of other exercises later to work out barriers. Your job is to encourage them
to get back on the playing field ASAP—not to create a perfect play. After
any three smilies comes a clapper. After 4 smilies comes 2 clappers etc. If they
did the task 4 times or more that week IT IS A SUCCESS. MOTIVATE! MOTIVATE!
MOTIVATE!!!! Your job
as a coach is to motivate working towards
the goal. Success is good but you can’t always coach a winning game. What you
can coach is players who play their
best game and support them to try harder next time so they can eventually win a game. If you
have any general coaching questions, not
pertaining to your coachee—POST. Someone else may need the same answer. If
you have a question about how to assist your particular coachee—pm me. At the
end of the week all coaches send me
your adher’s results in smilies/clappers/stars. We will post our
results without names unless we all
agree to put up the full table Next Sunday—let me
know how you all viewed the experience and what went well and what we could
improve. LET’S SEE HOW MANY SMILIES CLAPPERS AND STARS WE CAN GET TOGETHER — GO TEAM GO!!! |
I found this cool little program FREE from a scifi writer and computer programmer who I've got programs from before. There's never any spy/malware in his stuff.
It sits in your computer's system tray and can be networked to all your computers [work and home]
What I like about it is that it will continue to nag me on "sleep" mode to do a job. And you can change the wav file alarm to anything you want. { mine sings, "i feel good!" by james brown
}It takes a bit of getting used to but I'm having success with it so you might want to try it out.
Anyway, for those of you with time struggles you might want to check it out...
REMIND ME PLEASE SOFTWARE
HOW IS EVERYONE MANAGING?
Any questions?
Does one have to read all that to join?
There's enough there for two or ten to read.
I learn in short, blue, centered spurts.
Does one have to read all that to join?
There's enough there for two or ten to read.
I learn in short, blue, centered spurts.
If you want to try--You can get on the list--just add your name to the latest list for next week.
Yes you have to read quite a bit because EVERYONE is coached while they coach someone else.
So you have to be able to read the coaching instructions as well as your exercise [exercise 1] and your coachee's exercise...so you can help them and they can help you
I'm sure you're assigned coach for the week will be willing to email you all the pertinent instructions.I'm sure your coach will be willing to write you in blue should it help
Wednesday,
|
Name: |
Confirmed |
…is coaching |
…is
being coached by |
|
MetisRebel |
yes |
Katastrophee |
Annie |
|
HenryMandel |
|
MetisRebel |
Ommas |
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being coached by MetisRebel
Katastrophee
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I think we're good nowGO TEAM GO!!!
- Katastrophee
Yup, things are good so far! Thanks for asking!
Yup, things are good so far! Thanks for asking!
Sorry I thought we lost ya!
[QUOTE=MetisRebel] Sorry I thought we lost ya!
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Me? Goodness gracious no.... I'm here for the long haul!
Does one have to read all that to join?
There's enough there for two or ten to read.
I learn in short, blue, centered spurts.
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If you want to try--You can get on the list--just add your name to the latest list for next week.
Yes you have to read quite a bit because EVERYONE is coached while they coach someone else.
So you have to be able to read the coaching instructions as well as your exercise [exercise 1] and your coachee's exercise...so you can help them and they can help you I'm sure you're assigned coach for the week will be willing to email you all the pertinent instructions.
I'm sure your coach will be willing to write you in blue should it help
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Blue helps, yes!
But, I'll wait for now.
I don't think I can read all that.
Thanks,
D
[QUOTE=katastrophee][QUOTE=MetisRebel] Sorry I thought we lost ya!
[/QUOTE]
Me? Goodness gracious no.... I'm here for the long haul!
YAY
[QUOTE=Davidornado][QUOTE=MetisRebel] [QUOTE=Davidornado]
Does one have to read all that to join?
There's enough there for two or ten to read.
I learn in short, blue, centered spurts.
[/QUOTE]
If you want to try--You can get on the list--just add your name to the latest list for next week.
Yes you have to read quite a bit because EVERYONE is coached while they coach someone else.
So you have to be able to read the coaching instructions as well as your exercise [exercise 1] and your coachee's exercise...so you can help them and they can help you I'm sure you're assigned coach for the week will be willing to email you all the pertinent instructions.
I'm sure your coach will be willing to write you in blue should it help
[/QUOTE]
Blue helps, yes!
But, I'll wait for now.
I don't think I can read all that.
