has anyone quit work? | ADHD Information
Yes, I did. I quit my job when I was Pregnant with DD and after going back for a year I quit again. DD was not born with ADHD( Adhd from PANDAS) but her constant illnesses and ear infections jeopardized my working anyway. I have since gone back to school, and also run my own home business. But I am still at home when DD is at home.[QUOTE=edbson]Yes, I did. I quit my job when I was Pregnant with DD and after going back for a year I quit again. DD was not born with ADHD( Adhd from PANDAS) but her constant illnesses and ear infections jeopardized my working anyway. I have since gone back to school, and also run my own home business. But I am still at home when DD is at home. [/QUOTE]
Funny you mention school. I start this Monday!! I always think of an at home business. But I'm skeptical to just look up anything on the net. You know, due to scams and all. What in home business are you conducting? If you don't mind I ask. You can PM me if you want. I have a home office and two computers, I have really given it ALLOT of thought. Plus the company I work for is NOT doing well financially and lay-offs are suppose to start soon. when I was on vacation from my fulltime job, I picked up my DD from school everyday at 2:20 and she seemed so much more happier, got her play time out of the way early enough. There was no rush rush. I just wish I could find a way to make a little money (don't need to be allot) and go to school partime and be home when she is.
Has anyone quit working outside the home to be there more for their ADHD child?
[QUOTE=rhondacty][QUOTE=edbson]Yes, I did. I quit my job when I was Pregnant with DD and after going back for a year I quit again. DD was not born with ADHD( Adhd from PANDAS) but her constant illnesses and ear infections jeopardized my working anyway. I have since gone back to school, and also run my own home business. But I am still at home when DD is at home. [/QUOTE]
Funny you mention school. I start this Monday!! I always think of an at home business. But I'm skeptical to just look up anything on the net. You know, due to scams and all. What in home business are you conducting? If you don't mind I ask. You can PM me if you want. I have a home office and two computers, I have really given it ALLOT of thought. Plus the company I work for is NOT doing well financially and lay-offs are suppose to start soon. when I was on vacation from my fulltime job, I picked up my DD from school everyday at 2:20 and she seemed so much more happier, got her play time out of the way early enough. There was no rush rush. I just wish I could find a way to make a little money (don't need to be allot) and go to school partime and be home when she is.
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I don't use my computer for my business, I use my sewing machine. I make quilts, and christening gowns. Wedding gowns and bridesmaids gowns.
[QUOTE=jacks8897]I am a single mom who couldnt survive if I didnt work. Child support helps but that will be halfed in 2 years when my oldest graduates college.
I have been lucky because my son thrives on his afterschool program, the socialzation it provides and the friendships he has made. Not only with the other kids but with his counslers. Our school district has been nothing but helpful, supportive and encouraging in all the years my son has atteneded. He started with a special Pre K program at age 4 when the PRe K i PAID , basically told me to take him out after 6 weeks as the couldnt handle him. The school district Pre K was 5 days a week 8 to 12 and it was free. They did all the testing and helped me to find the right doctor. I feel he is getting a great education and all the attention he needs for his condition.
While it is hard some nights, with coming home at 6, making dinner, finishing up homework and other household chores, it is something we are all use to and being organized and sticking to our routine makes it easier. The fact that the vyvanse is working so well and lasts longer helps tremendously also.
I actually think if i stayed home, Ryan would be lonely. I would say a good 75% of our town has their children in afterschool care so their wouldnt be anyone for him to play with after school. He actually gets mad if , by some miracle I get off early and pick him up before 5!
I thank God for all this as I would not be able to quit my job EVER.
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My daughter does the opposite about picking her up after school. Absolutely seemed to more calm and less anger. It makes her real happy. I've recently went back to school, so I'm thinking of going full time in the Fall. Which then I would go to morning classes 4 days a week. Come home and even get some studying done before I have to pick her up from school. I guess I'm blessed that I may be able to do that. We are just seeing what my fiancees' raise will be in March.
I didn't quit my job, but I am a stay-at-home mom and I feel like managing my daughter's education IS a full-time job.When my kids were younger, I had a great job that allowed me to teach part-time in the evenings, when my husband could be home to be with the kids, but unfortunately that situation did not continue.
