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I've spent an enormous amount of time and money on alternative treatments. It simply misses the boat on focus. Yes, it reduces hyperactivity and impulse symptoms, but not focus to the degree required by academic demands. If your child has mild ADHD, alternatives may be all that you need.

NoTellin39449.4013657407Hi,

I've been a member for a while, just not a consistent one because my son seems like he gets better and then worse. I have trouble accepting that he(7yrs old) has ADHD. We had him dx last spring time and I've just dedicated my whole life to him. But the homework battles are terrible and he gets so depressed at himself. He is good at school but has trouble focusing. He is brilliantly smart if he applies himself but doesn't have the attention span to stay focused. I've been talking to his teacher who says that she went through the same thing with her son and finally at the age of 9, she put her son on medication. I have an appt with my son's doctor Jan 2 to do blood work and to look into putting him on meds. I just am at my wits end and our whole family is affected. We have another son who is 2 years old and doesn't have ADHD. There is a tremendous difference between the two brothers. Like night and day, like black and white. I would never believe it until I experienced it for myself.

Anyway, I'm open to advice and I wanted to ask if anyone has heard of ADHD: A Path to Success: A Revolutionary Theory and New Innovation in Drug-Free Therapy?? I'm just really worried about medication and I've tried vitamins and Omega 3's, so I just don't know. I know the ADHD is affecting his self esteem.

Please help!!

I've never heard of that particular book, so I can't really comment on it, but I can tell you about a few of the research studies I've read recently.  I had to do a speech for a class I'm taking and adhd/medication was my topic.  According to Russell Barkley (leading expert/researcher- I highly recommend his books) stimulant medication is among the most researched medication given to children.  Ritalin has been in use for over 50 years, and in one of his books Barkley cites research that shows that medication is the only treatment proven to improve or normalize brain function and that it is effective in 75%- 92% of those who try it.  That's not to say that other things don't help, but meds are typically recommended because they are highly effective and have minimal side effects.

As a parent, I spent the first week that my son was on meds in a teary- eyed state.  Not because I was sad about him needing meds, but because for the first time ever my son was able to communicate with me in an organized fashion- he could tell me about his day in a way that didn't leave me standing there saying "Huh??????" and in sequential order no less!

He's been on meds for over a year now and I have never regretted it.  It can be a difficult decision, but I've seen my son's self- esteem soar over the past year.  He's consistently getting good grades now and when he has trouble or gets frustrated he understands that it's because his brain is being uncooperative, not because he's stupid. 

As I said, it can be a difficult decision, but I'm sure that most of those of us who's children are on meds would agree that it's worth it.

I have read the book, it does not give a therapeutic dose for Omega's however and IMO misadvises on vitamins and minerals.

We do omega's and you will find alot about them in the alternatives section of this board. That said, we do omega's but DD also takes Concerta because she does have Adhd, and needs meds to concentrate and have a productive life at this time.

"If your child has mild ADHD, alternatives may be all that you need."

You mention about mild ADHD, is there a degree of measurement, some kind of scale that is provided by diagnosis process? How do doctors decide on the dosage, I mean beyond the factors of age and weight?

thanks

The homework battles is one of the reasons I finally gave in and had my gdd

tested both  by the school and pyschologist for ADD.   In second grade it was a

fight every night to do homework....but we got thru the school year. Very

 supportive teacher who work hard with her. No medication....that year.

 

When she got to 3rd grade their was even more homework also she has to work

more alone with just the teachers directions.    To say the least it has become

an nightmare ...with the hassel of getting the work done.  And her not following

directions in class. 

 

We started med. over holiday and will see if homework situation improves. And

 class work improves

But I noticed that since she took the med. started on Friday .....she has

sat still and worked on a project where you colored a page and cut it out.

She would never sit still long enough to finish anything before stop half way thru.

Even her social out look has improved and that is a big plus.

 

I am so hoping medication will help with the follow thru and help her focus more

on tasks.

I was also very against med. but after reading more and more information....

weighing the pro and cons.....I think I made the right choice.   What ever you

decide it is a very big decision to make........ weighs heavy on you to make the

 right one.  Hang in there.

We agonized for months while we did aletrnative treatments over meds and when we finally made the choice to try them because nothing else was helping the focus, my ds took them for 2 weeks and then refused saying he didn't need help. BIG MISTAKE! Life around here is very hard. My son has mild ADHD but still needs the meds to focus and he has BAD anxiety and needs meds for that as well. It is a big decision but do not be so afraid of meds. It is trial and error but when you hit the right one things can really change for the better for your child and for you. Good Luck with your decision

my daughter has "moderate ADHD, mainly inattentive". Thats how the pcyh diagnosed her. To describe her, unmedicated, she it SO inattentive she cant shower and remember to wash and rinse her hair all the wya without getting distracted by the shampoo and bubble bath on the side of the tub. She looks in the cabinet to get a cup for a drink, but is so distracted she forgets why she's there. Needless to say, imagine her trying to get through 7th grade social studies .  On medications she still needs to be redirected, but not every single step of the way. I still have to remind her to do this or do that, but she can do it unassisted. I cannot imagine where she'd be today if we hadnt used meds. She has coexisitng LD so schoolwork is hard to begin with, but impossible with her added ADHD if untreated. A child who is very smart and learns easier may be able to more easily overcome their distractability, or get by being distracted if things come more easily. Not sure if that gets my point across, but........