Thanks,
D
Would it help for you if I broke it down into smaller bites a bit at a time--then you can join us later?
david. i am doing the regular thing. we are in our first week -- things will evolve.
i offer to coach you in a free form style not requiring that reading. write or call if you wish to start n c how it goes. this is not part of the round robin.
henry 808 245 3604 7am to 6pm hawaii time only pls.
gbfe
And yes, David has an excellent point which is why I offered to break it down for him because he didn't have all last week to email or get one msg at a time like our "first team" did so it must look terribly overwhelming.
I'm wondering if we're okay with re-grouping only every six weeks at this point? Because the work load's a bit overwhelming if I have to go back to square one with people each time someone joins...
I actually did a whole psych building/step ladder for six weeks for maximum gain
It's less work if we are team A--the next 6 folks team B--that sort of thing.
Tell ya what,
I'll read it somehow,
and get back to you.
In the meantime, don't let me interrupt what you have going.
Put me on a B team when it starts.
Its not like I'm in a crisis after all these years.
I've learned to cope & compensate enough to survive.
Or, if you can summarize, or link me the summary statement...
OKAY GANGI've HIT AN ICEPATCH IN THE ROAD--a big one.
My OS has to be replaced on my computer. Am looking forward to learning linux but that means also that I no longer have my speed stuff like bookmarks and everyone's name in my pm saved files etc.
I DO still the exercises etc. So we should be able to stay on target.
But I DO apologize in advance if anyone sent a msg or posted or something and I missed it.
So I'm not ignoring you or whatever [or others on the board if I miss something.]
Just give me some time, folks I'm on a learning curve.
The good news is that in a few months--when I've learned enough--a whole lot of neato doors could open up.
Welcome to the world of penguins instead of windows
[QUOTE=Davidornado]
Tell ya what,
I'll read it somehow,
and get back to you.
In the meantime, don't let me interrupt what you have going.
Put me on a B team when it starts.
Its not like I'm in a crisis after all these years.
I've learned to cope & compensate enough to survive.
Or, if you can summarize, or link me the summary statement...
[/QUOTE]Let's get a B team going. We need 6 for a team in case a few drop out [a not uncommon ADHD situation
]. If not David, in 5 1/2 more weeks we WILL include you for sure and assign you a coach and coacheeSummary statement:
Everyone coaches everyone else and everyone GETS coached.
Right now, we have a series of skill building exercises
[each one builds on the last skill learned] for 6 weeks.
Everyone can get support for whatever tasks they wish to accomplish leading to
the ability to organize for themselves with a bit of support when necessary
Also, the coaches will increase their coaching skills through practise.
At that time, the group can decide what worked, what didn't and we can revamp the exercises for greater efficiency. So the B-team gets the results of the best parts of the experiment
[QUOTE=ommas]
well i do see a point to what Davidornado
is saying.
Can we start new rounds in a new post thread?
[/QUOTE]Would love to but right now I can barely maneover as my O/S is now only a dvd.
Until I get this straightened out--I can barely get around this site at all
Unless we have linux wizards available on here--this IS gonna take a while but I'm trying to keep up as best I can
[QUOTE=MetisRebel]
Wednesday,
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He is being
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Annie is
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- Katastrophee
- annie
- Davidornado
- IF YOU WISH TO JOIN TEAM B ADD YOUR NAME HERE
It will take me at least a week to sort out my major computer hassles. Anytime after that, that there are 6 on the coach list--we can start another thread for Team B.
OKAY GANG:
I'M GOING TO POST THIS WEEK'S ADVENTURE AND ASSUME FOR THE MOMENT THAT EVERYONE ABOVE IS "IN"
IF YOU SEND YOUR TASK LIST TO YOUR COACH AND S/HE DOESN'T REPLY BY MONDAY NIGHT--I WILL SWITCH YOU AROUND
ADHD ADVENTURE #2
Sunday December 1st, 2007
Pick one task that you would like to do weekly. This time—it should be a task that you’ve generally struggled doing weekly even though you know it improve the quality of your life if you did. Again—this is about YOUR needs, not your family or friends’ expectations.
Again, break it down.
EG:
TASK: Grocery shopping
BREAKDOWN:
- Look around the house, make list
- Eat sandwich to avoid overshopping
- Find a quarter
- Find car keys
- Drive to store
- Get shopping cart [thus the quarter!]