I thought I would probably be working again now that my kids are older, but instead I am driving them both to two different charter schools and spending a great deal of time in the evenings and on weekends helping my daughter get through her homework and be organized for school. Plus she has asthma and allergies and tends to be sick a lot which would be very difficult if I had a regular job.
Money is tight, but we are getting by, and I realize I'm lucky to be able to stay at home.
I think many of us have thought about quitting our jobs to be there for our adhd kids. I wish I could afford it. The less tight schedule would help my son so much! I dream about having enough time to make lots of homemade banana bread, etc. to fatten him up too! Of course my son is in school, when he was a preschooler I was happy to go to work to get some rest!
Yes, I quit my job to be home more for my ADHD son. I was tired of fighting with day care, school, etc. I was tired of trying to find summer camps that would keep my son. I guess I was just tired of hearing from anyone else how much trouble my son was getting in, so I figured I'd reduce his contact with others as much as possible!
He was 6 when I quit, and stayed home for 4 years. I went back to work last year, and I'll tell you, it is still hard to work and care for an ADHD child. Just the fact that I am more tired & stressed due to my job makes it more difficult to keep my cool and act more "sane" with my son.
[QUOTE=hawks2921]Yes, I quit my job to be home more for my ADHD son. I was tired of fighting with day care, school, etc. I was tired of trying to find summer camps that would keep my son. I guess I was just tired of hearing from anyone else how much trouble my son was getting in, so I figured I'd reduce his contact with others as much as possible!
He was 6 when I quit, and stayed home for 4 years. I went back to work last year, and I'll tell you, it is still hard to work and care for an ADHD child. Just the fact that I am more tired & stressed due to my job makes it more difficult to keep my cool and act more "sane" with my son.
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I'm going through exactly that!!!! Your story from start to finish sounds like ours. I'm stressed at work. I walk on egg shells because the routine is quit fast. I need to have it easy going for her. We will see.
Yeah, I quit my office job to work from home and be more around my kids. I work from home as a transcriptionist now and have been doing so for over 2.5 years. It's definitely better than daycare, traffic, etc, etc, although it does have its challenges. It's made easier for me by the fact that my hubby has a steady job. But definitely worthwhile. I had to teach my son how to read after a teacher really verbally hurt his self esteem in kindergarden. He is in 2nd grade now(at a different school) and I feel that I'm also doing his core teaching at home. I would homeschool him if he would listen to me, but he listens to the teacher better than me when it come to school work. He begs me to homeschool him but I can't. If I can't get him to do homework sometimes, how will he do school work during the day, every day for me? It is sad cause he is in 2nd grade and their reading book is 4th grade level and I consider his math book to be 1st grade level, I don't know if they think this is balancing out to 2nd grade but it makes me so angry. And I think there is definitely not enough PE time. He has 20 min once a week.(inside watching a movie if it is raining or too cold--the gym was flooded out by Hurricane Katrina) That is laughable, I mean really, if ADHD kids are driven by adrenaline, then what can we expect if they have been cooped up in a desk all day long. I used this analogy with my neighbor the other day--It's like taking a kitten and putting it in a cage all day long. When you let them out they will run all over the house going nuts. Yes, us adults might not need to run around and get our adrenaline going, but young kids (especially ADHD kids) really need that for their health(mental and physical, maybe that is why there is a rise in the ADHD dx in kids, cause they are forced to stay in desks all day, without breaks to move around and stretch, except for recess. Even the teacher is up in front of the classroom walking around teaching. Even in college, you run between one class to another, about 5 to 10 min depending on campus and then you need to walk up flights of stairs--or that was my case.Sorry for the venting, I'm just a little frustrated with school stuff. I'm just not sure what they are preparing our kids for sometimes. [QUOTE=NoTellin]
I plan to quit FT work sometime this year, but not just to be there for my ADHD son. I too am tired of hearing about how much trouble my son gets into, and tired of finding summer camps that will keep him. I am also very tired of doing the core teaching at home afterwork. I have taught my son to read, to tell time, to add, to subtract, and now, to multiply. It is simply too hectic and unpleasant for me to work 40 hrs a week, and deal with an ADHD child, a younger sibling, and a husband with ADHD. The work needs to go, or be reduced significantly.
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I agree with you NOTellin, that is exactly why I want to quit work. At least to get me through college and as my daughter matures, maybe it will be a more little more manageable when she is 10. I don't know, all kids are different with ADHD. When she is 10, is when I'll have my associates in Radiography.
