help me plssssssss i need sm help i keep cuting myself n want to stop! i just dont no how to pls help!!!!!!!!!!
wb XX much love rosiebabycakes XX
I'm no doctor, but I'm going to say that your first step should be to talk to someone. Or tell someone- anyone close to you whom you trust. Sometimes friends work to help you stop, but sometimes a councilor or someone is needed.I've been there, too, and I know how addicting it can be.
My best advice would be to keep yourself distracted and your hands busy: cleaning is what I usually do, but video games, bike riding, basketball, drawing, anything to keep your hands busy and off of the metal objects.
Resisting it is hard, and it never gets easier. But after a while, you've been there before, and you know what to do; how to get out.
:-)
~ Katie
i see a counciler buti dunt want to tell him coz ino he will tell ma mum n dad n stuff.
thanx for the advise n i will try my best but i must say it has got better coz i have got a job with horses so my mind get took offit most ov the time
thanx katie its nice to no sm1 else has bin there .
XxrosiexX
Rosie Counseling is supposed to be confidential however harming yourself they will have to break confidentiality is true to help you. Please tell her/him for your own good. What are you afraid of by your parents knowing? They love you I am a parent and would want to know what is going on with my child to help her and be there for her. Please get help for yourself. Actually, Rosie's fears are pretty well-founded. There are still a lot of uninformed people who really overreact to cutting--they think you're psychotic or something, when really it's just that you've got stress you're trying to deal with and don't have the mental resources to find some other way to do it. And then there are those who think you are doing it "for attention"--completely ignoring that most people who use self-injury are almost paranoid about hiding it; and that the one in a hundred who show their injuries usually NEED the attention they're asking for.I hurt myself rather frequently from the age of six to the present, though for the past two years I've done so hardly at all, and over the past year and a half only once.
I wrote an essay about the topic, which discusses both the social impact of self-injury and the basics of dealing with it:
So you're a self-injurer? Don't freak out.
The only solution I found is to figure out why I did it (my Asperger's diagnosis was a big help; I found out that seemingly "normal" things like polyester clothes were completely stressing me out because sensory overload is so easy for me to get into). Then when I knew why, I could find something else that also served the same purpose and replace it.
In my case, that was a combination of three things:
Antidepressant meds and therapy (part of the problem was underlying depression--but not all self-injurers are depressed; many aren't even diagnosable with anything at all--these psychologically healthy people are generally dealing with high levels of stress).
An apartment of my own (living with other people stressed me out badly, again due to Asperger's)
A willingness to use the repetitive, self-calming motions used by most autistics to help myself calm down. (I'd been told "Don't fidget" so often during my childhood that I'd stopped doing anything more than surreptitious muscle-twitching... nowadays, especially in private, I rock or wave my hands or rub an object. For some reason we don't quite understand, repetitive movements are very calming. Keeping a "worry stone" in your pocket to rub is a well-known tactic to deal with anxiety for even non-autistic people.)
Now, I know most self-injurers aren't autistic; but the principle of finding out why and finding another way is the same no matter what your brain structure.
I would advise the OP to get counseling. It really does help; and if it doesn't, it's probably just that she hasn't found a counselor she can connect with. (That's usually nobody's fault; just means to find another person.)
However, I would also advise her not to reveal the self-injury initially, or it (rather than the emotions causing it) may become the primary focus of the counseling. If you just focus on stopping SI and don't deal with the underlying stress or depression, then counseling won't help much. Also, if she doesn't reveal it right away, the counselor has the time to get to know her and understand that she's not hurting herself because she's psychotic or suicidal.
I understand it does take time to find the right counselor personality conflicts and the trust factor. I just wish you both the best.
wow yhoo guys thanx 4 the help since i have read ya stuff i have hardly cut myself !
just realy nice to no ppl no how i feel and sm1 cares about me <3
i have told my mum and dad and thay were upset and a bit angry but it wasnt as bad as i thought it would bee
FANKYHOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
much love and hugs !!!!!!!
[QUOTE=rosiebabycakes]wow yhoo guys thanx 4 the help since i have read ya stuff i have hardly cut myself !
just realy nice to no ppl no how i feel and sm1 cares about me <3
i have told my mum and dad and thay were upset and a bit angry but it wasnt as bad as i thought it would bee
FANKYHOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
much love and hugs !!!!!!!
[/QUOTE]That's great, Rosie! :-)
The dreading telling always seems to be worse than the telling.
But don't forget, that it's still a healing process.
Hugs,
~ Katie
[QUOTE=rosiebabycakes]
wow yhoo guys thanx 4 the help since i have read ya stuff i have hardly cut myself !
just realy nice to no ppl no how i feel and sm1 cares about me <3
i have told my mum and dad and thay were upset and a bit angry but it wasnt as bad as i thought it would bee
FANKYHOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
much love and hugs !!!!!!!
[/QUOTE]*I am proud of you.
=] fankyhoo every1 !
it means alot =]
fanx xxxxxxx
hope i can help yhoo al with something tooooo =]
much love to yhoo all <3 xxxxxx
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