We had tried a Chip system with our daguhter, but my inlaws watch them during the day and although my MIL was concerned about us not following through at the end of the day she would "owe" her chips and that to me seemed pointless.
We need to figure out away to get everyone on board, which is easer said than done.
it is easier said than done. I wouldnt give up totally, I would still do it at home.hi skylor4 and welcome. Boy 4....yuck! I hated 4. Such an age of trying to be independant. 4 was a hard age for both my kids. It's SO hard to daignose a 4 year old, not that I'm doubting your sons diagnosis, but some of this he WILL outgrow. That said, in the meantime, I would strongly suggest implementing a solid behavior plan. Ograms marbel system, or a variation of it works very well. Negative behavior needs to be addresses as succinctly as possible. Immediate, short, VERY little interaction. Most 4 year olds and ALL ADHD kids LOVE conlict. Do not provide that. Try not to engage during his frustrations or anger outbursts. Find a quiet place (we use her room) and when a negative behavior occurs, thats where they go until they are calm and ready to talk about why it's not ok and how to do it better. We use our daughters' bedrooms, as they will have a better chance of calming themselves with their "stuff". The point is to de-escalate the situation not really a punishment. Then reward, reward, reward positives, even if it's with praise. We also use Omega supplements for our family (see alternatives board). There are a lot of studies shwing promising data to the effectiveness of Omegas on behavior and focus. There are several different forms if you do not think he could manage swallowing a pill yet.My best advice is a good behavior plan for both call your psychologist or get a referral to one the sooner the better. A good psychologist can meet with your children and will be able to give you a plan for each child to try that is what ours had done. I also took to reading books like "setting Limits" I have to look for it for author but I have read it 2x and it gave me great advice. You want to nip the behaviors now before they worsen and they grow older .Hello, I will start by saying that our DD was diagnosed in the summer of 2006 after having a hard time in her afternoon kindergarten class. She was fidgetty and the teachers felt she did not "add quality to the discusses"...she would try to talk about other subjects. We spoke with her pediatritian and my MIL and I filled out a questionaire and then he referred us to a child psychologist that specializes in children with ADHD and other learning disabilities. His diagnosis involved 2hrs of testing which included an impulse control test and an IQ test. She was borderline impulsive and her IQ was very high. He felt some of it was that she was bored and the reason her grades were satisfactory where because of her intellegance level. In spring of 2007 we decided with her pediatrician that she should be put on something and have put her on 40mg of Strattera. Things seemed to be going well but we seem to be having more behavior issues at home as well as we are very mouthy. (she is 7 now) but she has been able to bond more with her peers and has made some lasting friendships. We are trying to figure out the best ways to discipline her as well as keep her on track. We also need to help her build confidence in her reading. She is wonderful with her math and science..she loves them, but with her reading she feels that she can not do it and she does do a wonderful job.
Now our son...He is 4 and was just diagnosed with ADHD this past fall. He has had tubes put in his ears at the age of 3 and he recieved glasses this summer. He was refered by his playschool to the EEE program and we worked with them as well as the same psychiatrist met with him and was not able to complete the IQ test because he could not sit still long enough to complete it; however what he did complete showed that he was highly intelligent. The impulse test he scored very high on that and with that they diagnosed him with ADHD. He is constantly on the run. He is like a little motor that does not shut off and he is up very early in the morning no matter what time we put him to bed. He also gets very frustrated and angers easily; although he is the sweetest boy you would ever know. He loves to hug and kiss you and always says he loves you. We spoke with the PED a few weeks ago and he wanted to put him on 2.5 mg of rittalin but the insurance company said not until he is 5. We don't know how to get his behavior under control either.
Any advice would be appreciated.