- Get what’s on the list
- Put the cart back
- Take groceries home
- Put groceries away
- Have nice cup of tea and eat the fresh cookies [after all, what’s the point without enjoying the groceries?] If you can, find a way to reward yourself here for doing a big task.
Now-- keep up last week’s task as much as you can.
COACHES FOR THIS WEEK’S ADVENTURE:
- If your adventurer/coachee does most of their list on their new task they can have three smilies/three clappers and if the main job gets done—their star. Designate smilies, clappers and stars during the week as you see fit.
- Keep in mind it's the MAIN TASK that must get done. Smaller, less important tasks may be let go along the way as long as the main task is accomplished.
- IF your coachee/adventurer can also manage to keep up last week's task for more than 4 days ADD A STAR
- If they keep up last week's task for 6-7 days ADD TWO STARS.
Hi there,
I would like to coach/be coached. I have some ideas after hiring two coaches of my own (they even overlapped for a while)
Please let me know if I have to wait for round c
gbfe
Ok.
So where do we coach? get coached?
When do we coach? get coached?
How often do we coach? get coached?
gbfe
Are we still doing Assignment 2 this week??
I haven't heard from anybody.
I'm confused.... (doesn't take much!!)
gbfe
!
I HAVE MY FILES BACK YAYA!!!!
Now. Since so many got lost in the process here's what I suggest...
I suggest that we start Adventure #2 AGAIN. Those of you who did it--great, twice won't hurt you
GROUP A who did Adventure #1
Please confirm HERE:
- MetisRebel
- Ommas
- Annie [digi digi]
Now, I would really like to get the results from Group A before I get into Group B. That way we can see what worked and what didn't to improve the program for Group B.
If you folks think that we should just soldier onwards and worry about results later--let me know. I'm well aware of how little concrete help is available for some folks.
My preference however is to fine-tune as we go and group A are our beta-testing group
Group B hang onto your jockeys and we'll get ya all signed up in a few weeks. Okay? You will need 6+ in your group to do a round-robin coach.
Hi there,
I would like to coach/be coached. I have some ideas after hiring two coaches of my own (they even overlapped for a while)
Please let me know if I have to wait for round c
[/QUOTE]You can get into group B, no prob.
The exercises thus far are designed to handle 6-12 people at a time.
I'd be interested to know what you got from the coach experience and why you would have 2 at a time?
Hi MetisRebel,
I had a couple of reasons, one coach shut down for vacation for about 6 weeks. That one was working on an overall approach to organizing home and work. The other I hired because of a job crisis at work. It was great help - I walked out of my job with a great severance package as a result, and did not lose my cool during the tense weeks ahead of my final day.
[QUOTE=jy5512]Hi MetisRebel,
I had a couple of reasons, one coach shut down for vacation for about 6 weeks. That one was working on an overall approach to organizing home and work. The other I hired because of a job crisis at work. It was great help - I walked out of my job with a great severance package as a result, and did not lose my cool during the tense weeks ahead of my final day.
[/QUOTE]That is so excellent!
Too often we don't cope well with change or we know we must make a decision that's right but we don't have the skill on how to do it in our own best interest. Nor the supports in place.
You are in Canuckland I see. Getting help here for Adult ADHD under OHIP right now is a horror. As far as I can tell--there are very few places dealing with presently. As funding in Ontario tends to be "flavour-of-the-month" social services--we're not the flavour right now, unfortunately for us.
In social service terms what I'm attempting here is a form of peer support group. Group-groups are difficult for adhd'ers because of the distraction factor so the work is individual with a peer coach.
I believe that people learn in groups more efficiently and that the supports built in groups can be maintained long past the group dates.
I set up an exercise for the group based on a series of levels designed to create skills that will help get tasks done. These tasks are designed in a step system leading to particular, larger goals. Each person chooses their own actual tasks. This also includes their ability improve their coaching skills. So far I have designed a 6 week "starter program" and a 4 week follow up program. Motivation and permanent self-reliance are key points.
Contrary to popular opinion, I don't believe self-reliance is singular. I believe much of it is based in peer support. I believe it's more about knowing when you're floundering, getting support and giving it to jump the hurdle.
My function is co-ordination. I too am coaching and being coached. I make sure everyone gets hooked up and has their exercises. And I am trying to track results so we can improve the methodology.
So this may be quite a different experience for you
OKAY GROUP A--To cut down confusion I started a new thread for our own exercises and round robins.
It is:
HERE:
http://www.adhdnews.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=29746& PN=1&TPN=1
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