I am a single mom who couldnt survive if I didnt work. Child support helps but that will be halfed in 2 years when my oldest graduates college.
I have been lucky because my son thrives on his afterschool program, the socialzation it provides and the friendships he has made. Not only with the other kids but with his counslers. Our school district has been nothing but helpful, supportive and encouraging in all the years my son has atteneded. He started with a special Pre K program at age 4 when the PRe K i PAID , basically told me to take him out after 6 weeks as the couldnt handle him. The school district Pre K was 5 days a week 8 to 12 and it was free. They did all the testing and helped me to find the right doctor. I feel he is getting a great education and all the attention he needs for his condition.
While it is hard some nights, with coming home at 6, making dinner, finishing up homework and other household chores, it is something we are all use to and being organized and sticking to our routine makes it easier. The fact that the vyvanse is working so well and lasts longer helps tremendously also.
I actually think if i stayed home, Ryan would be lonely. I would say a good 75% of our town has their children in afterschool care so their wouldnt be anyone for him to play with after school. He actually gets mad if , by some miracle I get off early and pick him up before 5!
I thank God for all this as I would not be able to quit my job EVER.
Could dh stay home? I know that sounds funny but my ob/gyn's husband is a stay at home dad, they have 3 kids.
I'm sorry that you are suffering like this. I don't know if you are at all religious and don't want to offend you if you are not, but try praying about it and maybe you will get some answers soon.
I plan to quit FT work sometime this year, but not just to be there for my ADHD son. I too am tired of hearing about how much trouble my son gets into, and tired of finding summer camps that will keep him. I am also very tired of doing the core teaching at home afterwork. I have taught my son to read, to tell time, to add, to subtract, and now, to multiply. It is simply too hectic and unpleasant for me to work 40 hrs a week, and deal with an ADHD child, a younger sibling, and a husband with ADHD. The work needs to go, or be reduced significantly.
NoTellin39451.9241319444I stay home because my day really begins at 3pm when I pick my son up from school. I've worked before but somehow no one could keep up with my ds (7yo) like me. I stay on top of all of his school stuff and make sure his homework is done. If I worked the whole family would be stressed. So I stay home, it was really hard for me to stay home because I'm a social person and love people. I also have a 2 year old son, but I got involved in church and now am extremely happy. We have to seriously budget and do with out for me to be able to stay home. We do have my ds in catholic school but that is only because he was being emotionally abused by the teacher in public school because of his ADHD, that was before we had him dx.I WISH I could stay at home. We just can't afford it! My dream is to be able to stay home or work from home. I think things would be much better in my household. Right now I dont get home until 6:30, sometimes as late as 7PM and I just dont get the time with my DS that I think we both need together. I think I could help him be more organized if I was able to be home when he gets home from school. DH helps alot and his homework is usually done before I get home, which is a big help, but sometimes he has reading to do, and then getting ready for the next day, getting ready for bed, all has to be done in the hour or hour and a half between when I get home from work and DS's bedtime. 
I've tried a few MLM companies.. didnt work out... I'm researching the greeting card freelance writing business, but I dont think that will give me enough income to stay home, at least not right at the start. I'd love to be a freelance writer and I have a few things written, liek a couple poems that I think would make great children's books. I just need to send them out to the right places to get them published! I need to do a bit of research to find the right publisher to send them to! I think once I get started, I could do a bunch of different freelance writing and virtual assistant types of jobs to generate enough income. But, I have to make sure I'm making enough with the freelance stuff before I quite my job! I cant not have income comming in. We cant live off DH's income alone and I make more than him!!
[QUOTE=Patrisha]Could dh stay home? I know that sounds funny but my ob/gyn's husband is a stay at home dad, they have 3 kids.
I'm sorry that you are suffering like this. I don't know if you are at all religious and don't want to offend you if you are not, but try praying about it and maybe you will get some answers soon.[/QUOTE]
I am a Christian, it by no means offends me. Been praying for my daughter for sometime. She is very close to God, and I feel that she is in need for serious prayer. so I got our Children's minister involved in praying over her. Also, yes I will pray for this, as God has been speaking to me on what I need to do as well. I'm just coming back to God!! Seems to get worse before things get better. But I will NOT let Satan win!!! NO WAY. PM me if you'd like and add me to your buddy list. God bless!!!! She has been having some scary dreams. I think it is something else, if you know what I mean?
