ADHD is making me nuts!!
Hi everyone, I've been reading some of your posts and they are all really good! It's nice to find a site where there is not alot of parent bashing for putting their kids on meds. 
I am a woman with adhd, and the mother of a 10 yr old with adhd. I guess i'm here because I am totally lost now. my son is becoming more agressive and it seems the more agressive he gets the more agressive I get (although I am trying new tacts with him I ocassionally fall into the same old pattern). I need help!!! he is failing math, reading and science. Math I can understand, reading and science I don't, I did well in those two. Math always befuddled me. Too much time and concentration was required. I have tried everything to get his grades up. He brought his reading grade up from a 56 to a 70 in one week because I threatned to take baseball (his favorite thing in the world away from him) I have spent the last two weeks looking for special schools, but I don't want to send him away, although some of these schools look like great vacation packages. One I looked at was $40,780/yr wow it takes me a year and a half to make that. So that's out. By the time he finishes college I'll have spent at least 4 mil on DR's, meds and therapy and schooling. There has got to be away to get through to him before he's 20 and has screwed up everything he touches and has no self confidence left. I'm 40 and I'm just now getting a grip on my ADHD.
Oh, I have one more question: do any of you Adult ADHDers not remember most of your childhood? I can remember moments but not a lot of them.
You didn't say whether your son is on any meds or not. My daughter had a very hard time in school until we put her on meds. The focus was better, and the grades came up. The meds allowed her inteligence to show through.
I was never on meds as a child. I had no problem with math and science in school. English and history were my Albatross. How boring. I couldn't read more than three lines without getting lost, mentally drifting away, or falling asleep.
Schwep
AD is not all doom and gloom.A positive outlook is the most important thing you can have for your child (and you).
Accepting AD is how he is is most important for your child. Enlisting teachers to give him support is vital. (most are educated inunderstanding and strategies to aid your child).
Finally, your child will need strong, clear unconflictingboundaries to aid him make sense of his life. This does not mean being an ogre; but consistency is vital.
There are lots of workshops and courses availible to help you, and groups to go where you can share your lifestyle.
Sending your child away may not be the best option. Your child needs you, and your support.
It may not be easy. I have an AD/autistic child myself who I raised as a single person, in a strange country, with no family or support (financial or otherwise).
Keep asking questions and look ater yourself.
Get involved with your son's life. I can be the most rewarding thing that God ever gave you.
The teachers and I talk daily!! We are always trying to come up with new methods that will work. Behavior has really been an issue since he has switched meds from Ritalin LA to concerta/straterra. Angry emotional outbursts and excessive touching talking and arguing. I am involved we go to baseball 3x a week if not more, we do lots of things together, we really love each other tons! I just lose my cool more often thant I think I should. I'm counting to ten, trying to make sure his attitude does not affect mine, time out ,spanking, re-direction all the standard stuff. I'm just starting to lose it because his defiance is getting out of hand. well it sounds as if you have a good relationship...that's an achievement..but the problems are too tough to tackle just by love...meds are not working rite? i dont know...mayb dose is not enough...mayb his metabolism isn't slow enough. anyway...agression is something you must work on...when i got aggressive I would never direct it at someone else..i would self harm myself or my possessions.. I think in time you do grow out of it. Bring your son to a psychiatrist and they will have better answers for you. My experience tells is that with adhd we tend to be impulsive sometimes irritable.. so anger is harder to supress when you have adhd. i can't keep a mood inside. it has to leash out some how. Maybe there's a technique that helps with this...it's a miracle if it works though. ther's a lot to be learned by everyone who has adhd,.
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