Any parents out there with disorders? | ADHD Information

[QUOTE=HorseMom]I am 99% sure my husband is ADHD. I am probably mildly dyslexic and somewhat on the ADHD spectrum. Some stuff just never gets done - it could be that I am mildly ADHD or perhaps just too overwhelmed with managing the house w/ a ADHD kid and husband as well as all the volunteer things that I do.

Thank goodness for EFT and autobill paying... [/QUOTE]

lol! I pay all my bills online. It's easy to get overwhelmed when you are raising a child.

I know it's really tough sometimes for me because of the bipolar. Sometimes before my son and I talk about something he has done wrong, I have to go to my room and get myself together. That way I don't talk angrily or say something I shouldn't say. It's emotionally draining but I can't see it any other way. I just love that boy so much..it makes it all worth it.
I am Dyslexic, but dd's ADHD is not hereditary( it is Autoimmune). The only thing that she got from me that caused it is bad Eustachian tubes.

When I got Right-brained Children in a Left-Brained World by Jeffery Freed - to read about ADHD for my dd. I realized that I'm right brained - it was a stunning discovery for me, it explained many things - especially about school for me as a kid - about how I am. But I'm not ADHD, nor is my dh.

My brother otoh has some personality quirks that are SO reminiscent of my dd, it makes me wonder if there's a new dx out there waiting to describe them - not Asperger's but something along those lines, yet unnamed. They seem to march to the same drummer - this aside from the ADHD, I mean.

I am pretty sure I have some type or degree of add but I have been VERY lucky to find a job where I am expected to manage several departments and jump from task to task. I start new projects then hand them off to be finished by someone else. It's perfect for me and I'm think I'm pretty good at knowing what is going on everywhere all of the time. I am actually afraid to get an official diagnosis. I know it doesn't mean that I have to try meds but I think I'd want to and I wonder if meds would make me unable to do my job. Sounds weird I know!I am 99% sure my husband is ADHD. I am probably mildly dyslexic and somewhat on the ADHD spectrum. Some stuff just never gets done - it could be that I am mildly ADHD or perhaps just too overwhelmed with managing the house w/ a ADHD kid and husband as well as all the volunteer things that I do.

Thank goodness for EFT and autobill paying...

My husband and my stepson both have ADHD and I have Hypermobility Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome so life in our house is never dull!!

I also suffer from depression and I had PND when Lewis was born so it does get pretty strained at time.

I have to say that I always pay my bills and do my grocery shopping online too which is not only convenient but as my disability limits me greatly, it also helps me cope with day-to-day life!! God bless the Internet!!

So I am just wondering if there are any parents that have a disorder themselves. I am bipolar and I blame myself sometimes for my son having ADHD. When he has a really bad day I can't help but do it. I heard that some people believe that ADHD is hereditary. So, anyway...I am just curious. mam2lewis my daughter has a connective tissue disorder, probably Hypermobility Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. It is still uncategroized, we've just ruled out the "biggies". Sorry unrelated to the thread, I just dont know anyone else who has it! [QUOTE=Crunchy Frog]

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That sounds like something I would be interested in! Thanks for mentioning it.
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Don't blame yourself. Think of it this way- you probably don't blame your parents for your bi-polar, and your son will not blame you for his ADHD. As a mother, I know how easy it is to feel guilty for things that are beyond our control, but it is what it is. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to have "normal" children- both of mine are just plain weird most of the time. Then I realize life wouldn't be nearly as interesting.

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Thank you. It's hard sometimes. I just want to hug him and make everything okay and I can't always do that. It gets so frustrating.

As far as my bi-polar, I don't blame my mother but I wish she would accept it. I am pretty sure she has a dose of it herself. It would just be nice if she could see it for what it is.

When my youngest 2 dtrs were diagnosed. I of course thought they inherited from my husband. He is very gifted in his profession, but he himself will tell you he did not do well in school. He just didn't care. But as I read more information, I am realizing it is probably me. I did very well in school, but had periods in school and later in life where I just couldn't seem to get it together. I too thought maybe I was bi-polar or maybe dyslexic. At work I love to be busy, the more I have to do the better organized I am, but when I have a slow day, I just don't know what to do first. I have always been 'different.' I have always wondered if everyone second guesses themselves as much as I do. As I've got older I became more accepting of myself and not so worried about fitting in.

On top of that who would have thought I could have 2 daughters with ADHD who could be so different. My youngest is sloppy, disorganized, loud, impulsive, inattentive, insists on hugging everyone including her older sister who copes with her ADHD by being hyper organized, and very private. Can you imagine an argument between two girls, the younger who knew better that to go into her sister's room and is now yelling and upest with herself for doing what she knew she shouldn't and ther older sister who is equally melting down because the order in her room had been disrupted? With my oldest, who does not have ADHD, but is a teenager adding her 2 cents and not very helpfully.

While reading a book on girls with ADHD my oldest dtr was reading over my shoulder. One of the check list was 'Seems to march to the beat of her own drumer." My oldest said well our whole family does that, we'd be boring otherwise.

I guess that sums it up. Our life is never easy. I seems like we go from one battle to another, whether its trying to get interventions or just to get along in school, or trying to get along with each other. I'm not trying to be flip, but if I didn't take it one day at a time, and not worry so hard about 'fitting in,' I don't think I'd have my sanity either.

Hubby and his family have adhd. Sister inlaw has panic attacks.

All his nephews are medicated.

I do have days that I wonder if I am adhd as well!!

I have ADHD- actually wasn't dx'ed until after my son was. Until then the doctor had thought it was depression and anxiety, but as it turns out it was all caused by my untreated ADHD.

Thre is definitely a genetic component. My brother has it, my aunt has it, I suspect my sister has it and I KNOW my mother has it even though she's not been diagnosed- just one of those glaringly obvious things.