I found one at a special ADHD clinic in the next town over. Unfortunatey, It is very expensive and not covered by insurance. I wish our school did something. In elementary school (she is 6th grade now), the guidance counselor took it on herself to have a "lunchtime" buddies group. It was in 4th grade, then they got another gc. I don't know how much it helped my dd but I liked that she was in it. I sold her on it by saying she was needed to help the other kids. (she wants to be a teacher) It seems like the guidance counsellors in Middle school are very busy so I have not asked about it. I might at our next 504 meeting (next year).
Do you have a counsler/therapist? Our's does "roll playing". We invite kids over all of the time and my son just goes off and does his own thing then he can't understand why "his friend" ends up playing with my other son. He gave me a list a mile long of people he HAD to have at his birthday party them when they all wanted to go outside sledding he wouldn't go and didn't seem to understand that he should do something they want sometimes. This is probably why he doesn't get invited places like the other one does. I feel your pain williemom. (Is the counsler helping us? I don't know.) If you come up with any ides I'd like to know. my daughter goes to a social skills group as part of her IEP. Every other week, a group of 7th and 8th graders. They work on taking turns in conversation, eye contact....etc., she has been doing them since 2nd grade through the school as part of her IEP. They do help, every year she makes progress.