And here we are again... | ADHD Information
In my experience as a teacher, we really don't like/want to contact parents about their child's behavior. We love teaching. We love kids. Parents can sometimes be cruel and don't understand what we deal with in extended periods of time with their child. Teachers often get unfairly blamed.
So some of us walk on eggshells......we often make it sound better than what it is. Usually, by the time we feel the need to contact parents, we are at our wits end. We don't want to offend "Johnny's mommy and daddy" so we tiptoe.....mention "little problems" here and there.
My guess is that things are probably worse than she's describing. She is feeling desperate enough to put out a call for help. I would thank her for communicating with you. That will help her put defensive walls down if she knows you are a "safe" parent.
The thing is, so many teachers don't have adequate training/understanding about ADHD. The kids who can't sit still, do their work like everyone else, etc.....get labeled as being "bad kids". You don't want that.
Keep good communication with them and consider having him looked at by a child psychiatrist. Creative kids also display this sort of behavior.......and most schools don't cater to the creative/intelligent/independent thinker mindset. Fitting a kid with ADHD into your typical school is like fitting a square peg into a round hole. Rather than forcing the schools to adjust, we put our kids on meds with the hopes that they can "become round" just like everyone else. Reform in education is needed! But we aren't there yet.
Take a deep breath..........stand up for your son....educate...communicate......hang in there......you will gain more knowledge.
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I would specify in writing that the school CANNOT paddle your child.If you do not want him threatened with it. I have done this since my oldest started K. I figure if she does something bad enough to warrant being hit with a board, I can take care of it in a much less violent way. I AGREE! EVEN IF HE HAS TO GO TO THE PRINCIPALS OFFICE THEY MUST FIND A BETTER WAY OF DEALING WITH THIS BECAUSE I WOULD NEVER LET MY CHILD BE PADDLED. I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF THIS IN THIS DAY AND AGE. IF IT HAPPENED HERE THERE WOULD BE CHARGES FILED. IT IS IN NO WAY APPROPRIATE TO PADDLE AN ADHD CHILD. MAKE THAT CLEAR WITH THE SCHOOL DOES HE HAVE A 504 OR IEP? IF NOT YOU SHOULD LOOK INTO IT THAT COULD BE PUT IN HIS PLAN.He doesn't have an IEP or a 504...I know what an IEP is but what is a 504?? Is this something that gets decided based on a connors form? This is uncharted territory until now...His teacher and I have been very upfront with one another since the beginning of this school year. SHe and I have an understanding; I know she is a good teacher and she knows I want to be a good mom to a good kid! She is very open with me and we communicate at least once a week. The problem is that she has a very aggressive classroom this year. More boys than girls, meaning too much testosterone for the boys to maintain their sanity during class time.
The part that upset me was that he almost got a paddling!! I couldn't believe it...My husband couldn't believe it, either. He stated "I managed to get completely through school without ever once going to the principal!!"
I called the drs office this morning and they are preparing some Connors Forms (spelling?) for me to hand to the teacher and his special reading teacher. Not quite sure what those forms are all about other than describing ds's behavior...
I know he's a boy and I want him to have fun. I just want the weekly phone calls home to lessen. That's too much. We love that our boy is awesomely creative and I love that he's got some spunk! But I want to channel it to positive things, it's hard but I think we're working hard enough and trying to take the right step...I feel optimistic about it. We don't want him labeled as the 'bad kid'. And actually, his teachers are won over by his big heart and charming smile (he's pretty handsome for 6 
)...if he could simmer down, he'd have it made! His teacher even ended her letter with "I want school to be a success for him, he is good."
I am confused. Are you saying that the school "paddles" children????? Is this a public school???? I am completely shocked if it's a public school that paddles.
Regarding your husband's comment that he never got sent to the principal's office, what does that have to do with anything. We are all unique individuals with our own little DNA and no one else is just like us. Celebrate that.
What I have posted below is from our ADHD son's teacher.
I almost called you yesterday because Tristen got in trouble with Coach in P.E. for throwing rocks. Coach has evidently had a lot of trouble with a few boys doing this and took Tristen and another child from my class and a student from the other first grade to *PRINCIPAL* office. I also moved Tristen in order to try to get him to pay better attention. I’ve really had a hard time keeping him on track in the classroom. I think that is evident in his work. I’ve had him redo papers because he wasn’t listening when we completed them in class. Sometimes I can get him to listen and follow along and then at other times, it is very difficult for him to stay with me. Therefore, I know what you are dealing with at home because I think that’s the same problems he’s having at school.
I am so.... 
(this is the only thing to describe how I feel!!). I don't know what to do. This is so frustrating. Part of me says "HE's a boy, he threw rocks...typical" then the othe part of me says "HEEEEELLLLLP!" because it's so aggrivating. My husband is not a lenient dad, he wants them to obey PERIOD. I understand his thinking. He's a rule follower, very fair and very respectful and expects nothing less of his boys. Then, my parents laugh at everything, so here I sit.
You know? DS has a dr appt in February...until then, I guess, we'll just cross our fingers. It's scary, you know, because I've given some of my best 'speeches' and he's only 6. Some of these I had stashed for when he was more like 13! I'm chuckling, but it is a little nerve wracking. Is this not the most boggling 'disorder'? It just leaves ME feeling like '50 First Dates!'. YIKES!!
What do you do? What do you THINK?
I tihnk he is 6, others were doing it, and he went along. He IS A BOY! Boys do things like that( for the record, girls do too).
If he is having trouble in school concentrating etc, I would look at the meds, and also look at an evaluation and possibly IEP or 504, if there is not one or the other in place already.
The therapist we see has a thing he calls the idiot theory. The more boys you get together, the more the IQ of the group goes down. Groups of boys will do stupid things that they wouldn't normally do. As edbson stated, he could have just been going along with the crowd. As long as nothing was damaged and the school dealt with it, I probably wouldn't make a huge deal out of it. He could maybe write an apology to the PE teacher for not following the rules.For the classroom stuff, I would continue to work with the teacher and get a good 504 plan in place. Maybe some sort of behavioral plan and reward him when he is on task. Maybe she could track when is is more successful than other times. Perhaps there is a pattern and it would provide more insight as to ways to work on the problem. HorseMom39463.7213657407
I agree, he is 6 and kids throw rocks. They, obviously, should be disciplined for it as some one could get hurt, but kids just do stuff that requires discipline, they just do. We have to be careful to not expect them to be perfect because of meds. Typical kids throw rocks. Typical kids get in fights, typical kids get sent to the principals office.
If he is having trouble across the board however, with behavior and attention/focus, both at home and school meds should be looked at. If I were seeing the doctor in a month and felt meds needed to be increased, I'd call and ask about increasing now so when I saw him/her in a month we could see how it was going........I'm the Mom that drives the doctor crazy though 
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