First, you must understand that the grass is not always greener. Every family has its challenges. We all put on a pretty face when we check out at the grocery store when we really want to scream.
What you are going through is huge and it's okay to be stressed and even sad. Don't you dare feel guilty about that. But, remember you are going "through it." It will move on and so will you.
I know you wrote the post about your husband and son, but the best thing you can do for them is to take care of yourself. Find an outlet for you.
I knit. I get so fustrated at life and am too tired to cry so my knitting is my meditation. Find what works for you and you will get through this the best way you can.
Even those people who are happy, have had periods in their lives when they weren't. Life is full of "things" and stages. No one says you HAVE to be happy with what you are all going through right now. I agree with Miranda that you need to find something for yourself. Try to keep some socializing just for you, lunch with a friend (even once a month) or meet for coffee or a drink in the evening, something. Try to get as much exercise as you can. Excercise is the BEST stress reliever there is! If you cannot manage any of this or are already doing this, consider counseling for yourself. Sometimes just having some one to talk to, about YOU can be helpful.
Good luck, BELIEVE me I've been in situations that can seem helpless, and again as Miranda says, you'll get "trough it" and come out the other side.
hi, you will find the strenght that you need to help your family, i know because my husband also had a tumor but got thru it you have to take each day at a time.Big HUGS to you! Oh, I am so sorry you are going thru this! I just recently found out dh has bipolar, which has been getting progressively worse. He is not sure he wants to take meds for it and I am freaking out. Our ds is 14 1/2 and was dxed with ADHD over the summer. Afeter a brief period on meds and actually making good grades and doing better socially, he suddenly refused to take them anymore! I think teens can be really hard on parents! And I know what you mean about the school. My ds' is huge, and overcrowded. They have s lot of slackers and dropouts. At his 504 meeting, the lady praised him for passing his classes--we were hoping for honor roll when he had good grades on his first two report cards! Now he is going downhill and can't or won't see that he did better on meds.
Maybe find a support group for yourself? A church prayer or Bible study group? Just try to find things you can do to make yourself feel better! Then you will be refreshed and better able to help the ones you love.
One of the best mottos' ... one day at a time ... just take one day at a time and you will get through it, and you will come out stronger on the other side of it all. You will learn precious life lessons that others will never learn.
As Miranda said, it's not always greener on the other side. We all have problems and we all need support! That's what makes boards like this so great! You have so many shoulders to lean on... to listen to you.. and to give you support!
I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through all of this. Do you think your son not wanting to take meds has to do with finding out about his dad's tumor? Maybe you can talk about it all together as a family, share your fears, hopes, and dreams together?
Thank you everyone for your support, thoughts and input. I am trying to