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It sounds like the bond he's formed with this teacher is helping him to get through the day in an ovewhelming environment.  Do you know why he prefers this teacher over others?  Maybe there is something she does or says that makes him more comfortable?  It really sounds like he's having trouble because his routine is being disrupted- I know that my son has bad days when his routine is off, so I can imagine that it would be worse for a child with asperger's.

I would ask the teacher if she could let your son know in advance when she will not be there if it's a planned absence.  Being prepared might help him some.  When it's not possible to let him know ahead of time do you think it would be possible to make sure that another teacher (always the same one) will tell him personally when he gets there and maybe together they could develop a special "alternate" routine?  

I know that's a lot to ask the school to do, but if his behavior's enough of a problem then they may be willing.  How old is he, btw? 

Thanks for that. I think he likes this teacher because she is very nice to my son she speaks to understand him, she has had my son in her class for 2 years now so i think he is just use to her. My son is 6 years old. 

Im so frustrated at the moment, my son (ADHD and suspected Asperger Syndrome hes on 18mg concerta) attends a mainstream school, he seems to get attached to 1 teacher and only listens to her it is bad because when she isnt there my son is gettting angry and frustrated and ends up in trouble and getting time outs. I dont know what i can to help him and school dosent seem to have any suggestions either. Ive been told that when this 1 teacher isnt there his behaviour gets really bad, hes disrubtive very loud and doesnt listen to word anyone says to him. Im not sure what to do. He says the noise of the class "does his head in" and he does get tired easy at school. Please help x x x x

 

Some kids, particularly gifted, are very sensitive to noise and it overstimulates them and affects their concentration. My son will NOT go to a movie theatre and he is 8. You could try earplugs (not too good) noise quieting headphones, or see if they'd allow an MP3 player with classical music. My son's teacher allows any of these things to help kids focus - I think all schools should - at least the muffling headphones. Is he very sensitive to smells too? My son is, which is pretty common for these kids. Good luck - he shouldn't have to be uncomfortable at school. I've heard all the diagnoses and my son probably has at least 3 or 4 - he's on 3 meds, but my goal now is to help him fit in and be around people that are good for him. I guess I'm burned out on chasing down diagnosis and labels. danielle are there aides in the class? Maybe they could try to have one shadow him more than the others so that when the teacher is out, the aide will still be there. Does he get any OT? OT's should be helpful for coming up with ways to help him with these transitioning issues. It's SO common with these kids.

told that when this 1 teacher isnt there his behaviour gets really bad, hes disrubtive very loud and doesnt listen to word anyone says to him. Im not sure what to do. He says the noise of the class "does his head in" and he does get tired easy at school. Please help

He is telling you what is wrong. Kids with asperger's often have sensory imput difficulties.  The regular classroom noise may be too much for him.  Believe it or not, the humming from the flourescent lights drives my kid over the edge. Aspies also have difficulty with appropriate tone of voice.   They can talk loudly when everyone else is whispering.

   Please don't allow the school to give you the cop out of 'we don't know what to do'.  It is their job to find out how to help your son. Aspie kids usually meltdown when extremely frustrated or sensory overloaded.  They do not accept any change of thier routine easily. 

  Here is a site to check out.  You could copy it and send it to the classroom teachers.

Some Extremely Reasonable Suggestions for “Typical” Parents, Family, and Teach

Here's a site that may help more.

Sensory Issues ~ AS Characteristics Hi no my son doesnt get oc, he has only just been dianoignsed so im not sure about anything. So anything else that i may need to no would be great

is he on an IEP yet? This will allow special accommodations for him, as well as OT therapy through the school.

He may need an aide eventually. It sounds like this 1 teacher has been like an aide to/for him.

 

Requst , in writing, a meeting and evaluation with school. Research ahead and think of accomodations he will/may need and bring with you. Some schools are great and will start some accomodations while waiting for the evaluation process. Be sure to request an OT evaluation along with academic and behavioral.

Yeah hes got IEP  im not sure what it is for? school dont explian that much to us. I think a pyschologist is going into school to see my son and his teacher well they refer us to Oc?you should try to get as educated as you can. Find out who is seeinghim and for what reasons. The psychologist will doubtfully refer to OT (occupational therapy), you should request that evaluation yourself. You need to be your childs advocate, no one cares as much or is as dedicated as you. Others (school, therapists, etc) always have another agenda, not to be cynical, but this is their job not their family.

In order to have an IEP, you would need to be present at meetings, have signed documents, etc.

did this all happen??

If so, the school is responsible to follow the IEP, Individual Education Plan, to teach your child. The IEP will tell you what services they are going to provide your child with, how many times a week and for how long.

I would call the special education department for your school and ask them if your son has an IEP and ask to view it ( you should have a copy.)