[QUOTE=Patrisha]Could dh stay home? I know that sounds funny but my ob/gyn's husband is a stay at home dad, they have 3 kids.
I'm sorry that you are suffering like this. I don't know if you are at all religious and don't want to offend you if you are not, but try praying about it and maybe you will get some answers soon.[/QUOTE]
I am divorced but am getting married once I finish college. No one but me could stay home, her father gets her every other weekend.
my husband would LOVE to stay home tooo! Boy, would I be jelous! But, we really need both our incomes, we just barely make ends meet as it is now, with both of us working 40 hrs a week (he sometimes works more than that!). Owning a house is soo expensive in Massachusetts!
I'm not religious, but I'm not offended by your suggestion of prayer! I'm spiritual and I like to think I'm more so making "wishes" or sending out intentions.. rather than praying .. wait.. I guess I do pray, but not to a specific god. I more so belive in the law of attraction than a religion and god. (but, that could be a whole nother post!) But, I enjoy learning about and discussion all types of religions and customs. I find it very interesting! And, I'm very rarely offended! Nor do I offend others of thier beliefs. I feel everyone belives in the right thing for them!
I was so scared to mention prayer, thank ya'll for warm responses. Prayer has helped me so much, even with my own anxieties of life. Since I became very spiritual my husband has seen a tremendous difference in me. I don't obsess over things like I used to and I'm way more layed back and my anxiety has relaxed. And I have seen prayer work, so when I'm stuck, I pray. I do also like to get as much feedback from others as I can, so it helps me make well rounded decisions too. That is why I like this message board.Wow, Jillete. I'm here for ya. PM me anytime you want.
I am with the rest of you wishing I can quit my job for my daughter working full time is stressful enough then come home to dinner, homework and the rest. I have a decent job but hubby does not and he was out of work recently for over 6 weeks and we are behind on bills big time and the stress of that is killing me too. I forgot to mention my job is stressful but understanding when I need to leave early to take care of my child. My department is children's services child welfare job. To explain my job think about the show Judging Amy what her mother did for a living.
[QUOTE=rhondacty]Wow, Jillete. I'm here for ya. PM me anytime you want. [/QUOTE]*thanks.
We struggle from time to time. We don't get the nicest Christmas gifts and don't have all the newest trendiest stuff(ie. plasma TV or boat). But we are a happy family (well except during homework time)
I have a degree in accounting and could find a really nice job making good money, however, my ADHD ds really needs me too. I couldn't work and come home, do homework with my ADHD ds, make dinner and keep my sanity. I just couldn't do it. I wish I could use my degree and go to work, I love people, but that is not what I'm called to do right now I guess. It does get lonely being a home maker/stay at home mom. But I've learned to deal with it.
[QUOTE=Patrisha]We struggle from time to time. We don't get the nicest Christmas gifts and don't have all the newest trendiest stuff(ie. plasma TV or boat). But we are a happy family (well except during homework time)
I have a degree in accounting and could find a really nice job making good money, however, my ADHD ds really needs me too. I couldn't work and come home, do homework with my ADHD ds, make dinner and keep my sanity. I just couldn't do it. I wish I could use my degree and go to work, I love people, but that is not what I'm called to do right now I guess. It does get lonely being a home maker/stay at home mom. But I've learned to deal with it.[/QUOTE]
We don't have a boat or a HD TV or a Plasma at that. Look at it this way Patrisha, when your ds is grown you can utilize your degree and go back to work. It will make up for due time in the future.
