teen should i take things away | ADHD Information

My son has always hated school He is in high school now and still struggles. My husband says I should take away important things to make him do his school work better, I have done this in the past but now with the teen attitude i don't think it works, it just pisses him off . I go to school and try to help him by talking with the teachers . My feeling is shouldn't he enjoy being a teen with all it pressures and he will make it through school he always does, even with having to go to summer school I just want him to happy and succeed. adhd is hard enough without your parent being a constant bully on you. 

I agree with you. I think it is mostly more effective to offer rewards for good effort rather than punishing by taking things away. Rewards don't have to be big either. Sometimes it can be something as simple as agreeing to take your teen to the store to get something he wants, or letting him have a friend over, after he's done a good job studying for a test, finishing homework, or getting his work organized.
I think it's also helpful to encourage his dreams for the future and help him see that doing well in high school will help him move toward his goal or dream for the future. In general I think it's more helpful and successful to focus and build on the positives.
Not easy though. I have a teenage son (he does NOT have ADHD). Fortunately, he is doing great in school and has a lot of good things going for him, but he sure can drive me crazy, too!
Good luck!
< =text/>_popupControl(); I agree. Motivate positively instead of reprimanding negatively and you will see better results, while maintaining a good relationship with him. You don't want him to become alienated from you.

My son's only six, but he's always done better when he's trying to reach a goal rather than avoid a punishment.  And it's the little extras that he wants the most - like me driving him to school rather than going on the bus one morning.  I know, it won't last long.  But if you're going to go the restriction route, I'd try to do some goal reaching work at the same time, just to keep it from going completely negative.

Corrina

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I see both being well. "Everything in moderation".  Sometimes use negative response to wart off negative attention tendencies. Natural Consequences also only go so far. I think it's a whatever works approach, and keep trying to show positive rewards are available. just Talking about natuaral consequinces from an adult point of view sometimes too. How being an adult sometime reward isn't always as exciting as a touch down. Those even mundane tasks are their own reward. Like taking out the trash. It would be very annoying to smell it all week. Grades that you may have to live with for a lifetime.