It sounds as though you both had a blast!! I understand completely about the rift between you and hubby though. We, too, have had our disagreements about what is okay and what isn't. I think that they should be allowed to be kids and run around and act goofy as much as possible.
Well it sounds like you had a blast and that's the main thing - I completely understand about the rift it would cause with you and your hubby though. My hubby and I also sometimes have different ideas about parenting and I guess what we should do is discuss what approach we're taking before we go - though, of course, often we don't. Anyway I agree with a previous poster - your son will probably look back and remember the time of his life. Good for you for having a great time on the trip of a lifetime! You're brave, I get anxiety about taking our ADHD 5 yr old to Target! DH & I also sometimes disagree on what is acceptable, he's the one that likes to let him lose and be himself. I am more reserved and like to try & keep him calmed. It's hard to find that happy medium. Sounds like he had a blast, which makes it all worth it!just got back from 10 day family trip to Israel....before leaving, we decided to give our son a vacation from his 20 gram dose of metadate during trip. he slept soundly, ate ravenously and ran around in the desert like Moses himself. every once in a while, he would stop to listen to what the tour guide had to say...and if it was an interesting presentation (interactive, 3D, etc.) he would sit very still and listen to the whole thing..no matter how long. the whole family climbed Mesada...usually takes a semi-fit person 45 minutes to get up the mountain...our son ran up the mountain (almost vertical climb) in 20 minutes...no lie....he was the first one up...greeting each breathless family member with a high 5. i guess my point is here that he was busy and interested in what he wanted to do...engaged on his terms. as his mother, I appreciated his activity level and was happy to have him in 'his place'...and was okay with our son leaving the group when he needed to. my husband on the other hand was less accomodating of our son's need to explore and sometimes jump around, he was more annoyed that our son was annoying other members of the family. like i said, i was more tolerant. this created a bit of a rift between my husband and I...as i'm sure you could imagine. then the other family members felt the need to become involved in the parenting. this is when i almost lost it. i basically made the announcement that everyone needs to back off and let ME be the parent (also directed this to my husband) and I will make sure that I would handle the discipline....move on and enjoy your vacation...i'll worry about him and make sure he's safe...thanks anyway. meanwhile, my son is having a blast and could care less about the tension caused by him doing what he does best....running around and having a blast. This was only DAY TWO...
we're home now.....tomorrow's agenda: school.....put him back on the metadate.....make up with hubby...hurry up and plan the next active family vacation. I would do it all over again!
...and I bet your son will someday say that it was the best vacation he was ever on! Welcome back and happy new year!I have no idea where you are at spiritually............but if you read the Bible, many of the people who God chose were "different" to say the least. There are many "stange" characters in the Old Testament. To me, the craziest of them all seems to be King David. New Testament, is Peter who hacked a guys' ear off! Studying Biblical characters is quite comforting. Almost all of them who were "chosen by God" were a bit eccentric and social outcasts. They were "odd" people who didn't quite fit in....................twirly1