Hi,
I attended a workshop for parents by the author of a book called "Setting limits with the stong willed child" (or something like that) and he made a point NOT to give any kind of negative marks (sad faces, black check marks, anything to show bad behavior). He felt children need to see only the possitive remarks. The child knows when they haven't been "good" and he saw no reason to be in their face about it. In other words accentuate the possitive and ignore the negative. ADHD children, difficult children, or children that a different get so much negative attention and it hurts their self esteem. Just something I picked up at this workshop. I do highly recommend this book. It's not necessarily for ADHD kids but for all "strong willed" children. He also wrote a book called "Setting Limits in the Classroom."
DD'S SCHOOL PSYCHOLOGIST SAID THAT SHE DIDN'T FEEL A REWARD SYSTEM WOULD WORK. "SHE CANNOT CONTROL OR IS AWARE OF SOME OF HER BEHAVIOR/ACTIONS AT TIMES." (DAUGHTER HAS ANXIETY ISSUES). ALTHOUGH DD DOES DISPLAY OUT OF CONTROL BEHAVIOR i TOLD THE PSYCHOLOGIST THAT WE SHOULD DO A TRIAL RUN AND TRY IT. I TOLD HER THAT DD STARTED A SIMILAR THING AT HOME.
JUST TO SHARE MY DD CAN BEHAVE INAPPROPRIATELY(LAUGHING/GIGGLING UNCONTROLABLY, BE DEFIANT, BE DISRESPECTFUL.
To jacks8897: you said "a face sticker on a piece of paper for each activity of the day. It was either smiling, frowning or indifferent. If he got 3 smileys, he got a sticker. These papers came home each day for me to see and sign and discuss with him." I liked this idea and suggested doing this to the school psychologist. I just modified it in that my dd would earn the treasure box for getting three stickers at the end of the day or visiting her favorite teacher. Thank you.
I would like to add that my dd has a list on her desk every day that lists what is expected of her for the day. It says: Keep hands to yourself, feet on the floor, and eyes on the teacher. For each one it has pictures. This was my suggestion.
The important thing that was missing in what was expected of my dd at school was a reinforcer and motivator. We all need those. So, I'm anticipating that things will improve now.
My daughter was in a research study last year and what they did is stickers for good behavior and after earning x amount of them she got to do a game with the teacher one on one. I also offered rewards at home for good weeks like a trip to the dollar store to get something (not rich). The school this year has a token store earn tokens to purchase things in the token store.
with over 20 students in my dd's class I don't know if the teacher would be able to play a game one on one.
To highly motivate my daughter to do better in school (and at home) i created a contract. She will earn pts. For each task successfully completed she will get a dime in the In bin. Starting tomorrow: if she earns more than half the allotted points for tomorrow and Friday then she will be able to earn a "prize/a surprise." Let's see how it goes. Wishme good luck. If you have any suggestions please tell me. TY
My kids school just started a school- wide point system this year. So far I'm not really impressed, though. They can earn 5 points a day- 1 for attendance, 1 for turning in homework, 3 for good behavior- which is fine, but the charts are for an entire month, which is way to long for a child with behavior problems to wait for a reward. Really it's too long for any of them to wait for a reward.
The school psychologist at my DS's school did give us a checklist behavior chart when he first started having trouble in the classroom. It had a lot of stuff that didn't really pertain to him, so we just crossed those off and the teacher ranked him 1, 2, or 3 on the things we were working on. At the end of the week it came home and he earned stuff based on that.
What positive reinforcement (options) do public schools offer for good behavior. I will be conversing with the school psychologist of my 6 year old daughter today and will be offering possible reinforcers for good behavior at the end of the day. I was told by my dd's teacher today that she has not been listening well at all, been defiant, rude and disruptive.
Thank you.
I think alot of it depends on the grade level. In 1st and 2nd grade, my son use to get a face sticker on a piece of paper for each activity of the day. It was either smiling, frowning or indifferent. If he got 3 smileys, he got a sticker. These papers came home each day for me to see and sign and discuss with him. Later on in 2nd grade and onto 3rd, when stickers kinda lost their luster, my son them *earned* tickets for good behaviour, work handed in on time. paying attention. A certain number of tickets bought a trip to the *prize* box. Little trinkets but big treasure to a 7 year old! Now in 4th grade, my son is doing very well but still needs the postive reinforcement at times. In 4th grade they also earn tickets and they can use them for trips to the *reading corner*(which is a cozy set up with books. blankets, etc that they seem to love!!), enter into the book basket raffle(every month a class parent volunteers and the teacher makes a book basket. The teacher buys the book and the parent buys little things that pertain to the theme of the book for the basket. This month was my turn and the book was about Football. I bought stickers, football chocolate candy,pencils, erasers,a little table football game and a nerf football) the kids also LOVE these baskets. They can also trade the tickets in for spelling passes(no spelling homework that night). If they turn in all their homework for 1 month, they get a homework pass good for the ENTIRE EVENINGS HOMEWORK. lemme tell you, this is a highly sought after prize!
Hope this gives you some ideas!
[QUOTE=cluvingmthr]To jacks8897: you said "a face sticker on a piece of paper for each activity of the day. It was either smiling, frowning or indifferent. If he got 3 smileys, he got a sticker. These papers came home each day for me to see and sign and discuss with him." I liked this idea and suggested doing this to the school psychologist. I just modified it in that my dd would earn the treasure box for getting three stickers at the end of the day or visiting her favorite teacher. Thank you.
Your welcome! my son did very well with these motivators along with his meds , his wonderful paraprofessional and his behaviour therapy. I love the idea of *what she needs to do* and pictures of it! ADHD kids are much more visual then anything else and I think thats a great idea!
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At the elementary school my youngest goes to, they use a token system where the kids get tickets they can turn in for pizza parties and individual prizes. In RSP she gets a privelege (make the popcorn) or a prize for the tokens she earns. Parents can contribute small prizes to the class or RSP.
When she was in the 3rd grade, we had a form for each day and when she got 5 or 6 (out of 6) checks, she could have an extra 1/2 hour of tv or game time after homework. She had to sign a contract for this program.
some schools will give help with the guidance counselor. So a week of good check marks, stickers, whatever they choose to use earns lunch, snack, a game, (whaetver reward) with the guidance counselor. Teachers are busier with 20 kids in their class. To help socially you can ask that your child also be allowed to invite one friend to come to the snack time with the guidance counsleor. They LOVE it. The other kids love to be picked as the "friend" joining them.