My teen doesn't have ADHD, but if she lost one of my things she would pay for it. If she used one of my things without permission and lost it she would be grounded for a LONG time, and pay for it.
For my 10yo who does have ADHD , we have rules, if it is not yours do not touch it without permission, and if you do, and it is broken/lost/whatever then you are responsibvel, and there will be consequences.
I'm new to the message board! Hope someone can help me. My 14-year old son typically is disorganized and loses things constantly. I usually adopt a "natural consequence" attitude to things hoping he will be more conscious and responsible. He does take medication. However, now he's taken to using my things (phone chargers, music, keys, etc.) without permission and loses them! I am at my wits end! I can't afford to keep replacing things and don't want to lock things up! But I don't know what to do!!
Help!
Coolmom47
Hey- I just replied to your other post, too.
I totally agree with edbson- if he loses it he replaces it/works off the cost of the item. When my 9 yr old put a hole through a door when he was mad he got a list of chores and their monetary value. He went with us to home depot to find out how much it would cost to replace it, and my husband also made him help paint and hang the door.
That being said, I dated a guy with adhd when I was in high school. He too had the habit of "borrowing" his parents things. Their solution was to keep anything that they didn't want him taking in their bedroom and locking the door when they left the house. Kind of sad, but easier than constantly fighting about it.