The question really is- is chaos drawn to us, or are we drawn to chaos? 

I don't tend to have a lot of chaos that's beyond my control, but I do seem to need to maintain a certain level of chaos.  I have a home daycare- home alone all day with 5 kids under 5. And since that and raising a couple kids (one with adhd) wasn't enough I went back to school to get my degree.  The month of January was relatively calm because I didn't have class, so it should have been wonderful- except I was bored. 

I've decided I thrive on chaos.

My SIL is one of those people who has a full day, every single day with charities, volunteering, parties, meetings, bible study, ....... you get the picture.  And her house is ALWAYS in perfect order.  She knows where every single thing in her house is and can remember where to put it back.  

And she just glides through her day.  It absolutely baffles me. I would be worn completely and utterly out if I tried to keep up with her. 

But frankly, she is absolutely the most boring, dull-witted person I have ever met. Nothing unexpected ever flys out of her mouth, her hair is never out of place, her clothes are always perfect, and never ever stained.  But I do love her.  She makes me like myself. 

I, on the other hand, live in a constant state of chaos.  My house, chaotic.  My kids, don't get me started. My life, a veritable easter parade of chaos, interesting people (mentally, physically, emotionally) from every single walk of life (we're talking country club set to tattooed/pierced musicians) and interesting situations. 

Do I look for the chaos or does it find me?  Hard to say.  I wouldn't say I invite it but if there is something interesting about the person, place, thing I'm open to it. My SIL, on the other hand, would never even consider talking to, going to, or doing 1/10th of the things I've done.  

I think we, as ADDers, tend to seek out experiences and people that challenge us.  I think we get a certain 'rush' from the chaos.