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You know, I've periodically meant to look for a daycare message board.  I remember running across one for daycare teachers once, but it was more for people who worked at a center, which fine for a lot of things but there's a lot that's different for a home provider.  I also have parents who complain if I have to take off- I know it irritates some of them if I'm sick too, but they at least have the decency not to complain about that.   Go ahead and pm me if you want- I don't know a lot of people who do daycare so I'm always looking for someone to chat with.

Sorry Sometimes I don't think about how it sounds to other people.

I want to say it was Strattera that she was on, none of the other ones I've read about on here sound familiar.  I'm definitely making an appointment for her. She's older now so she may be able to tolerate it better.

Thanks

nope dont apologize.

Strattera can be taken at night or the dose split (which is what we do) to reduce side effects.

Great thank you!!  That sounds like a better plan. Got an appt for Tuesday :)

Hello!!  I'm a newbie but hope to get to know you all better.

I have 3 children, the youngest being a 10 y.o DD. I (nor my husband) has officially been diagnosed as having ADHD but I've known for years that I totally fit the criteria for it.  I've read many books and have realized that my husband's "weird quirks" are more than likely ADHD also.  Our DD was diagnosed in 1st grade, we tried medication and that didn't work. Mainly because we didn't give it enough time but I hated listening to her cry everyday that she took it that her stomach and head hurt and she was tired all the time.  So, we took her off of it and have tried many naturapathic substitutes. She got better for awhile but since she started 5th grade things have gone downhill.  The kicker was at their conferences in November.  The school had adopted a new "student led" conference and oh my  gosh!  That was absolutely painful!  I knew that she gets off task easily ( I do too) but I can't even explain how I felt at that moment other than I wanted to scream " HELLO!!!  WHERE ARE YOU?!?!?!"  It was very clear that we were going to have to go back to the dr. and get meds because she can't afford to get behind, middle school is creaping up on us soon. There were/are other issues that happened earlier in the year that we are still dealing with that I know are a big distraction for her, which I don't know if it's the main reason things have slipped or the ADHD or both. Short version: a man/leadership instructor from my kids' taekwando school tried to kidnap her in April 07. He's been in jail since May in the mental health ward but we have yet to go to trial since it keeps getting continued.  She had to go to a "kids court" thing to get prepared to testify- IN SEPTEMBER!? She did not like it at all, and was very upset that she had to go.  Very irritating, but off task.

Our household is crazy too which doesn't help her either.  I have a daycare during the  day, and I am a hairstylist in the evenings and weekends. My own ADHD issues makes me say "Sure I can do that" to anything thrown at me. So now I've been head of the PTA at my daughter's school for 3 years, which includes all those fun carnivals, fundraisers etc.. Every year I say I'm going to quit, but end up taking it all on in the fall again when nobody else steps up to the plate. My husband is the superintendent of a construction company and is rarely home too.  This doesn't make a good recipe for success for anyone involved in our family.  Like I said previously, I've read many books on ADHD and know our whole  family needs to take a step back and pare down our schedule. It also says to help the child be successful, us as parents need to be consistent and help organize the child's world etc.     SO FINALLY my point of all this rambling.....  HOW are we supposed to help her get organized if we can't even get ourselves organized and stay on task? 
I know from her personality she'll do something amazing with her life and for others. Tell her there's no possible way that something can happen, and she'll figure out a way for it TO happen.  We need the tools to help channel that in the right direction.

I hope this made some sense!

glo

WOW!!! I'm tired reading your post . Just kidding. You sure do have a lot on your plate.

Now about your daughter, the poor kid. what a horrible thing to happen to her. My heart breaks hearing this. Is she in any counseling?

 My daughters school does those student lead conferences too, must be the "new thing".

I think it's worth taking her to the doctors, there are so many mediation options out there, you should be able to find something that works for her without terrible side effects. It took us years, but we've finally found a good place using Strattera. FOR US, no side effects, basically just "takes the edge" off her symptoms. Enough for her to be doing well in school and at home.

Good luck, it sounds like you know what to do. May not hurt to get some hlep for yourself also! Welcome to the board.

Hi and Welcome!

You sound a lot like me!  I was dx'ed after my son 1.5 yrs ago.  I too struggle with how to help my son get/stay organized when I have sooooooo much trouble with it myself.  I also run a home daycare- chaos stimulates the brain .  I don't work in the evenings, but I am in school part time, the fundraiser coordinator for my daughter's Brownie troop, and the treasurer for my son's cubscout pack. 

I'd have to agree that you might want to give meds another try.  When you find something that works it well worth the time, effort, and a few stomaches.  Counseling is a great recommendation for any child with adhd, but even more so when there's been any sort of trauma- that alone could cause attention and focus problems in any child so it may be causing her symptoms to be worse than they otherwise would be.

I also wanted to ask if you'd considered seeking a dx/treatment for yourself?  My house runs much more smoothly since I've been medicated- I was no help to my son before.  Constantly getting on his case for stuff I did (or didn't do) myself. 

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OH MY GOSH!!!  Jaderock54 that just made my day!!  And that's totally true about the chaos, I work best under those situations.  One thing that's hard for me is, during all of these fuctions I'm in charge of  peope are constantly asking what they can help with. If I  don't know where I'm going I have a hard time telling other people what the next step is or how to help me.  I have Restless Leg Syndrome too so I don't get to bed/sleep before 2am.  I thought I read somewhere that a lot of people with RLS have ADHD too.  I do know that I need to go to the dr for all of this also but here's my "poor me"....  Since you are a childcare provider as well, you may get this too.   My DC parents can take time off for whatever, even down to getting their Christmas shopping finished, but I need to go to the dr or ask for a day off to go on a field trip with my kids and they are ticked off. Even though there's always a back up because my cousin and sister both have daycares too and we all live next door to one another.  I could go on for days about that stuff~  is there a message board for that?    Sorry..can I ask you a question about that other than here?

Anyway, I had tried to keep as much information away from my daughter about the intent behind the kidnapping. But, since my mom has a theraputic foster home and goes to all of these classes and thinks she's a therapist, I think she talked to my daughter and gave more information to her than she needed to know recently, so she's more stressed out about it than she was before. Which makes me mad, because she didn't need that info.  I have been thinking about counseling but our insurance will only pay for so much and we don't have the money to pay for it.  Although, I have been talking to our advocate to see if it can be paid for by "the crazy person" as some sort of restitution, but I think we have to ask for that at trial (which as been "continued 7 times so far).

HAHA!! My husband does that, getting on the kids case when he doesn't even do stuff himself, I try not do it that much because I am totally aware of that issue. I've been reading book after book trying to get as much info as possible! 

Thank you so much for the help! Don't know if I've even made a point here