If this behaviour his ADHD?

Suzie - you are so sweet and kind  - he is a lucky man.  But ADHD is interesting because it has variations of behaviours in different relationships/situations.

Some ADHD - hyperfocus on one thing.  That is what is most interesting!  He may have been all over you like a rash in the beginning - because he was hyperfocusing.  - If something else is happening in his life that is more interesting - he is hyperfocussing on that atm and not thinking ofyou as much

Doesnt mean he doesnt love or care about you - he is just very distractable - talk to wildlad - he will describe his problems which are similar - in fact read some of his threads - may help you.

Rae

Hello, I am new to this forum. What prompted me to visit and gather more information on ADHD, is a guy I have started dating.To give you a quick history, he was diagnosed when he was 6 years old with ADHD. He took Ritalin for the last 2 years of high school and stopped it when he graduated. He told me he stopped it because he didn't feel "himself" on it and that it wasn't really "him", he explained to me that he felt like a nerd on it because he is normally a goofy kind of guy and the ritalin made him zombie like. Currently, he is in school, full time for month.......which he said is killing him (homework, sitting in class, studying) and looking at houses to buy. He is quite busy. Since the start of the relationship he has not been totally considerate. He doesn't phone when he says he is and sometimes I go a week and half without seeing him or him calling. When he does call he tells me he is sorry and that he is really busy with everything and can't handle it all. After he tells me this and things seem to return back to some state of normal, he'll do it again and not call for few days. I find he reacts better to returning my calls etc., when I act more aggressive rather than passive.

Please, can anyone relate to this? I want to give him the benefit of the doubt that it is his ADHD that may contribute to his behaviour and not that he is a total jerk!  If it is his ADHD, I really would like to tell him that I'm willing to understand it and that I'm a very kind and patient person towards individuals with disorders such as this.

Thank you so much for your help!

Another trait of ADHD is procrastination.  You do not know how many times I have told myself I need to call my best friend over the last two weeks to catch up with her, and guess what she called me this morning.  I felt really bad but I do this all the time.  I have not talked to another friend of mine since earlier this year, but I continually tell myself I need to call her and see how she is doing. This goes on over and over in my life constantly. There are things I should have done two months ago that I will probably not do until my husband gets angry at me for not doing them.  The one thing I have improvd on is paying the bills on time, you can not imagine how many late fees I've paid.  

So, yes your boyfriend may be procrastinating eventhough he is thinking of you.  My husband is also ADHD, he tells me he will call me back if he is busy and never does(very typical).