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Hi Tammy,

It sounds like a really tough situation, especially since he's with dad so you don't have a lot of influence.  Can he get into a therapy program so that you can get some help with this?  Will your health insurance cover a psychologist?  We have found that getting outside help has made a huge difference.  Just knowing that there is someone around to bounce ideas of off helps so much.

Good luck.

Joy2
For approximately 7 years my son has been a regular at daycare. Diagnosed at age 3 with severe ADHD and medicated ever since; I, a single mother during those 7-years had no other choice but to admit him into a daycare setting; I was the only one bringing home the bacon so to speak. So within those years the brilliant side of ADHD surfaced on more than one occasion. To make a long story short, my son learned how to buck the system so that he could go home or get kicked out. He hated daycare. I was not aware of this as he was growing up---never could get him to open up to me emotionally. Currently, he has and over the xmas holidays he told me that he hated daycare. When asked why his response was that they would not let him do anything. Like what? I asked.....and he went on to say, well, when I would get off the bus I would just want to sit in a corner and rest, close my eyes, read or write or perhaps draw on a peice of paper. But the care givers would not let him do any of that because they were on a schedule--had to do this or had to that--
The habitual behavior that my son got himself into has carried over into public education. He hates school, hates to do his school work and because of that he thinks that if he mis-behaves he will get to go home or get kicked out. He does what he can do avoid work. No matter the consequences. He does not understand the long term effects of his current behavior, HOW do you teach your children the long term effects of what they do now? How do I re-program my child's thinking? How do we teach our ADHD children that instead of focusing on ONE thing (nothing else matters) we include all things? For example, my son just had his 9th birthday--he resides in MS with his father (another long story) and because he knew that I was coming to visit him he has been in trouble at school for the past 3 weeks. When the personal asks him why he is doing what he is getting into trouble doing his response was because I want to see my mother. See? He focuses on ONE thing only and doesn't think about the other important things in his life at the moment. I think he needs some intensive training on how to think, control issues, etc. Anyone with some info on program, services whether in MS (mississippi) or Texas would be much appreciated! Until then....hug our ADHDERs
Tammy

I second Joy2's suggestion about a psychologist if you can afford it.  My DS just started seeing one and while I can't say he has helped my son (it is still very early in the process), it has been helpful for me to have someone to bounce ideas off of who also knows my son but isn't emotionally attached to him like me :).  All that said, not all psychologists are good (just like doctors) so finding a good one is key.

Good luck!