Hypo Focusing | ADHD Information

Besides hypo focusing, we ADHDrs have this tendency in speaking in a sacastic manner although we sometimes don't even know it.

Several months ago, I had verbal fight with a family member on my wife's side.  Although my comment was spoken as a technical suggestion, the family member was upset.  They rant and raved about my comment in front of our family that I requested them to stop-twice because they were embarrassing me; however, they refused.  I was hurt and then the agitation began inside me that brought forward the anger and rage inside me.  It took me ten minutes later to give them my two cents worth right in front of everyone.

Two hours of walking away from this gathering, I began to think why is it always me.  During those two hours, I thought about jumping over a bridge because the  the depression sat in.  When I came back, the family member came back and apologized but I refused it because I needed the time to re-evaluate what had happened.  One day after this occurrence, the guilt set in and I eventually apologized to the people who heard me spoke abruptly (with the exception of).

That situation kept on returning over and over in my mind (hypo focusing) for I kept pointing the finger to them for causing me to become angered.  Finally, after four months, I finally figured out what caused this situation and I mentally turned off this hypo focusing.   I began to re-evaluate the situation and started putting the pieces together.  Remember I said we speak sarcastically and we don't even know it.  Well, maybe I did and that 's what made them upset.  If they could have pulled me aside and told me, that occurrence would have never happened.  I would have gladly told them of what I have and hoping they will accept me for who I am.

About this hypo focusing, it can also be for the good as well for apparently I have this excellent memory of the past.  But what I also realize about hypo focusing is that does not have to correlate with a hands on project for hypo focusing can also play mind games with us as well for it may lead you in the wrong direction of thought.

I now have to coach this hypo focusing and start telling myself to stop and think.  It's a long process, but now I am ready to speak with that family member.

Happy New Years Every One,

REAM