Doctors decide which med and dose soley on experience. This is why it is very important to have a psychiatrist manage meds as they the most experienced. They generally start low and build until symptoms are relieved without seeing any/mild side effects. There is no wya to know until you try which med at which dose is going to work. We've use dseveral different meds and combos over the past several years. She is now doing very weel, so far, on Strattera. She does also take 1200mg Omega's and daily multi vitamin.

Thank all of you for your responses. My main concern is the fact that I have hypertension and was diagnosed in my early twenties plus I have a severe allergic reaction to any type of medication that has serotonin in it (even IBS meds like zelnorm that has a tiny bit of serotonin). I know it is not the same drug used but it messes with the neurotransmitters and I worry that because I have such a severe reaction to these types of meds, my blood pressure skyrockets to a life threatening state and I don't want my child to have a heart attack. It is really scary.

I do think he has mild ADHD so I'm going to try some alternative natural stuff 1st. I've been praying about this for a while and for right now that is where I'm headed. My brother in law that has ADHD, who is very successful as an adult was on ritalin growing up and he hated it and has some health problems now and worries that they were caused by the ritalin. He frowns on the meds and he still suffers from ADHD, it is obvious to me, I see the symptoms in his lifestyle.

Although I do seem more optimistic cause right now we are in a calm period, without homework hurricane battles(as I call them) cause of the holidays. I've also become a lot calmer and loving but firmer with him and more consistent with punishment. So we will see.

Mild, moderate, severe -- these are all subjective descriptions that can really be assigned by anyone. And it may be different at school than at home.NoTellin39449.4018981481My 6 yo daughter started her meds on the 21st, and this Christmas was the first meltdown-free holiday we have had since her birth. I cried and cried at my mother's christmas day, watching her figure out all by herself how to ride her new bike. Before, when she would push on the pedals and nothing happened she would abandon it in frustration and tears. Now she rides up and down the driveway, focused and proud of herself...she looks so free. Her mind is working in a linear way now, you can see it on her face, and she can now follow instructions with 2 or more directions in them without getting lost somewhere along the way, i.e. go wash your hands, get your shoes on and bring me your jacket. And she talks without the slightly manic tone to her voice. Shes calm, and it freaked me out at first because I couldn't tell the difference between "normal" child behavior and drugged zombie behavior and I was afraid she was going to zombie out on me. My mother calmed me down by reminding me that we had never known "normal", just stressed and crazy. And seeing how she was carrying on conversations and playing, she wasn't zombied. it was just sort of strange to think "ok, so THIS is what it should be like". it's a difficult decision to put your child on medication, but after seeing the difference it has made already for her, I'm so glad I did. Good luck to you!I am like you in that I decided no more kids after this one! I would look at other people and wonder "why on earth would you want to deal with 2 or 3 more of these things? Are you crazy???" If my daughter had not been so difficult I might have had more. Not that I would trade her for the world, exactly, but I did wonder for a long time what was wrong with me because it was SO hard to even like her. Nothing EVER satisfied her, and as for doing all the "normal" things like the zoo or movies or even just going to church were EXHAUSTING and frequently ended with me vowing never to let her out of the house again. We go back to the psychiatrist on Jan. 2 to see how well the meds are helping and to make any adjustments, etc. that may be needed. I am so glad I found this forum, everyone that has replied to my posts has been so supportive and welcoming. It's nice to know there are many other mothers that are having all the same doubts and fears that I am, and it's also nice to be able to report on the good things and have someone else really understand! Most people don't really get it when I say "she was able to ride her bike". They're like, "she's 6, of course she can ride a bike. What's the big deal?" But when anything doesn't end in emotional disaster, it's a VERY big deal at my house! Good luck at your appointment and my hopes and thoughts are with you!Thanks for the encouragement. I really need it. I also didn't know what a "normal" behaved like when I only had one. I thought to myself when my ds was younger, "How do people have more kids, this parenting thing is super hard" I did not want any more kids, cause my ds would wear us out. But then I got baby fever and now I know what a "normal" child is like. If I had my 2nd 1st I would have a bunch of kids by now. My 2 year old is so much easier than my 7 year old ADHD son. It is amazing. And by the way, does anyone else's ADHD child just whine constantly and complain about everything in this world?? Mine is never happy about anything and the 2 year old is just happy with anything in life. The 2 year old wakes up singing "Frosty the Snowman" all happy, the ADHD son is so not like that.

But we did have a good Christmas, he behaved, but today on the other hand, it is as if he came down off of his Christmas high and had melt-downs all day and had trouble following directions. So we will see how tomorrow is. I still have my appt. with the Dr. Jan 3rd and I'm still very worried. I think I might try the alternative meds 1st and hope for the best. I know I have many options out there, so we will see.

Once again, I thank everyone for their support, I so badly need it.