Rant, my wife just won’t talk to me! | ADHD Information

I think you hit the nail on the head Joy, I think I've worn her down, as I can never seem to find an appropriate time.

Sounds like counseling is a good idea.

It sounds like it's a communications thing- your wife wasn't in a position to be "receptive" at the moment, so it would be important at times like that to make sure you know why and not just say I don't feel like talking right now.  Something like, I'm so tired that I don't think I can give this the attention it deserves, let's talk about it after I've slept/had some coffee/whatever.

On the other hand, when your wife tells you she doesn't want to talk, instead of pressing the issue, let her know it's important to you and ask when a good time would be.

Now I have no idea how old your baby is, how sleep deprived you wife, or if she was disinclined to talk to you before the baby was born.  But speaking from personal experience, I suffered postpartum depression after the birth off my daughter and my DH would tell you that I was not very interested in him and generally not much fun to be around until I got help.  I have no idea if any of that even applies to your situation, but it was just something that popped into my head after the mention of the baby, so I thought I'd share.   

If your wife is taking care of a sick baby, it's your job to take care of HER!  She seemed quite reasonable in her reply to you here, and I can completely see where she's coming from.  She would probably be thrilled if you made her some coffee and started doing the laundry or cleaning up and might not mind talking at the same time .  My husband also sometimes springs his current interest on me at the most inopportune times, and I've learned to let him know that I just can't take it in right now.  He often forgets about it after that anyway -- .  I am also very specific about what the family needs right now in case he's doing his own thing and the kids are melting down or something else is going on that he needs to attend to.

I recently heard a 50-ish gentleman talk in a session about ADHD and relationships, and he said that he wasn't a good judge of whether he was being appropriate or not, especially when unmedicated.  Since she's been living with this for a while, you may have just worn her down.  A good marriage counselor could probably help you guys sort these things out.

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I am going through possibly the same situation. I have recently been diagnosed with having ADD about 2 weeks ago! And have been prescribed Adderal. I do believe she is burnt out from hearing about it, as well as my husband. I am worried about what the Adderal does to my heart (beating fast and pounding) so every time I try to tell him about it, he doesn't listen AT ALL. He is sick of it.