Chores? | ADHD Information

We use the chart to check things off and then he gets rewarded for every chore(down to eating beakfast and getting dressed.) those chips can be turned in for money and tv/video time.Hello! I was just wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to get kids to do chores, besides the charts?We used to use the money chip method where he would get so many chips for doing a certain chore, and if he reached a minimum amount of chips at the end of the week, he would get his allowance.  My son is very intelligent and loves "earning money" so this is what works for us.

Hmmm . . . Money works when he's got his eye on something he'd like to buy, and much as I always said I'd never use food as a reward (and I'm also a health nut so it really goes against the grain) candy works when he doesn't care about money. 

Of course nothing seems to work for long so I'm constantly trying to think up new things.  I just bought an old fashioned style gumball machine from CVS- it only cost - I'm going to start adding change for the gumball machine as a special reward.  We try to stay away from food dyes and my kids typically only get sugar- free gum, so it really will be special as I haven't found any dye-free, sugar- free gumballs.   

The cycle in our house typically runs something like this over teh course of a few months: Reward, bribe, implore, nag, yell, withhold privleges, punish, give up.  Then after I've ended up cleaning up after everyone for a couple weeks I hit that pms time of month and totally wig out which startle the kids (and DH) back into doing the chores and after I calm down I devise a new reward system.  I'm working on everything past the implore stage.  Although I must add that the occasional mommmy tantrum really does have enough shock value to be effective when used sparingly.

We have a "chore board" at home.  Everyday my DS has 3 chores to complete before he can play.  During the week he must do well in class, do his homework and then I pick the third.  Usually something like unloading the dishwasher, putting away laundry or vacuuming.  On weekends he has three chores each day.  We have tried marbles, charts, stickers  - you name it we have tried it and they all failed until now.  My son actually thanks me for giving him the chore to do and will remind me to change the board if I forget.  I am not naive enough to think it will work forever, but I love that it works now!

Good luck.
We do the charts because we were told to never use money as the reward technique until they are much older and understand the real value of earning a dollar. As they get older we will turn the point system chart into their allowance chart. ( at the end of the week the total of their points earns them something - the more points the better the reward. - from a special dessert to a toy - you don't always have to over indulge the reward - it will be hard to top next time, etc....)

How old are your kids? Mine are 5  &  7. Their chores are to make their beds every morning (except Sunday) and to put their clothes away ( that I folded and left on their beds). It took a while for them to get into the habit but now it is almost like clockwork. Also, they must clean up the playroom every day if they have made a mess. That used to be a hassle until I reduced the amount of their toys - kids today have WAY TOO MUCH and they don't respect their possessions or property. Mine destroyed everything but now that they only have a few things they take better care of them and in turn take better care of other things.

Every once and awhile they grab the garbage and recycling bins in the am. They are at the age where they want to help and I am going to take advantage of it so it will stick in their minds that I am not their maid nor will their spouse become their maid - Like my husband was treated by his mother picking up after him and he expects me to be as well.

I was told to start out simple and to eventually add as it became routine. It took months and I still have remind them some days but it had become much easier. Patience and persistence it key.

A bad habit is developed over time and so it a good one!

newmom39395.2682986111So far I haven't had to do anything special to get my son to do chores because he loves to help out in any way that he thinks isn't a kid thing. He helps put the dishes away, set the table, vaccum the floor, clean his room. We just make sure to excessivley praise him for his efforts which usually have to be repeated (but he's doing something, and he likes doing it)The Marble System someone posted on here works for some of that. You should really take a look at that. Our son really is enjoying this, and so are we! It really helps in a lot of ways!!