maturity level?? | ADHD Information

I have noticed that our dd is very immature for her age is this a normal part of ADHD or is it just her?ADHD kids are, on average 3 years behind their peers until adulthood.

My daughter is for sure 2-3 years behind in maturity. I've stopped worrying too much as she seems to progress, so she is always 2-3 years behind, but at least at 13 she acts like a 10 or 11 year old, not a 7 year old..............well, most of the time, today she picking constant fights with her 5 year old sister ........but you get the point!

i've always known my dd was imature, but it wasnt till i found out she might have adhd and did some resersh, and found out that they are in fact imature for there age! knowing that, i'm ok with it, since i have add and was always imature, i'm pretty sur it kept me out of trouble, i preffered playing with my stuff than going out!

My daughter was just diagnosed with ADD and ADHD.  She is very immature for her age of 13 and it's been a struggle.  It's good to know that it may be because of her ADD that she is this way.  Thank You for making me understand her a little better!!!!  Now I won't harp on her so much to act her age.  It just gets a little frustrating sometimes.  She is 13 and hangs out with 9-10 year old girls (acts like she is that age too), I don't usually care that she acts that way but sometimes it drives me bonkers to see her act the way she does at the bus stop or on the bus.  Kids make fun of her so we have had "Family discussions" on what is appropriate behavior.  Girls her age are mean to her and constantly make fun of her.  Maybe when she gets her medicine things will change a little.  I am new to all of this so this board is helping me in a BIG way!!

Thank You all of YOU!!!!

My 9 year old 4th grader is 2-3 years behind in maturity. He likes to play with younger kids and enjoys the big buddy system we have at school. Every big kid has a smaller little buddy on campus they mentor. He loves it. He came home a last week excited to tell me about the new friends he made in 2nd grade. It is normal.

My son is very immature - 14 and acts like 10 - maybe 12 on a good day.

 

Like others have said, I think kids with ADHD are typically immature.

I used to think that my daughter was immature also. But now, at age 11, she no longer seems immature to me. She seems to be on the same level as other girls her age and in fact her "best friend" is two years older. My daughter now seems to be a typical "tween": very grownup and teenager-like at times, and more like a little kid at other times.

My daughter also used to be on the small side physically. In preschool, other kids were always picking her up and carrying her around. She even appeared small when I had an ultrasound, causing my doctor to wonder if my due date should be changed. However around second grade she started growing like a weed. She is now tall for her age (a string-bean) and well into puberty.

Perhaps not coincidentally, we started giving her omega 3 supplements when she was in first grade. I can't help wondering if perhaps there is a connection there.
My 16yr old is about as mature as a 12 year old.  I too have wondered why, but I see that it seems to be an ADHD thing.  He is also small for his age (due to being on meds for so long.  He dropped from the 95th percentile when he was 6, to the 5th percentile when he was 14. Not sure what he is now, he has had a growth spurt recently) But anyway, he tends to get along with kids younger than him, and no matter what age group he is playing with, he will bring the maturity level even lower.  He was playing with some toddlers recently (my niece and nephew) and I came in the room to find him curled in a ball, and they were hitting him as he cowered and laughed behind  a pillow.  I was like "hello? Lets bring the level up a bit, shall we??"  My point is that no matter who he is with, he is ALWAYS the most immature one in the group.  Its very frustrating.  Maybe he will grow out of it? Let's hope so!!

MY DD is adhd also and I would say she is around 3 years behind her peers also. At church and school she is friends with the younger kids that the kids here age. IMO as she get older her materity will catch up. THe meds is has been on hasn't helped that. I guess she will grow up eventually and we will all wonder how they grew up so fast. Melissa

Well that makes me feel alittle better - cause there are times that my almost 5yr acts older then her and she is almost 8.  What worries me is when she starts puberty - which she is already showing signs of with moodiness and such.  But know that I know that it is normal I won't harp on her to much to act her age and then set tasks to her maturity level not her age level, she is just now getting into dolls and such shows little to no intrest in things girls her age are showing an interest in, she is also small for her age, she weighs maybe 42pounds and is about 42inchs tall.

Thanks 

Lauren

I'm like you, where I have taken into consideration that my 16yo DS/ADHD is behind maturity-wise.  Gotta bite my tongue sometimes, if you know what I mean; otherwise, I'd be yapping at every little thing.  Of course, his teenage antics can wear a mom down! 

Thinking back over my DDs teenage years, there were trying times, too, but more challenges have occurred with my DS at this age, some obviously because of ADHD. 

Good luck to you and your kids.  BTW - my DDs name is Lauren, too - love that name!

My almost 16 year old IS NOT DRIVING yet per our request.  He is not mature enough and ADHD males have the highest statistics of getting in accidents.  Everyone politely says, "He is almost 16!  Is he taking Driver's Ed?"  We just smile real big and say, "NO HE IS NOT."

twirly1

I will agree with the 3 year comment.  My son is 13 yrs. old and acts 10.  My 11 yr. old acts older big time.  It is so frustrating.  I know my son will not drive at 16 either!!!! nurse4wounds39432.7537268519

My 11 yo dd is pretty immature too.  There are kids in her girl scouts that put up with her but I see the eye rolling and it bugs me.  Luckily, she doesn't really mind or just doesn't notice (that's the inattentive part).  Sometimes it bugs me that the girls can be so mean but I try not to draw attention to it since she is not worrying about it.

YMMV,

 

I know she doesn't have many friends and I wonder if it is because of the immaturity, she plays with kids at school, church, and girl scouts but has never really had a sleep over, or such and one of the girls she really like to play with is a neighbor and goes to our church and she is only 5.  I am like she is almost 3yrs younger then her, she also plays well with her brother who is 3yrs younger so it does make since just tireing cause I have to remind myself about it.  I don't look forward to the next few years with girls cause they can be mean (it stinks) but they can be the sweetest things when they want and change in a heartbeat.

Thanks for the replys

Lauren

one of my daughters best friends was three grades under her ( 3 years younger by age). They played together all the time. Once my daughter hit 5th - 6 th grade it faded. She is a neighbor and they get along great at neighborhood get togethers, but they've grown apart. As long as she has frineds, who cares how old they are?

My son is 9 and sometimes he acts like a teenager and others like a 6 year old or less. He is unmedicated so I can't use that as an excuse. He is very moody sometimes and has friends in 2nd grade he is in 4th.