From a very young age until 12, there were a lot of issues in school and at home. Blowing up over small things,arguing, fighting with friends, forgetting things, clothes, homework, not paying attention at school and a whole lot more. I always felt something didn't seem right. Then I found out my child was drinking and doing drugs. She went to drug counselling, mental health, 2 long term programs for addiction, a summer camp which was drug free. She began being very verbally abusive to me and would break things. She ran away from home several times, she was picked up by the police twice for underage drinking and was put in lock-up for the night. I've done everything in my power to get help for her. She had been recently diagnosed with ADD and was put on Adderall. It was shortlived. She was angry all the time. She ran away again 3 weeks ago. The police cannot do anything about it. This has been a nightmare for the last 2 years. I am a single mother, but raised my child in a decent home and with fairness. She has blamed everyone, me being at the top of her list for everything she has chosen to do. All I ever wanted was for her to grow up to be a healthy adult with a good education so she could have a good life. Please, does anyone out there have similiar problems or some enlightenment. I just can't believe that my child would want this kind of life.
(hugs) I'm dealing with a defiant 14 year old. Mine hasn't run away ...yet and isn't into drugs but it's a battle.
Don't have any advise because my son is a mess but just want to let you know you are not alone. Don't blame yourself - that won't do any good. I take things day by day.
Thank you so much for replying. Just having someone who understands is greatly appreciated. I've been to Children's Aid for help. I just can't believe that I cannot get help for my child. No one can make her come home. The only way the court will get involved is if she commits a crime. Then conditions will be placed on her. If she breaches these conditions, new ones will be placed and this could go on and on for a long time before they would even think of doing something with her. I'm told she has to be a threat to herself or someone else. A child who is doing drugs and drinking and going God knows where is to me a threat to herself. My child is a beautiful and talented but something is very wrong with her thinking. Is this a part of Add or ADHD?Look for human service agencies where you live and the County or country for help too. In the US we have PINS (persons in need of supervision) parents can get on their children it is you taking your child to court and the judge ordering then to behave or they will be placed if they break it. By doing so they open a services case and give you a Social Worker Preventative (like me) and I do referals to Agencies for you to help you out. Once all avenues are exhausted the PINS kicks in and they do have group supervised living places for such kids. Un-fortunetly I do not know what you have for I live in the US and work for Erie County.