< =text/>_popupControl(); We moved to small town the year before my son started Kindergarten, so we decided that I would take that year off and hang out with him, so that he could get used to the new surrounds. He had always been daycare kid, from 6 weeks on, since i worked there, but in this small burg there was only one daycare and it isn't any place I'd leave my child, so we decided to wait...During that time i enrolled him in a pre-school in a nearby town....MISTAKE!!! As a daycare kid, he already knew and had done all the things they were doing in pre-school, so he just caused trouble and persisted in doing his own thing. I breathed a sigh of relief when K started, but NO! K wasn't any better than pre-school. I pushed back returning to work and even turned down an administrative position because I had a feeling that my little guy was going to need me, and he did...does. So now I stay home and make myself a visible presence at his school. I miss working many days, but I know he needs the stability of my being there for him.[QUOTE=BPQW] < =text/>_popupControl(); We moved to small town the year before my son started Kindergarten, so we decided that I would take that year off and hang out with him, so that he could get used to the new surrounds. He had always been daycare kid, from 6 weeks on, since i worked there, but in this small burg there was only one daycare and it isn't any place I'd leave my child, so we decided to wait...During that time i enrolled him in a pre-school in a nearby town....MISTAKE!!! As a daycare kid, he already knew and had done all the things they were doing in pre-school, so he just caused trouble and persisted in doing his own thing. I breathed a sigh of relief when K started, but NO! K wasn't any better than pre-school. I pushed back returning to work and even turned down an administrative position because I had a feeling that my little guy was going to need me, and he did...does. So now I stay home and make myself a visible presence at his school. I miss working many days, but I know he needs the stability of my being there for him.[/QUOTE]
Does your hubby have a real good income? Is it a struggle from time to time? That is the only thing we are afraid of if I quit work outside the home.
I am just begining the states of creating an online buisness. I have two ideas for blog/websites that will eventualy allow me to work from home! My plan is to have them generate enough income after one year to be able to work from home focusing full time on the websites! That is my dream job!!
I currently work fulltime out of the home, an hour commute each way, so I'm gone for a long time .. I hate it!
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I am just begining the states of creating an online buisness. I have two ideas for blog/websites that will eventualy allow me to work from home! My plan is to have them generate enough income after one year to be able to work from home focusing full time on the websites! That is my dream job!!
I currently work fulltime out of the home, an hour commute each way, so I'm gone for a long time .. I hate it!
Oh my gosh, how do I start a business?? I never know what to do because there are so many scams on the net? Do you mind sharing with me how to start income on the net??
[/QUOTE] I have worked and quit and worked and quit. My DS goes through a bed spell and I have to quit to be home and deal with the meltdowns. It's hard. Everything I want to do for work, won't allow me to be flexible, AT ALL. It's really hard and frustrating to know what to do to earn money and still be there for my kids. I don't trust anyone to know how to deal with my DS the way I think he should. I am always afraid that people are going to treat him like a 'bad' kid instead of redirecting him the way he needs. There's no easy answer but I keep trying to find the right one for me. i didn't really quit my job..i dicided to take a 10 month personal leave from work ..so that i could stay home and spen more time with my daughter one on one..however i now have to think about going back to work early..i can't get Ei benifits to stay home with her because i am not her birth mother i am her step mother...i don't agree with that at all she lives with me and i tack care of her everyday..i am her mother ..but because i didn't give birth to her i have to back to work early
going crazy, that isn't fair. Can her birth mother carry the benefits for her insurance? What about her bio father?
you are awesome for what you are doing for her!!
I work overnight, while the kids are sleeping and dad is there. I carry the insurance for us all. I sleep while they are in school and then before I come into work.
I am on my 3rd year of this and it works. I also like being out of the house for my own sanity!!
Yes, I quit just before my son was diagnosed with ADHD. I was exhausted with helping him with homework and dealing with a toddler and a husband who was travelling for work a lot. I finally went back to work part time (while they are in school) for my own sanity. While I'm glad I got the chance to stay home, I found that I needed some "me" time. Even if that time is working, at least you get a "good job" once in a while. :-) And my hubby has been much more supportive and helpful with the boys now that I'm "working" again.I, too, quit my job to stay at home with our children. I stayed at home for a little over three years. I went back to work about 1 1/2 ago, and I love it. My News Years Resolution; to keep my sanity!!!!HAHAHAHAHAH
I admire you moms that can stay at home, but it wasn't for me.
"Our Children are Precious in His Sight"
I didn't quit work exactly, but I did lower my workload by a LOT. I went from 50+ hours a week making good money to 20 or so hours a week (most while my son's at school) and basically bringing home pocket change. For me it's a perfect situation. I spend my time with my son, can enroll him in extra curricular activities, manage to make it to almost all his school functions, and have time for homework, library trips, playdates, etc. And I still get just enough adult time to keep me sane! The lack of extra money does suck, but I'm hoping staying part time will 'keep my foot in the door' enough that I won't have a hard time getting a new job when the time comes that it's feasible.